How to meet gay friends? Not hook ups?

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    Aug 06, 2008 7:09 AM GMT
    Is there a site just to meet up with gay guys that could be potential friends? I know theres like manhunt and different sites like taht but is there any friendship type sites?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 06, 2008 7:40 AM GMT
    I think your on one of the best for developing gay friendships....

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    Aug 06, 2008 8:37 AM GMT
    Take hook ups out of your profile.
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:39 AM GMT
    I kind of just put everything up there.
  • cityguy39

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    Aug 06, 2008 12:53 PM GMT
    Step away from your computer, go outside into the world and join a gay social group. A book group, movie group etc. There are tons of groups for every interest out there depending on where you live, I would imagine it would be a bit more difficult in a rural setting.
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    Aug 06, 2008 2:48 PM GMT
    it's hard to find something like this on net.they always want you to do somthing

    PS:i agree with cityguy39
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    Aug 06, 2008 3:06 PM GMT
    please... gay men don't have friends...
    they have social circles. icon_eek.gif


    ...man, I feel sarcastic today, LOL

    Skip the sites, join a group.
  • gabriel29

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    Aug 06, 2008 3:08 PM GMT
    For me go out and meet people out site is to difficult..if I dont meet somebody on-line first I never meet the person. I'm to shy to join the group besides that I dont feel comfortable in the group..it is kind overwelming for me..
    I m not sure if you are in similar situation. Anyway good luck to you and me :-)
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    Aug 06, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    I've actually met all of my gay friends from gay.com. But, this was several years ago. That site seems to have changed recently. I talk to a couple people I met on here regularly that I consider friends and hope to meet in person some day soon. So, it's possible, it just takes time and effort.

    Like another poster said, I feel uncomfortable in large gay groups where I don't know anyone. That's why I never tend to do that. I'm trying to start doing that because the online thing here in Florida isn't working as well as it did in NYC. So, we'll see.

    I noticed your other thread about traveling and being in Allentown. Maybe try and chat up some people in NYC that want to meet friends. Then you have an excuse to drive into the city and hang out with them. I've driven to Allentown and back from NYC many times (yay Dorney), so you could easily make it a day trip on the weekend to save money. It's only like an hour and a half.
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    Aug 06, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    cityguy39 saidStep away from your computer, go outside into the world and join a gay social group. A book group, movie group etc. Ther are tons of groups for every interest out there depending where you live, I would imagine in would be a bit more difficult in a rural setting.


    Exactly. Get back to meeting people in person and get out there. Strike up a conversation and be clear about your intentions. Make it clear to whoever you are talking with that you are NOT interested in sex. With that question out of the way, the tone of the conversation will change and it's easier just to be freindly.
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    Aug 06, 2008 7:32 PM GMT


    Well jlk7jester,
    you're asking if there's a site for friendship, not how or where to make friends, so I'd recommend this one.

    Here's plug for RealJock. There are guys here of every adult age group. There are lots of forums; everything from fitness, diet and health to dating, relationships and sex info and talk. All of these men seem to have something in common. They want to be better, physically or/and mentally and get to know others that think this way, too. Some of them will be local to your town.

    Whether it's for the above topics, or just plain old making friends, be welcome and join in.

    -Doug
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    Aug 06, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
    Volunteer for organizations that have a lot of gay men in them.