If you're single....

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    Jul 15, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    ....do you aspire to be in a long relationship at some point in the future, and if so by when? Or are you happy being single with friends, family and possibly a few flings until you eventually pop your clogs?

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    Jul 15, 2012 8:21 PM GMT
    Yes. Definitely. In fact, I don't really want to be intimate with anyone until it's someone I could see myself being with. I can't put a time frame on wanting a relationship...it could be now, it could be five years from now (seriously hope not . . .)

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    Jul 15, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    jonny857 said....do you aspire to be in a long relationship at some point in the future, and if so by when? Or are you happy being single with friends, family and possibly a few flings until you eventually pop your clogs?

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    I just came into this thread to ogle your hairy chest. Carry on.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:47 PM GMT
    jonny857 said....do you aspire to be in a long relationship at some point in the future, and if so by when? Or are you happy being single with friends, family and possibly a few flings until you eventually pop your clogs?

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    It's all I think about! I'd really like to have found my special guy before I turn 30, and hopefully eve married him if he'll have me. Ever since I was a little boy, I've dreamed of having a nice little wedding and just leading a simple, happy life together. ^_^
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:54 PM GMT
    Well since I'm headed to college in the fall, I expect to find some possible interests there. I am hoping to be in a relationship soon (maybe a year?), but other than that I just want to get to know people more.

    I don't want to rush being in a relationship. I want to know the guy before I decide, both personal and physical attractiveness.
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:55 PM GMT
    STAY THAT WAY!!!!

    J/k...

    Relationships can be a lot of fun lol, but they are work too... you have to put something in to the ground to grow crops lol
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    Jul 15, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    I absolutely do.

    I just got out of one that I thought would be the one though.... so I am definitely not ready. I can't put a time stamp on when I will be ready. Maybe I won't be. I don't know.

    I DO know that I have a lot of love to give, and hopefully someday I will give it to someone who will love me forever.

    I want nothing more than to have a husband, kids, a house, and provide for them...all of it. I know I will be a good father, a good husband, and a make a difference in peoples lives...if I can ever reopen that door, because right now it not going to open.

    Ugh. This just makes me depressed.

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    Jul 15, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    My viewpoint right now is: I'm in college I have a shitload of other shit to deal with why pill a relationship that might consume me emotionally and mentally and end up getting kicked out school for grades...
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    Jul 15, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    I do want to be in a long-term relationship, but I'm not sure by when.

    What I'll be looking for is a guy who will be a good father. If he wants to have a couple of kids and would be unselfish in raising them—that's all I can ask for. I'm not really looking what's in it for me.

    I haven't set a deadline, but I do intend to have the kids by myself if I don't find such a guy.
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    Jul 16, 2012 12:14 AM GMT
    I know that I'm definitely the loyal long term relationship kind of person and that's mostly because that's the one thing I admire most about relationships of people that I know.

    Right now I'm single and am hugely blessed with super great friends, not that I'm not looking, it's just that in Sydney the only gay life is in the city with the bars and clubs and it's heaps unfortunate that I really don't like that scene ... lame!

    Anyway who knows how or if I'll ever meet the person I end up having a relationship with, but I do know that since I'm being picky with where I'm looking (or not looking I should say) I do know that the possibility of being single alot longer can be a result so I've come to accept that.
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    Jul 16, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    running11 saidI absolutely do.

    I just got out of one that I thought would be the one though.... so I am definitely not ready. I can't put a time stamp on when I will be ready. Maybe I won't be. I don't know.

    I DO know that I have a lot of love to give, and hopefully someday I will give it to someone who will love me forever.

    I want nothing more than to have a husband, kids, a house, and provide for them...all of it. I know I will be a good father, a good husband, and a make a difference in peoples lives...if I can ever reopen that door, because right now it not going to open.

    Ugh. This just makes me depressed.



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    Jul 16, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    I'm happy being single and have my family and friends as my priority right now. I don't have interest in being in a relationship at all right now. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 16, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    ... single as in relationships, I aspire to be the best husband/partner monogamous sexy secretary anyone ever asked for. I want to be the best I can for myself before I meet this guy; so we can share in more of what life has to offer... if we got a lot stuff in common; awesome! ... he and I don't are total opposites, great! I live for The Ultimate Challenge! I just want to be able to do all those silly things I do with my best friends, with my partner; as well as sex and that unique chemistry only a strong relationship can give....
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    I really like runner11's view on it. I am definitely interested in finding someone to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not so sure on kids - I could be persuaded, but it's a lot to give up for an uncertain reward. I can't claim I am an unconditional love sort of person, and children can be profoundly disappointing.

