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    Aug 06, 2008 8:26 AM GMT
    While many people always talk about some physical aspect of their person they would like to change, I don't think I have heard many speak of their inner self with regards to the same desire.

    So how about it? Is there some NON-PHYSICAL thing about you that you would like to change/improve upon?

    Me: I am working on self image issues (who isn't lol) and also my tendancy to take things to far sometimes (IE: jokes or crushes). I also think I try too hard to get people to like me sometimes, and then get down on myself when they don't return the desire of friendship/romance.
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    Aug 06, 2008 1:25 PM GMT
    LOL, same here, Freaky.

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    Aug 06, 2008 1:33 PM GMT
    I am always trying to improve, albeit in very small steps. I used to have serious self-esteem issues (a long, boring and complicated story why) but after I moved away from home I gradually started improving. Coupled with accepting my sexuality (which I used to fight tooth and nail) my self-mage improved tremendously in my 20's, and strangely enough took another leap after becoming HIV+. IDK, I think it focused me and forced me to jettison things or people in my life that were not life-affirming or petty.

    Now I am much more comfortable in my own skin and deal with other people better. I don't stress out easily or sweat the small things in life. One thing I definitely would like to improve is the ability to be more patient with people that are willfully ignorant!icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 1:40 PM GMT
    Yeah for sure! I know my personality is not as good as id like it to be...I try to make some changes to my self, I used to be extremedly funny/arrogant I just thought it was fun, but my friends hated it so i stoped it.

    Sometimes people feel good with them self, most of the time, and they dont tent to be very flexible about changing who they are, but when you have friends, family and most important when you have a relationship, then you should try to be less selfish and not just feel good with your self but change your perspective and feel good with each other, thats the only way i think someone can succeed to be happy, but its just my personal opinion.

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    Aug 06, 2008 1:57 PM GMT
    Currently working on my self-worth. It breeds other sorts of problems.
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    Aug 06, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    Sometimes i'd like to not be so extreme. There is no grey area with me... i either love something, or i hate it.
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    Aug 06, 2008 2:24 PM GMT
    As for me I would say, I need to stay more focused on "stuff" as well as working on being less aggressive/explosive.
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    Aug 06, 2008 2:36 PM GMT
    ursamajor saidYour new pic is adorable.

    Sedative saidLOL, same here, Freaky.

    Self-image... and Self-Confidence!


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    Aug 06, 2008 2:36 PM GMT
    Well throughout most of middle school and a little of high school, i was an obnoxious, whiny, know-it-all type kid who thought he was smarter than everyone and talked down to all of his classmates.

    Needless to say, I didn't have many friends. So shortly before my 16th, i decided to stop holding myself in higher regard than everyone else and just tried to be a friendlier person. A month of going from bratty to nice worked; i soon had a whole new group of friends, and school became a much more positive experience.

    Since high school, I have actively tried to improve myself as a person by working on being tolerant, accepting, and nice to others, whether i like them or not. Maintaining an optimistic attitude has changed my outlook on life, and I now enjoy life and the people who surround me much more icon_biggrin.gif

    SO as for furthering myself now; im currently focusing on my body mostly. But I still strive to be the most accepting, kind, and educated person I can be. I also am trying to work on my sarcasm; as much as i love being sarcastic, it can be a little hurtful. Haha so now i try to be sarcastic but silly, rather than acrimonious.
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    Aug 06, 2008 2:39 PM GMT
    Please, do you every really stop working on yourself? I'm horrible at buying crap that I don't need, clothes, shoes, gadgets, whatever... if it's new and the latest, greatest, hottest thing - I'll buy it. Keep me away from the "What Every Man Must Have" section in Men's Health.

    And as I rapidly age, my memory is dying - I can't remember anything prior to the past 12 hours.

    Oh, and I have an unhealthy obsession with famous people, such as myself. My husband and friends tell me I live in a fantasy world and the flashes of light I see aren't actually from cameras and that I might need to seek medical advice.

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    Aug 06, 2008 2:46 PM GMT
    I've found that working on my 'inner' issues, that its far more effective to work on a grander scale rather than a specific issue.

    Case in point: I've always had self image issues. Because these were both self inflicted as well as reinforced externally, I tried working on this as a specific issue. The problem then arises that I may be trying to eliminate the symptom rather than the cause. While my efforts weren't totally futile, they certainly didn't achieve the results I'd strived for.

    Therefor, my focus is simply to try to be more altruistic. Not 'appear to be' altruistic, but honestly and truthfully altruistic. A tall order, yes, but one worth striving for and one that actually eliminates the need to address issues like self image.
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    Aug 06, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    BearCub17 said

    Since high school, I have actively tried to improve myself as a person by working on being tolerant, accepting, and nice to others, whether i like them or not. Maintaining an optimistic attitude has changed my outlook on life, and I now enjoy life and the people who surround me much more icon_biggrin.gif

    SO as for furthering myself now; im currently focusing on my body mostly. But I still strive to be the most accepting, kind, and educated person I can be. I also am trying to work on my sarcasm; as much as i love being sarcastic, it can be a little hurtful. Haha so now i try to be sarcastic but silly, rather than acrimonious.


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    Aug 06, 2008 3:02 PM GMT
    I'm working on accepting that I'll always be a punkass brat to some degree, but I'm also trying to moderate the punkassedness. Thinking before I speak (or write) isn't always my strong point, so I'm working on that, too.
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    Aug 06, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    I'd like to be less caring. I care too much.
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    Aug 06, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
    Oh, that reminds me - I trust people way too much and I always try to find the good in everyone, no matter how bad.
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    Aug 06, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    I'm working on the fact that I cannot control everything. DAMN!
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    Aug 06, 2008 6:28 PM GMT
    I dont like jelousy and Im working on it. I am also a very sensitive guy and I over look things when I shouldn't! So being less sensitive icon_biggrin.gif.
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    Aug 06, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    The defeatist attitude I have which tends to creep up when things are going well.
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    Aug 06, 2008 6:49 PM GMT
    I am working on the way I think. I just recently read/watched The Secret. I recommend this book to everyone icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 7:00 PM GMT
    my sub-conscious desire to sabotage myself
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    Aug 06, 2008 7:06 PM GMT
    Im working on not being so self-conscious in public. I have this inner fat nerd inside that needs to go away more often. But it's getting better....icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 7:06 PM GMT
    I am working on concealing my innate perfection cuz it makes other people feel bad about themselves, and from what I can see, they have enough to feel bad about already.


    oh, I crack me up! ... icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 7:40 PM GMT
    I can be pedantic and teacherly when people don't really want to hear that. (See, even now I used the word "pedantic", sigh). It's a symptom of me thinking I'm uniquely qualified to make the world a better place if I just train everyone I come in contact with to think logically.

    But it mostly just comes across as annoying and cranky. Like McCain, sorta. I think we'd get along well, come to think of it.

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    Aug 06, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
    All the issues mentioned I think most people deal with from time to time, or in certain situations (myself included). What I work on internally is to try to be aware and grateful for everything that I have.

    When selfish, insecure, angry/resentful, jealous/envious and any other such thoughts come into my mind, I try to quickly focus on anything that is good in my life and anything I should be grateful for (shelter, food, clothes, loved ones)- and the "negative" thought fades away (not always, but I try).