Is My new workout bud maybe curious? Please help!

  • Trajen1

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    Jul 17, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    This is driving my mind nuts! First let me say I only recently came out to my friends. While home for the summer I've been working out a lot, and re-found my old crush who I assume is straight. He's "bro-acting" has an awesome body, and a sexy face. He has had many girlfriends in the past and always talks about hooking up with girls. I can only assume that he has heard about me coming out. Recently he approached me about being workout buds a couple times a week, and he was psyched when we went for our first run. I could have sworn he checked out my body a couple times, but he never made any kind of hint. Is he cool with working out with a gay guyy or is he curious? Opinions?
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    Jul 17, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    Maybe he doesn't care if your'e gay or not..!!..Maybe he is just being the good bud you described him to be...maybe your level of discipline and commitment to working out motivates him..maybe you really are good company...

    While your at it build a better friendship with this dude..if he's interested..take it from there..if he's not...you still have a good friend ...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 17, 2012 3:26 AM GMT
    That's one of those things you are just going to have to stay cool about and see what happens in the future
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    Jul 17, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    It seems to just be the basic workout bud kind of bromance. So, depending on your friends, he seems that he might now even know at this point. I wouldn't recommend coming out and telling him like it's some big thing, just let it happen.

    That will be like someone coming out and asking if it was okay that they were an atheist before you went out on a mile jog.
  • Trajen1

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    Jul 17, 2012 3:30 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidMaybe he doesn't care if your'e gay or not..!!..Maybe he is just being the good bud you described him to be...maybe your level of discipline and commitment to working out motivates him..maybe you really are good company...

    While your at it build a better friendship with this dude..if he's interested..take it from there..if he's not...you still have a good friend ...
    Let me add that before coming out him and I hung out like twice with a group setting.
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    Jul 17, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    No, and #YCYL
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    Jul 17, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    Trajen1 said
    Anocxu saidMaybe he doesn't care if your'e gay or not..!!..Maybe he is just being the good bud you described him to be...maybe your level of discipline and commitment to working out motivates him..maybe you really are good company...

    While your at it build a better friendship with this dude..if he's interested..take it from there..if he's not...you still have a good friend ...
    Let me add that before coming out him and I hung out like twice with a group setting.

    ..Ok..So..take it easy..for now just consider him to be your work out bud..that you have a crush on..take it easy..remember..he might not be bi or gay..or curious...Take it easy!..Hugzicon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 17, 2012 4:54 AM GMT
    He's obviously into you. Make a move.
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    Jul 17, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Firebrand saidNo, and #YCYL


    Yay! i was waiting for it! tho in this case it may be #YSNL
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    Jul 17, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    You're definitely not cruising!

    Just play it cool and see what happens. If he's curious you'll have to let him progress at his own pace. Otherwise you might scare him off if you move too quickly.
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    Jul 17, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    Don't make any assumptions about what he does or does not know. You would probably do yourself a favor and let him know. Your friends, if they are true friends, probably are using their discretion in whom they tell the news. If this guy isn't part of your circle of friends, word may not have gotten back to him.

    You should let him know of your orientation as not to set both of you up for potential disappointment later. Who knows, if he is in to you, then it may lead him to have his own coming out. Then you'll both go skipping through the meadows hand in hand.
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    Jul 17, 2012 6:54 AM GMT
    Wait till you're both naked in the locker room and when he bends over to pull on his jock, put your tongue up his butt.

    This won't tell you if he's gay or not but if you survive the aftermath it's a pretty good chance he might be into you.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jul 17, 2012 6:59 AM GMT
    He might just still just want to be your friend, but he might have been asking because he is curious about you?

    Just ask him. You're out, maybe he is looking for help with that as well.icon_idea.gif R u both 21? If so I know why you haven't done anything but wonder about him. At 21 22 I might have hesitated as well.
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    Jul 17, 2012 7:29 AM GMT
    From experience, it is probably just something you're imagining in hopes that you and your super hot friend hook up. Mainly because you say he's an "old crush."
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    Jul 17, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    Is this the plot to a porno? It sounds like the plot to a porno.
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    Jul 17, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    Blueavenger saidIs this the plot to a porno? It sounds like the plot to a porno.


