Are you confident to just talk to any guy?

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    Jul 16, 2012 7:25 PM GMT
    SO I never really put much time into the whole dating thing but recently I've been actually put being a bitch aside and started mingling/simply starting conversations with guys that I find hot. I haven't gotten anyone's numbers yet, I'm a little afraid to ask but I have been more open minded to speak up to guys i find hot. I have this fear that if I try to talk to a guy seriously I would get dissed because they don't find me attractive or they don't like guys

    Is it easy for you guys to just talk to guys without knowing if they like dudesicon_cool.gif
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    yes
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 16, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    yes I find it easy to start talking to another guy, just like I would with anyone else. I do it without any anterior motives ... like "ooo he is hot, I'll talk to him" ... eventually you talk to enough people and you realize that good looking or not there are good people and bad people and looks has nothing to do with either
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    No

    I don't even ever really assume that a guy is checking me out, even if I catch him looking at me.
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:34 PM GMT
    i talk to all men who interest me.... confidently, casually... icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 16, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    Booze helps
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:42 PM GMT
    Almost, every guy... some guys I put up too many walls... they make good drinking buddies though...
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:56 PM GMT
    I usually assume people are thinking lesser of me for some reason, but if I feel like talking to a guy I'll do it. I can't live my life on other people's thoughts and attitudes.
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI usually assume people are thinking lesser of me for some reason, but if I feel like talking to a guy I'll do it. I can't live my life on other people's thoughts and attitudes.


    Very true...i feel the same way sometimes. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 16, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    Shell said
    Josh1992 saidI usually assume people are thinking lesser of me for some reason, but if I feel like talking to a guy I'll do it. I can't live my life on other people's thoughts and attitudes.


    Very true...i feel the same way sometimes. icon_confused.gif


    Exactly! What's the worse that can happen honestly? If someone doesn't like me before they get to know me then it's not my problem :-)
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    Jul 16, 2012 8:00 PM GMT
    Josh1992 saidI usually assume people are thinking lesser of me for some reason, but if I feel like talking to a guy I'll do it. I can't live my life on other people's thoughts and attitudes.
    I think this is what drives you to better yourself. icon_wink.gif Your ability to get passed other people's issues, is what saves you when you falter... when it comes to guys, never forget that the guy you're talking to may be thinking and feeling similar bad thoughts about himself, no matter how outwardly confident.icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 16, 2012 8:05 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidBooze helps
    ^THIS!
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
    On internet, yes
    real life, sometimes. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:12 PM GMT
    It seems to me that everyone is waiting for someone else to make the first move because most of us believe that we're not good looking or smart enough or whatever to talk to someone else that we find interesting.

    If you're friendly and not creepy, they should respond the same way even if they're not interested. Pay attention to their response and back off if they're not engaging. If they're rude, they're a dick and you're better off not knowing them.
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:15 PM GMT
    imasrxd saidIt seems to me that everyone is waiting for someone else to make the first move because most of us believe that we're not good looking or smart enough or whatever to talk to someone else that we find interesting.

    If you're friendly and not creepy, they should respond the same way even if they're not interested. Pay attention to their response and back off if they're not engaging. If they're rude, they're a dick and you're better off not knowing them.


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    Jul 16, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    7Famark saidNo

    I don't even ever really assume that a guy is checking me out, even if I catch him looking at me.


    That is how I am too. I assume he is like looking at my friend.
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    msuNtx said
    7Famark saidNo

    I don't even ever really assume that a guy is checking me out, even if I catch him looking at me.


    That is how I am too. I assume he is like looking at my friend.


    I assume he's judging me for something.
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    msuNtx said
    7Famark saidNo

    I don't even ever really assume that a guy is checking me out, even if I catch him looking at me.


    That is how I am too. I assume he is like looking at my friend.


    I assume he's judging me for something.


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    Jul 16, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
    SimpleGuy saidOn internet, yes
    real life, sometimes. icon_confused.gif


    this, unfortunately.
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:18 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    msuNtx said
    7Famark saidNo

    I don't even ever really assume that a guy is checking me out, even if I catch him looking at me.

    That is how I am too. I assume he is like looking at my friend.

    I assume he's judging me for something.

    Yep, same.
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    No, i'm a introvert but if he really makes me feel that something something then I will approach. My gut instinct hasn't failed me yet.
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    Jul 16, 2012 9:33 PM GMT
    7Famark said
    imasrxd saidIt seems to me that everyone is waiting for someone else to make the first move because most of us believe that we're not good looking or smart enough or whatever to talk to someone else that we find interesting.

    If you're friendly and not creepy, they should respond the same way even if they're not interested. Pay attention to their response and back off if they're not engaging. If they're rude, they're a dick and you're better off not knowing them.


    Oops, I'm out.

    When I asked you to stop following me, you were very polite.
  • Erakhalnum

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    Jul 16, 2012 9:44 PM GMT
    no. but when I do I will make sure to tell everyone about it
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    Jul 16, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    It is actually really weird that people are easily put in categories and are considered " out of someone's league". I never actually got the reason why but I feel that there are those who feel that way. They feel like this person is too good for you or there is no way that person would be interested in you. I think that is shown more or less in the clubs. You kinda see the timid guys then you have the guys who feel they can get anyone and last but not least you got the guys that feel intimidated by the guys who they feel can get anyone. The funny thing though is there are guys who people think can get anyone but that guy does not feel he can. It is a very interesting concept.
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    Jul 16, 2012 10:40 PM GMT
    I don't put anyone on a pedestal. So yes.