First time at a gay club

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    Jul 15, 2012 4:11 AM GMT
    It was my first time at a gay club today. As expected, I didn't have the best time. I stood in the corner and watched others. No one approached me; I didn't have the guts to approach anyone that caught my eye. After 45 minutes, I bailed. The entire experience just reinforced the point that clubs/bars are not for me. I realize that a lot of what happened (or didn't happen) had to do with me; I could've smiled more or initiated a conversation with someone. There's no point to this post; I'm just venting.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    You should have smized more baby!

    Tyra <3
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    You should have gone with someone for your first time. I would have gone with you if I lived in your neck of the woods.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    You should join a an activities gathering of your interest that are gay friendly. Gay clubs are not that great. Most of the time, from my experience people are there to only look for sex. You are also exposed yourself to second smoking if it's a smoking bar. It's tricky but "bar dating" is questionable. I would choose activities or gathering club of your specific interest rather than looking for dates at bar.......
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:34 AM GMT
    You should approach someone if they catch your eye. What have you got to lose? If you screw up or make an ass out of yourself, what does it matter? You're prob never going to see these ppl again. Come on man, get out there and let loose!

    The reason you feel clubs aren't for you could be because of your lack of success in them. Get over your shyness man! Okay, clubs aren't really the easiest place to approach a guy I'll give you that but at least try like I said what have you got to lose? Now get out there and shake that booty!icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:35 AM GMT
    Alcohol makes that place sooo much fun.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:37 AM GMT
    no tea, no shade, but you're 31 and you're just now going to a gay bar - why?
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    easterndude69 saidYou should approach someone if they catch your eye. What have you got to lose? If you screw up or make an ass out of yourself, what does it matter? You're prob never going to see these ppl again. Come on man, get out there and let loose!

    The reason you feel clubs aren't for you could be because of your lack of success in them. Get over your shyness man! Okay, clubs aren't really the easiest place to approach a guy I'll give you that but at least try like I said what have you got to lose? Now get out there and shake that booty!icon_lol.gif


    He's right. Try again. Life is short and you don't want to develop a bitter attitude.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidAlcohol makes that place sooo much fun.


    This is so true. I want a drink now icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:43 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidYou should have gone with someone for your first time. I would have gone with you if I lived in your neck of the woods.

    That was your mistake, OP. I doubt you went alone your first time to a straight bar.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:44 AM GMT
    You need to go with someone! I just started going out last month & I'm hooked! I don't know how many times I've danced on stage by the DJ,but the shit is fun as hell!

    Also,Drinking helps too! Two AMF's should do the trick! icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    getnassty saidno tea, no shade, but you're 31 and you're just now going to a gay bar - why?



    LOL! soo hood!
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said You need to go with someone! I just started going out last month & I'm hooked! I don't know how many times I've danced on stage by the DJ,but the shit is fun as hell!

    Also,Drinking helps too! Two AMF's should do the trick! icon_wink.gif


    Two AMF's!!! oh damn.icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    Ok, it's not just me.

    Gay bars are a great people to meet people who enjoy going to gay bars.

    It's also a great place to pick up a random bar skank that you'll never want to see again in your life.

    It's a place to yell at your friends as you try to hold a conversation over loud people and music.

    I don't enjoy going to gay bars. I have a friend who calls out on facebook on the nights he braves traffic and reaches a popular bar in Seattle. But, if I show up to say hi!, he facebooks me too.

    He is my only facebook friend who does this and it's the main location that shows up on my profile...apparently, I love the "Cuff" bar in Seattle.

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    Jul 15, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidAlcohol makes that place sooo much fun.


    I agree heartwholedly icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:48 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    getnassty saidno tea, no shade, but you're 31 and you're just now going to a gay bar - why?



    LOL! soo hood!


    i was a strong, independent black woman in my previous life
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:51 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    getnassty saidno tea, no shade, but you're 31 and you're just now going to a gay bar - why?



    LOL! soo hood!


    Lmao!!icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
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    Lenoxx said You need to go with someone! I just started going out last month & I'm hooked! I don't know how many times I've danced on stage by the DJ,but the shit is fun as hell!

    Also,Drinking helps too! Two AMF's should do the trick! icon_wink.gif


    Two AMF's!!! oh damn.icon_eek.gif


    Ahahahah The other night I had 2 Black raspberry rum & Cokes, 2 Vodka gimlets, 1 shot of vodka & 1 AMF. I was fine... icon_wink.gif

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    Jul 15, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    getnassty said
    Lenoxx said
    getnassty saidno tea, no shade, but you're 31 and you're just now going to a gay bar - why?



    LOL! soo hood!


    i was a strong, independent black woman in my previous life


    No kidding! ahahah
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    Bars and Clubs are not for everyone. It's very hard to find a serious bf at the bar because most guys are just looking for sex/hook up. Alcohol makes people loosen up and ready for *actions! I certainly had some interesting experiences from Bars in the past, I don't go as much anymore. If you're not into Clubs in the first place, you're probably not missing anything.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    Bustamante said
    Lenoxx said You need to go with someone! I just started going out last month & I'm hooked! I don't know how many times I've danced on stage by the DJ,but the shit is fun as hell!

    Also,Drinking helps too! Two AMF's should do the trick! icon_wink.gif


    Two AMF's!!! oh damn.icon_eek.gif


    Ahahahah The other night I had 2 Black raspberry rum & Cokes, 2 Vodka gimlets, 1 shot of vodka & 1 AMF. I was fine... icon_wink.gif



    Black raspberry rum and Coke! I must have this tonight.icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    Bustamante said
    Lenoxx said
    Bustamante said
    Lenoxx said You need to go with someone! I just started going out last month & I'm hooked! I don't know how many times I've danced on stage by the DJ,but the shit is fun as hell!

    Also,Drinking helps too! Two AMF's should do the trick! icon_wink.gif


    Two AMF's!!! oh damn.icon_eek.gif


    Ahahahah The other night I had 2 Black raspberry rum & Cokes, 2 Vodka gimlets, 1 shot of vodka & 1 AMF. I was fine... icon_wink.gif



    Black raspberry rum and Coke! I must have this tonight.icon_twisted.gif



    Sooooo yummy!
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    Jul 15, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    I've never been to a gay club so I can't give advice icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 5:00 AM GMT
    Lenoxx said
    getnassty said
    Lenoxx said
    getnassty saidno tea, no shade, but you're 31 and you're just now going to a gay bar - why?



    LOL! soo hood!


    i was a strong, independent black woman in my previous life


    No kidding! ahahah


    a psychic told me that i was a leader in the civil rights movement in the south, possibly alabama.
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    Jul 15, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    You should go to one where there is no standing around watching. Just a standing room only sweaty dancing crowd. It's like forcing sand through a sieve. Something always sorts out in the end. Wear earplugs.