Act Your Age!

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    Aug 06, 2008 5:06 PM GMT
    I'm gonna turn 47 this Friday.
    Had this sweet note sent to me once:
    "I notice mid 40 something guys who try to pretend that they are in their 20s. Is it a trend? It sure seems that way. Especially when they get defensive and bitter when somebody calls them on it. P*a*t*h*e*t*i*c"
    I don't know what its suppose to mean?
    Yesterday, I even spent time googling in an attempt to find out exactly how I'm suppose to "act" my age.
    Is it my dress? Should I switch to Dockers? Is it because I like to go out on occasion and have a little fun? I'm athletic and active? Is it because I "look" younger than my age? Should I dye my hair gray?
    I mean....I don't use "young guy" lingo....I never refer to people as "dude"....I don't have any idea what current trends are....I don't follow any....never say "sup" to start a conversation...Is it because most of my close friends are younger than I am? If someone asks me my age, I tell them. I certainly don't promote it, but I don't lie about it either. My on-line profiles state my correct age.
    So help me out here....exactly how am I suppose to "act my age"? How should a 47 year old man "act"?
    A close friend once, told me I suffer from "peter pan syndrome"....and I took it as a compliment...maybe it wasn't?
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    Aug 06, 2008 6:13 PM GMT
    I'd completely ignore the comment, seriously. Whoever sent it to you has some serious issues of their own.

    Be who you are, and no one else. I always tell people to act as old as they feel. Hell, sometimes I feel 40, sometimes 20. So acting your age is a stupid thing to say.

    Again, ignore them.
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    Aug 06, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    hahah I get that as well.... several 20 something guys told me I should stop trying to hang on to youth.... referring to the fact I play competitive volleyball and don't wear a suit or something like that... THEY are the pathetic ones! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:08 PM GMT
    I have a saying, "You're never to big unless you cant fit" came up with it when someone told me and my friends to act our ages when we were playing tag in a playground when i was 17. I'm 23 and i dont even act that old. i still love cartoons and candy. Something i do notice is when people are often happy then people think they are trying to act younger so it looks like acting your age means be miserable. so like the others said, act how you want. as for me i'm a toys r us kid for life.

    By the way Happy Birthday in advance
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:13 PM GMT
    I've found that those who tell you to "act your age" are only jealous for the mere fact that you can be so free with yourself.
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    Break out the granny panties, depends, and marry someone half your age. I think being told that you suffer from Peter Pan Syndrome is a compliment, eventhough it's not meant as one. It means you're not all bitter and jaded about life and that you know you still have some usefullness (and possibly a high sex drive). In otherwords, they're likely jealous.

    And happy birthday (in advance).
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:26 PM GMT
    Fuck 'em! Be you man!!! GO WITH IT!!!


    Enjoy YOUR life!
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:35 PM GMT
    unsolicited criticism reveals more about the sender than the recipient.
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:42 PM GMT
    smalltown,
    Number one Happy Birthday in advance. Never listen when someone tells you to act your age or you’re too old for that, etc. I am 50 and loving it. I feel 30. I enjoy joking and being crazy with my friends. The guys that I work with are 20 years younger then me. It doesn't bother me at all. I love cutting up and joking with them. They are always telling me they can't believe I am 50. I am just as active if not more then they are. I love trying new things, and I love adventure. As the other guys have said if at my age I am supposed to be bitter and sitting around, it isn't going to happen. I love life and am going to live it to the fullest.
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:45 PM GMT
    I say go with what you know.

    I'll be 42 shortly, and have NO idea how a 42 year old is "supposed" to act. I, too, like to go out and have fun. I'm very active, and find my walker just gets in the way (OK, that was a joke).icon_wink.gif

    People are always surprised when I tell them my age. And I find I'm not attracted to guys my age or older, generally. They're usually fuddy duddies. Sorry if that offends anyone.

    I just feel like me. That's how I've always felt.icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 8:51 PM GMT
    I would not sweat it. The guy probably thinks that anybody over 40 should be staying inside on a Saturday night watching re-runs of Star Trek with his partner, and drinking beer.

    The only time a guy seems immature to me is when he cannot accept responsibility for his actions, or cannot hold down a job or pay his bills. What he wears, or what sports he plays are not really an indication of immaturity. I personally would much rather play an active sport like volleyball, soccer or tennis, no matter how badly, then play a round of golf.
  • SuneFL

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    Aug 06, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
    I totally get where you are coming from. I recently had a 20-something ask if I'd be his "daddy." First of all, I'm nobody's daddy -- yet. And secondly, he looked older than me. LOL

    An early Happy Birthday smalltownboy!

    I turned 40 last week. I now realize I feel and act no differently than I did at 39 or 29. Infact, I think I feel and look better. I also believe "acting your age" is just plain-old (no pun) being yourself. If someone says it to you, remind them that they're not getting any younger either! icon_smile.gif
  • josephmovie

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    Aug 06, 2008 9:34 PM GMT
    I get that sort of thing every now and then and it always seems to come from people that are:

    1) Really out of shape
    2) In their late twenties and concerned that the big 3-0 is coming

    You are in great shape, and not just for your age, but for any age. I think this comes from the misconception that there is something almost undignified about middle aged men going to the gym and keeping themselves looking good. It's also a strange comment coming from someone who doesn't know what you do or what your interests are, which makes me fairly certain they're from one of the two categories I mentioned above.