    Yeah, it does. There's been a spate of threads in the last few days that are in this vein, with some details just mixed up...

    Summer doldrums on RJ? icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 17, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    This is how I see this scenario playing out...

    You get the nerve to make a move on him, and it turns out he's into it. You rush back to your place pawing at each other. In the doorway, you're practically sucking each other's faces off and tearing at one another's clothes. You can feel his ripe manhood about to burst through his gym shorts. He rips your shirt over your head, and in a mirror on the wall spots that stupid Tea Party tattoo on your back. Suddenly, everything comes to a screeching halt. He picks up his clothes, and without saying a word walks out the door leaving you standing in your living room with a confused look on your face and the undeniable beginning of blue balls.

    Let us know how it works out. I look forward to the lolz.
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    Jul 17, 2012 5:56 PM GMT
    Pretend you're a Nike rep and "just do him."
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    Jul 17, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    Is it just me or is there a large amount of gay men in the world who think everyone is checking them out? Just cuz he was looking at you doesn't mean he wants to nail you, man. There are plenty of gay men/bisexual men out who don't come with such complications. Maybe you should focus on them instead of this guy.
    I have about 5 straight buddies who like to work out with me and who flirt. They're still straight. Drop some hints if you really believe he's into you but I wouldn't get my hopes up if I was you.
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    Jul 17, 2012 6:04 PM GMT
    What's the rush? Why don't you workout with the guy a few times and talk to him? It'll all work itself out. If he's into you, you'll figure it out. If he just wants a workout bud, you'll figure that out. Drop something into the conversation about what it was like coming out. That should get things moving along.

    And Endo, it may be a Tea Party tattoo, he may be protesting a smoking ban, or it could just be the Navy Jack. Don't jump to conclusions...

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_Navy_Jack
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    Jul 17, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    It is certainly an intriguing situation.

    Let's recap:
    You hardly know this guy, but you have admired him 'from afar' for some time.
    He is ostensibly very straight.
    You come out.
    He finds out you are gay.
    He wants to get to know you better.

    I would say the scales are weighted in favour of him having some sort of sexual attraction toward you. Then again, I could be completely wrong.
  • Trajen1

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    Jul 17, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    endo saidThis is how I see this scenario playing out...

    You get the nerve to make a move on him, and it turns out he's into it. You rush back to your place pawing at each other. In the doorway, you're practically sucking each other's faces off and tearing at one another's clothes. You can feel his ripe manhood about to burst through his gym shorts. He rips your shirt over your head, and in a mirror on the wall spots that stupid Tea Party tattoo on your back. Suddenly, everything comes to a screeching halt. He picks up his clothes, and without saying a word walks out the door leaving you standing in your living room with a confused look on your face and the undeniable beginning of blue balls.

    Let us know how it works out. I look forward to the lolz.
    Actually hes already has seen it and he loves it. He's conservative as well.
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    Jul 17, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    Trajen1 said
    endo saidThis is how I see this scenario playing out...

    You get the nerve to make a move on him, and it turns out he's into it. You rush back to your place pawing at each other. In the doorway, you're practically sucking each other's faces off and tearing at one another's clothes. You can feel his ripe manhood about to burst through his gym shorts. He rips your shirt over your head, and in a mirror on the wall spots that stupid Tea Party tattoo on your back. Suddenly, everything comes to a screeching halt. He picks up his clothes, and without saying a word walks out the door leaving you standing in your living room with a confused look on your face and the undeniable beginning of blue balls.

    Let us know how it works out. I look forward to the lolz.
    Actually hes already has seen it and he loves it. He's conservative as well.
    Then go "do your thing'"........
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    Jul 17, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
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    And Endo, it may be a Tea Party tattoo, he may be protesting a smoking ban, or it could just be the Navy Jack. Don't jump to conclusions...

    Endo was right! See above!icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 17, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    Daas saidWait till you're both naked in the locker room and when he bends over to pull on his jock, put your tongue up his butt.

    This won't tell you if he's gay or not but if you survive the aftermath it's a pretty good chance he might be into you.


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