    That makes me sound awful, but it's a serious consideration.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    Snoop_Dawg_Cranky said"Pop your clogs"? What does that mean?


    It means you die in the Netherlands.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    I'm overdue for a LTR. Just can't seem to find mr. right.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:09 AM GMT
    Snoop_Dawg_Cranky said
    principal0 saidI really like runner11's view on it. I am definitely interested in finding someone to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not so sure on kids - I could be persuaded, but it's a lot to give up for an uncertain reward. I can't claim I am an unconditional love sort of person, and children can be profoundly disappointing.

    That makes me sound awful, but it's a serious consideration.

    Children have a way of changing your mind. I promise.


    I do want a family life, but certain examples of parent-child relationships I have seen make me want to run screaming in the other direction.

    Also, I would be the world's worst tiger mom.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
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    principal0 saidI really like runner11's view on it. I am definitely interested in finding someone to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not so sure on kids - I could be persuaded, but it's a lot to give up for an uncertain reward. I can't claim I am an unconditional love sort of person, and children can be profoundly disappointing.

    That makes me sound awful, but it's a serious consideration.

    Children have a way of changing your mind. I promise.


    I do want a family life, but certain examples of parent-child relationships I have seen make me want to run screaming in the other direction.

    Also, I would be the world's worst tiger mom.


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    Jul 16, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
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    principal0 saidI do want a family life, but certain examples of parent-child relationships I have seen make me want to run screaming in the other direction.
    Also, I would be the world's worst tiger mom.

    First thing to do: Stop making invidious comparisons with other people's children. You'll raise yours the way you want. What other people have done, or more likely failed to do, is their problem. And it will be a lifelong problem if they wind up with lazy, entitled, deadbeat brats. You won't. Yours may wind up on a psychiatrist's couch, but not for that reason.


    I see them turning out like the Royal Tenenbaums.

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    Jul 16, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    Oh God no.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
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    MuchoMasQueMusculo said Who doesn't want that?

    I'm not saying I don't---exactly---but after some horrifyingly bad experiences, I'm not at all sure i do either.


    The problem is finding an equal. Tricky thing with you, JP.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
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    principal0 said
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    MuchoMasQueMusculo said Who doesn't want that?

    I'm not saying I don't---exactly---but after some horrifyingly bad experiences, I'm not at all sure i do either.


    The problem is finding an equal. Tricky thing with you, JP.

    I'm old fashioned. I prefer:

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    As long as he's not sweet and on the down low.
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    Jul 16, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    Being single sucks. I want a man! haha
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    Jul 16, 2012 2:41 AM GMT
    Yes, but I'm also content with being single because it has its benefits. I enjoy the freedom of being active and meeting new people or making new friends/ acquaintances without any pressure. I also have more time to work on personal art projects that I've been putting off for years when I was in a relationship.

    Though many times you'll hear that golden question, "you're a great guy, why are you single?". How do you answer such a question? LOL
    Chemistry is important of course but patience and trust takes time to build with someone. It's something that has to be mutual before I’m comfortable with starting a relationship with someone. From my experiences, it normally comes when you don't expect it. I’ve learned from my pass mistakes of rushing into a relationship to counter loneliness.

    A LTR with the right guy is nice and I look forward to being in one again because it is nice to share your soul with someone special; however, it's not really a priority for me. I'm enjoying the quality time I have to learn more about people, culture and new things. This also helps me learn more about myself and what I can provide in my next relationship.
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    Jul 16, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
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    principal0 saidI do want a family life, but certain examples of parent-child relationships I have seen make me want to run screaming in the other direction.
    Also, I would be the world's worst tiger mom.

    First thing to do: Stop making invidious comparisons with other people's children. You'll raise yours the way you want. What other people have done, or more likely failed to do, is their problem. And it will be a lifelong problem if they wind up with lazy, entitled, deadbeat brats. You won't. Yours may wind up on a psychiatrist's couch, but not for that reason.


    I see them turning out like the Royal Tenenbaums.



    I'd love it if my kids turned out like the Royal Tennenbaums. Most people end up fucked up somehow. I'd rather my kids end up fucked up, interesting geniuses rather than just fucked up.