Seems like every guy is out for sex..

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    Jul 13, 2012 7:13 PM GMT
    Like my subject states. Every guy I've talked to, EVERY one of them. That's all they want. Do you not have the decency to at least go on a date first? I'm trying to find a genuine guys who has some things in common with me as well as differences. I view life as an unwritten book. I just recently started up this site, so I am fairly new. Just need some thoughts and opinions. Thanks!
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    Jul 13, 2012 7:24 PM GMT
    If every guy I spoke to only wanted sex and not a single one wanted at least 1 date, I'd probably take a long hard look in the mirror and ask myself why I felt drawn to those kinds of guys (or they to me).
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    Jul 13, 2012 7:27 PM GMT
    You know? I actually did. I just started this site probably a week and a half ago. I am starting to learn the basics. I get messages starting off with, "You are hot. Wanna fuck?" I look at the pictures I've posted and non of them are sexual or degrading. I don't know. I just came out of the closet not too long ago and this is how I am welcomed into the gay world. Interesting..
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    Jul 13, 2012 7:35 PM GMT
    Donnyboiii saidYou know? I actually did. I just started this site probably a week and a half ago. I am starting to learn the basics. I get messages starting off with, "You are hot. Wanna fuck?" I look at the pictures I've posted and non of them are sexual or degrading. I don't know. I just came out of the closet not too long ago and this is how I am welcomed into the gay world. Interesting..


    It's not the "gay world" you should be concerned about. It's the internet. Soliciting random anonymous sex never seemed so easier with a few key strokes.

    I'm gradually learning myself, but your best luck would be to go find a group or activity in real life and search from there. And by "search", I mean nonchalantly hoping you'll bump into someone you'll like, while keeping expectations low. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    Donnyboiii saidLike my subject states. Every guy I've talked to, EVERY one of them. That's all they want. Do you not have the decency to at least go on a date first? I'm trying to find a genuine guys who has some things in common with me as well as differences. I view life as an unwritten book. I just recently started up this site, so I am fairly new. Just need some thoughts and opinions. Thanks!


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    Jul 13, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    Ehhhh, eventually a genuine guy will show up. Don't get me wrong I am only 20 and by no means trying to settle down. I have a whole world to see and now that I am openly gay, make that TWO whole worlds to see haha. Just wanting to make some friends who understand my thoughts and views icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    Donnyboiii saidLike my subject states. Every guy I've talked to, EVERY one of them. That's all they want. Do you not have the decency to at least go on a date first? I'm trying to find a genuine guys who has some things in common with me as well as differences. I view life as an unwritten book. I just recently started up this site, so I am fairly new. Just need some thoughts and opinions. Thanks!


    Oh my GOD I have the same fucking problem! Is it because I'm a bottom? A guy who can only think with his dick isn't a man at all; just a little boy who won't grow up. Keep looking; it's all we can do, and maybe we'll find an actual gentleman meant for us.
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    Jul 13, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    Amen! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 13, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
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    Donnyboiii saidYou know? I actually did. I just started this site probably a week and a half ago. I am starting to learn the basics. I get messages starting off with, "You are hot. Wanna fuck?" I look at the pictures I've posted and non of them are sexual or degrading. I don't know. I just came out of the closet not too long ago and this is how I am welcomed into the gay world. Interesting..


    It's not the "gay world" you should be concerned about. It's the internet. Soliciting random anonymous sex never seemed so easier with a few key strokes.

    I'm gradually learning myself, but your best luck would be to go find a group or activity in real life and search from there. And by "search", I mean nonchalantly hoping you'll bump into someone you'll like, while keeping expectations low. icon_smile.gif



    this. straight men are no better to women and women are the same, just mostly more subtle. don't judge the gay world by internet boards.
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    Jul 13, 2012 11:32 PM GMT
    Men are sexual. Be grateful that they're even hitting you up for sex. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 14, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    One thing I have noticed is a lot of people do not want to be in a relationship with a very attractive person, they would definitely sleep with them,but relationship wise it seems people gravitate towards average looking people.
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    Jul 14, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    TheLetterD saidMen are sexual. Be grateful that they're even hitting you up for sex. icon_confused.gif


    Haha. Sorry. We're apparently worth more as human beings than you are. Dickhead.
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    Jul 14, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    TheLetterD saidMen are sexual. Be grateful that they're even hitting you up for sex. icon_confused.gif


    That's kinda like saying, "Be grateful the flies are attracted to your picnic food."
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    u know most of d ppl on gay sites r just sexseekers. it's really difficult 2 find genuine frieds here. However i generally go for easy going ppl who want 2 b as friends
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    synestheticxserenade said
    TheLetterD saidMen are sexual. Be grateful that they're even hitting you up for sex. icon_confused.gif


    Haha. Sorry. We're apparently worth more as human beings than you are. Dickhead.


