Not Ignoring/Blocking is not a virtue

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    Jul 15, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    It appears that some guys on here seem to take not having ignored or blocked someone as something to be proud of....to be boasted about and seen as a badge of honor.

    I humbly disagree. If someone bugs the shit out of you, is ruining your experience on RJ, and may be driving you to fits of outrage on the threads, then BLOCK HIS ASS.

    You cant control who comes on to the site, but you have been given tools to avoid interacting with those that are not compatible. Please use them.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    I agree it is not a virtue, but blocking someone tends to be a futile exercise, as it is likely you will see their comments quoted elsewhere. Moreover, I cannot help thinking blocking someone is an ostrich-like reaction. I would rather see what my 'enemy' is up to. As recent events have shown, if someone has become completely intolerable, they will be removed,
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    I've never ignored anyone on the forums, but I'll block emails if someone is giving me the creeps.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:27 PM GMT
    I think it works both ways.

    There are a few guys who block the most outspoken people whose politics they disagree with, which is fine, but they continually brag about doing so, as if it is an accomplishment. They also actively encourage others to do the same. I think in some cases it does represent a weakness in not being able to tolerate hearing other viewpoints.

    On the other hand, there are guys who believe using the forum ignore feature is a clear sign of weakness and brag as you noted. That can be the case, but the ignore feature can be considered as a way to remove the clutter from those who post extensively. As if you could opt out of receiving junk mail.

    I've commented in the political areas that I read and listen to sources from multiple viewpoints, but that doesn't mean I have to pay attention to everyone who posts on the forum.

    Bottom line - doesn't really matter. More often than not I just ignore those I choose to ignore. But whatever you do, it doesn't need to be continually advertised.
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:27 PM GMT

    The ignore key is has pluses and negatives.

    On the negative side, others don't fight your battles for you as a given, so if someone posted your name address and phone number you wouldn't see it, and admin tends to respond most often when the subject of an attack complains.

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    Jul 15, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
    Useless feature. I make room for wisdom and jackass posters, at times they've been one and the sameicon_eek.gif
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    Jul 15, 2012 4:42 PM GMT
    Hillie saidUseless feature. I make room for wisdom and jackass posters, at times they've been one and the sameicon_eek.gif


    So true. We're all human and we all have our moments to shine.... Also if you haven't made a fool of yourself at some point on RJ then you're being much too shy. We all fall down sometimes.
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    Jul 16, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    I've ignored a few users before, but in the end it didn't really make a difference since they were one of the more visible posters on the forums. They were constantly quoted, which made threads rather confusing for me. I haven't bothered with the ignore function since then. Besides, no one really pisses me off that much. It's just easier not to pay them any attention.
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    Jul 16, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    I think Ignore is only useful for dedicated trolls who are only posting things to get a rise out of us. And for hiding threads that we don't want to be seeing in the list anymore.

    Ignoring a problem poster is like leaving the problem for other people to deal with.

    What's worse, if you ignore a nasty person and they attack someone you like, it gives the impression (with silence = agreement) that no one has a problem with it. Kind of like the bystander effect.

    I don't think being blocked is a thing to be proud of. But not necessarily something to be ashamed of.. in rare cases.
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:32 AM GMT
    would someone care to explain exactly what blocking a member does? are they disallowed from viewing your profile and can you no longer see their posts? thanks!
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:34 AM GMT
    nimportequi saidwould someone care to explain exactly what blocking a member does? are they disallowed from viewing your profile and can you no longer see their posts? thanks!


    There are two different blocks. One blocks their posts, so you can't see what they say in the forums, but if someone quotes them, you'll see that. The other blocks any other form of viewing or interaction. For example, if they send you an e-mail, you won't see it.
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:38 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    nimportequi saidwould someone care to explain exactly what blocking a member does? are they disallowed from viewing your profile and can you no longer see their posts? thanks!


    There are two different blocks. One blocks their posts, so you can't see what they say in the forums, but if someone quotes them, you'll see that. The other blocks any other form of viewing or interaction. For example, if they send you an e-mail, you won't see it.


    Thanks icon_smile.gif So for the second one you mentioned, are they also prevented from viewing pictures as well?
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:44 AM GMT
    nimportequi saidThanks icon_smile.gif So for the second one you mentioned, are they also prevented from viewing pictures as well?


    No, they are not blocked from viewing your pictures. They will never know they have been blocked unless you tell them. The same goes for forum blocks. They don't know you can't see them.
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    nimportequi saidwould someone care to explain exactly what blocking a member does? are they disallowed from viewing your profile and can you no longer see their posts? thanks!

    All is explained here:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2511887
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    Jul 16, 2012 8:13 AM GMT
    I think the point they're trying to make is that they don't let what other people do affect them. There are other people who have hundreds blocked.

    I don't block anyone because I don't need to. No one bothers me that much, and I don't really get into fights with anyone. I don't react to trolls. I keep myself calm most of the time. There is a certain peace that comes from not letting others get under my skin. They have no power over me.

    If people are really bothered by other people's behavior, then by all means block them. If other members are following you around and pestering you, then go ahead and block. But chances are they're bothering you because you've given them reactions in the past. That's the best advice I can give - don't react so badly when people saying something nasty to you the first time, and they aren't likely to bother you again in the future.

    Above all else, don't feed the trolls. They want you to fight with them. They want you to yell at them. You aren't do anyone any favors by engaging them.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 16, 2012 1:44 PM GMT
    ^^^^^
    DIN is so sweet and helpful.
    Gotta love this guy!
    (:
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:59 PM GMT
    GordonLee90232 said
    meninlove said
    The ignore key is has pluses and negatives.

    On the negative side, others don't fight your battles for you as a given, so if someone posted your name address and phone number you wouldn't see it, and admin tends to respond most often when the subject of an attack complains.



    I am new here so forgive my ignorance on this subject but which key on my keyboard is the Ignore Key?


    It's not a key on your keyboard; it's a feature on the site. Go to someone's profile and below email is a list including block (:

    All it means though is that they can't contact you. You can't block a member from visiting your profile, fyi
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    Jul 16, 2012 2:02 PM GMT
    GordonLee90232 said
    meninlove said
    The ignore key is has pluses and negatives.

    On the negative side, others don't fight your battles for you as a given, so if someone posted your name address and phone number you wouldn't see it, and admin tends to respond most often when the subject of an attack complains.



    I am new here so forgive my ignorance on this subject but which key on my keyboard is the Ignore Key?

    Ignore is the link under the person's avatar. It hides the person's postings in the forums.