NYC Subway Protocol

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    Jul 18, 2012 5:44 AM GMT
    So tonight on my way back home I jump on to the A train at Fulton station headed to Brooklyn. I immediately notice this attractive guy reading his kindle and jamming out to music on his iPod simultaneously. I couldn't stop staring at him and looking away every time he looked up because you never know how people react in that situation. Well, here's a twist...

    After two stations I realize that this guy I had been eyeing has ben playing the eye game with another guy sitting directly opposite him also reading on some mobile device. At this point I kind of give up and think I'm out of my league here so I'll just watch what transpires. For another couple of stops and delays this keeps happening and I'm watching the entire thing unbeknownst to them that I see whats going on. Anyway it was the cutest thing when the guy stood up to get off at Lafayette and kept looking back and this other guy would look up every now and again. After probably wrecking his brain, at the very last minute as the doors closed he decided to go out after him. I have no idea what happened from there, but that was my real life rom-com on the subway tonight.

    Basically, my point for posting is this: I'm not out and I am also not ready to come out yet and I feel that people who are out have it easy because they know who they can go for and everything is fair game.

    My questions:
    1) What should you do if you see a guy you think is cute on the subway? Is it appropriate to ask for someone's number who you don't even know yet?

    2) Is it creepy if someone follows you off at your stop on the subway?

    3) How do you know if you should make a move? Who should make the first move?

    4) How do you tell if a guy is into you or not? Gay or not etc?


    I know this is a lot but I was just thinking maybe some people could help me out.

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    Jul 18, 2012 6:40 AM GMT
    Nobody gives a fuck on the subway. Just ask him if he wants to meet you in the restroom.
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    Jul 18, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    if it were the philly subway i would say keep your eyes on the floor and don't look up at anyone ever!

    but it's an interesting question cause I've been using portland's light rail a lot for summer classes and I don't really know what I'd do if I was cruised. it just doesn't seem appropriate to ask for a number on a crowded train in front of tons of people, gay issues aside - interest might not be reciprocated, etc.

    basically, just post a craigslist missed connection and call it a day icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 18, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidNobody gives a fuck on the subway. Just ask him if he wants to meet you in the restroom.


    MTA restrooms, ugh... they're better off fucking on the train tracks. icon_razz.gif

    Anyway OP, in order to show some interest in someone in public, you'd have to somewhat risk outing yourself. Question is - are you ready for that?
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    Jul 18, 2012 1:23 PM GMT
    tennislover saidSo tonight on my way back home I jump on to the A train at Fulton station headed to Brooklyn. I immediately notice this attractive guy reading his kindle and jamming out to music on his iPod simultaneously. I couldn't stop staring at him and looking away every time he looked up because you never know how people react in that situation. Well, here's a twist...

    After two stations I realize that this guy I had been eyeing has ben playing the eye game with another guy sitting directly opposite him also reading on some mobile device. At this point I kind of give up and think I'm out of my league here so I'll just watch what transpires. For another couple of stops and delays this keeps happening and I'm watching the entire thing unbeknownst to them that I see whats going on. Anyway it was the cutest thing when the guy stood up to get off at Lafayette and kept looking back and this other guy would look up every now and again. After probably wrecking his brain, at the very last minute as the doors closed he decided to go out after him. I have no idea what happened from there, but that was my real life rom-com on the subway tonight.

    Basically, my point for posting is this: I'm not out and I am also not ready to come out yet and I feel that people who are out have it easy because they know who they can go for and everything is fair game.

    My questions:
    1) What should you do if you see a guy you think is cute on the subway? Is it appropriate to ask for someone's number who you don't even know yet?

    2) Is it creepy if someone follows you off at your stop on the subway?

    3) How do you know if you should make a move? Who should make the first move?

    4) How do you tell if a guy is into you or not? Gay or not etc?


    I know this is a lot but I was just thinking maybe some people could help me out.

    Thanks guys icon_smile.gif


    I would not act on it. Just eye candy, really. It's NYC subway- I would find it incredibly distasteful and creepy for someone to ask for my phone number/hit on me. That's just me, but really I can't see this commonly happening. I'm sure that there are some who have found eternal love there though.
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    Jul 18, 2012 4:08 PM GMT
    Tops should always make the first move as they are the higher demand/smaller supply. A single btm (and often even a taken btm) will always be ready and willing if approached by the exotic and endangered species known as a top.
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    Jul 18, 2012 4:11 PM GMT
    dannyboy1101 saidTops should always make the first move as they are the higher demand/smaller supply. A single btm (and often even a taken btm) will always be ready and willing if approached by the exotic and endangered species known as a top.
    Endangered? Oh shit... here I am laying on my mores... you must not be forsaken!
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    Jul 18, 2012 4:15 PM GMT
    homastj saidif it were the philly subway i would say keep your eyes on the floor and don't look up at anyone ever!

    but it's an interesting question cause I've been using portland's light rail a lot for summer classes and I don't really know what I'd do if I was cruised. it just doesn't seem appropriate to ask for a number on a crowded train in front of tons of people, gay issues aside - interest might not be reciprocated, etc.

    basically, just post a craigslist missed connection and call it a day icon_cool.gif


    There's a gay bar on every damn block in downtown Portland, no reason to cruise the light rail.
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    Jul 18, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
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