    OMFG THAT WAS SO RACIST
  • Carlos654

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    Jul 20, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    you know what, i have the same kinda problem except that it doesnt happen on internet, it happens in real life face to face. ITS NOT ONLY THE INTERNET. If you go to a gay club you'll fin out that the environment is very superficial, people will hit on you just to fuck with you that night. It has happened to me in like three different gay clubs that a guy comes up to me and just like that asks "hey you wanna fuck?" or "you a top or a bttm?" WTF! this world needs to change a little. Straight world isnt different at all....so its not only the gays...
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
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    synestheticxserenade said
    TheLetterD saidMen are sexual. Be grateful that they're even hitting you up for sex. icon_confused.gif


    Haha. Sorry. We're apparently worth more as human beings than you are. Dickhead.


    OMFG THAT WAS SO RACIST


    Firebrand said he wouldn't buy Me pizza unless I gave him a handjob.

    Then He realized I am not Asian and got really pissed and just got out of the car.

    I waited for him for awhile but finally I just gave up and went back into the mall and bought some kitchen untensils.
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:36 PM GMT
    Donnyboiii saidLike my subject states. Every guy I've talked to, EVERY one of them. That's all they want. Do you not have the decency to at least go on a date first? I'm trying to find a genuine guys who has some things in common with me as well as differences. I view life as an unwritten book. I just recently started up this site, so I am fairly new. Just need some thoughts and opinions. Thanks!


    Being that You ARE so new - it is too soon to draw any conclusions.

    And YEAH - Guys like sex and SOME are in perpetual over-drive.

    We ALL get those kinda e-mails and IMs.

    Yer not required to respond btw.

    Read the profiles.

    Participate in the forums.

    You will QUICKLY discover who you are like-minded with.

    The other guys mean no harm (usually) they are just looking for something different than you are.

    Don't take it more seriously than it is worth.

    And welcome to RJ!!!

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    Jul 20, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    I LOVE sex! And the problem is????
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
    I don't understand why gay men get upset when they go to a gay bar/club and feel disappointed that everyone there is only looking to get laid.

    It's a fucking bar/club - probably not where you should be looking for the love of your life.
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    Nah, good sir. Not every man wants sex. Granted that's the end result to most things wanted by most men but there are those of us out there that are more grounded and want more then just physical pleasure.

    Ask yourself why you feel these types of guys are coming at you with such a wanted desire for sex? I would say for now, enjoy the attention (don't encourage it but merely enjoy) because you don't know what tomorrow will bring. What you are complaining about now may very well turn into something you wish you could complain about later.

    I would have to agree with 7mark. A bar/club is not the place to be looking for love and as soon as you walk into one you should expect to get hit on and propositioned for sex even if by someone you wouldn't consider. I can say that because one of my jobs is being a bartender. If you're looking for something more meaningful then stay away from bars/clubs. I'm not saying you can't find love in such a place but I will say the odds of it happening aren't in most guys (and gals) favor.

    No offense OP, but you (like most guys here without knowing it) might be sending out mixed signals. You say you aren't looking for sex with your mind and mouth but your body might be saying something else. You'd be surprised how many guys don't understand their own body language and what kind of vibe they might accidentally be sending out. There is a reason guys are coming at you for just sex and it's not entirely their fault. Just sayin'. You should already know that most guys want sex. We're programmed that way. Some more obvious and more wanting of it than others. Just rethink a few things and hold out for something/someone you feel comfortable with and don't judge all men on a subject like this.
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    "Anyone that lives driving distance from me shoot me a message."

    " anything, I am down for anything icon_smile.gif"
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    THIS
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    Carlos654 saidyou know what, i have the same kinda problem except that it doesnt happen on internet, it happens in real life face to face. ITS NOT ONLY THE INTERNET. If you go to a gay club you'll fin out that the environment is very superficial, people will hit on you just to fuck with you that night. It has happened to me in like three different gay clubs that a guy comes up to me and just like that asks "hey you wanna fuck?" or "you a top or a bttm?" WTF! this world needs to change a little. Straight world isnt different at all....so its not only the gays...


    Some people just want sex. Pure and simple.

    There is really nothing wrong with that.

    Should they pretend they want to ride off into the sunset with you when they really just want a coupla hours of sex??? At least you know up front what they are all about.

    I don't see what the problem is.

    They are not for YOU. Quite frankly, it ain't MY thing either.

    But so what?

    If yer reasonably attractive - there will ALWAYS be somebody who wants nothing but to get into your pants.

    As long as you have blood in your veins - there will always be mosquitos looking for a meal. Do you never leave yer house again because there are mosquitos in the world? Or do you just do yer best to avoid them and swat them away when they get too close?
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:45 PM GMT
    I have to take this down the 50/50 road ... Ive been out now for 7 yrs and all I first got was old dudes and creeps .. now that Ive started to work out and age Ive had more hotter dudes hit on me. It is a world of just sex because men are sex driven machines but sometimes thats where it all starts plus you have to do some searching. Not every hott well defined guy is out for one thing. icon_smile.gif hope this helps .. and congrats with coming out. We need more people to stop denial.
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    Jul 20, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    TropicalMark saidI LOVE sex! And the problem is????


    Problem is You make Me dance in that little cage under those HOT lights for 2 hours before you will give Me any.

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