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    Aug 06, 2008 9:35 PM GMT
    smalltownboy saidI'm gonna turn 47 this Friday.
    Had this sweet note sent to me once:
    "I notice mid 40 something guys who try to pretend that they are in their 20s. Is it a trend? It sure seems that way. Especially when they get defensive and bitter when somebody calls them on it. P*a*t*h*e*t*i*c"
    I don't know what its suppose to mean?
    Yesterday, I even spent time googling in an attempt to find out exactly how I'm suppose to "act" my age.
    Is it my dress? Should I switch to Dockers? Is it because I like to go out on occasion and have a little fun? I'm athletic and active? Is it because I "look" younger than my age? Should I dye my hair gray?
    I mean....I don't use "young guy" lingo....I never refer to people as "dude"....I don't have any idea what current trends are....I don't follow any....never say "sup" to start a conversation...Is it because most of my close friends are younger than I am? If someone asks me my age, I tell them. I certainly don't promote it, but I don't lie about it either. My on-line profiles state my correct age.
    So help me out here....exactly how am I suppose to "act my age"? How should a 47 year old man "act"?
    A close friend once, told me I suffer from "peter pan syndrome"....and I took it as a compliment...maybe it wasn't?


    Hard to imagine why you give a shit what some sad case twink thinks of you.

    And happy birthday, sweet guy.
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    Aug 06, 2008 9:47 PM GMT
    Well the saying down here at the moment is: today's 50, is 40, and today's 40 is 30, not sure if today's 20, makes em 10?

    I think having to look your age, is something that begin to women. Saying: mutton dressed up as lamb.

    I have some friends that they have turned 50, and are already acting like old people. So age is nothing more than a state of mind. I care for some truly old people, and some of them are still young in mind.

    Begin 101, I'm always told i don't look my age, and look great for it too.

    If I go shopping now days for cloths, I buy what I like, and never get it because it's trendy.

    I don't do clubs anymore, I do restaurants.

    I don't chase young guys too help me feel young either. Yet I still have young guys whom chat me up.

    I remember when I turned 30. at a party I had for the people I worked with. I worked in Childcare at that stage, so a lot of the people I worked with, where only 20 something. I got gees you don't look 30, nor act it. One was left thinking, and how is a 30 year old meant to act?

    Don't act anything be yourself. remember 40 something in gay years is old. for this some people may still want to be 20.

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    Aug 06, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
    SilverBird said...i still love cartoons and candy. Something i do notice is when people are often happy then people think they are trying to act younger so it looks like acting your age means be miserable. ...By the way Happy Birthday in advance

    I still love cartoons too and candy...I'm the oldest in my "Inner Circle" of Friends, but they will all tell you I'm the guy most likely to be doing something daredevilish or "crazy"...and it's not because I feel like I have something to prove...its more like I've just never felt the need to stop doing what I've always done. Perhaps when I fall and break my hip...
    To Everyone here that's posted (so far!) Thanks for the feedback and kind words and early birthday wishes!icon_biggrin.gif
    I'll do my best to respond to alot of the comments I've read so far, but you know, us old guy's move slowly....speaking of.....time for me to hit the Trail for my run, so I'll touch back in later and respond some more....I already feel better!
    I know I shouldn't care what people think of me, but its always got me to think I've irritated someone to the point where they feel the need to jab me simply because they see something in me (whether its there is another story) missing in their own life.
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    Aug 06, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday! Forget about the e-mail - that's what the "delete" button is for.

    I pay my own way and don't depend on anyone else. I pay my taxes and vote, and I figure that gives me the right to live my life the way I want. I also live my life by the George Eliot quote - "It's never too late to be what you might have been."

    The day I stop growing, learning, and exploring is the day they close the lid on my casket.
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    Aug 06, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday!

    Age is a state of mind.

    I'm off to go eat a fruit roll-up and watch some cartoons. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 10:22 PM GMT
    I say you're as old as you feel. Just make sure you are OK with yourself. Happy Bday! 47 is still young, isnt Anderson Cooper 52 or something?
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    Aug 06, 2008 11:22 PM GMT
    Chuy2010 saidI say you're as old as you feel. Just make sure you are OK with yourself. Happy Bday! 47 is still young, isnt Anderson Cooper 52 or something?


    Anderson Cooper is 41. He was born in '67. Which makes him 3 years younger than I am. icon_evil.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 11:43 PM GMT
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    Chuy2010 saidI say you're as old as you feel. Just make sure you are OK with yourself. Happy Bday! 47 is still young, isnt Anderson Cooper 52 or something?


    Anderson Cooper is 41. He was born in '67. Which makes him 3 years younger than I am. icon_evil.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 11:44 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday! icon_biggrin.gif

    Age is a number really. I'm a 22-year old with a 3-year old mind. It helps me stay young.






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    Aug 06, 2008 11:51 PM GMT
    smalltownboy saidI'm gonna turn 47 this Friday.


    That makes two of us turning 47 on Friday. That's, like, OMG Teh Kewl! Happy Birthday, dude!
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    Aug 06, 2008 11:51 PM GMT
    Sedative saidHappy Birthday! icon_biggrin.gif

    Age is a number really. I'm a 22-year old with a 3-year old mind. It helps me stay young.






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    Well I think that is better than being a 3 year old with a 22 year old brain!

    Happy birthday Smalltown Boy. You young whippersnapper you! icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 06, 2008 11:54 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday! Don't listen to the insecure ones who tell you how to match your behavior to something arbitrary like the number of days you've been out of your mommy's womb. Please...as if all of our individual life's experiences have been the same and in lockstep.

    Around here (Austin) age is about as relevant as Jimmy Fallon. And being myself would be more difficult back in Boston.

    I wonder how I will feel about my mohawk, penchant for attention grabbing stunts, and delusion that I might be able to make a difference in the world, in ten years when I turn 48.