Have you Ever hit or been hit by a boyfriend.

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    Jul 19, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    Have you ever been hit by a boyfriend or hit him. Did you consider it abuse and what did you do about it.

    I for the longest time did not think abuse existing in the gay world. I thought as a man you should fight back, but being older and opening my mind I realize that things can happen, and we are just people. We can be emotionally manipulated and physically intimidated.

    Has this ever happen to you and how did you feel?
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    Jul 19, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    been hit by two. both times it was an instant end of relationship permanently.
    I do not tolerate that, period!
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    Jul 19, 2012 3:00 AM GMT
    Twice, by two different boyfriends.

    Both times I let them get the first punch, then I caught their hands as they tried to make the second punch, and squeezed their hands till they screamed and stopped hitting. If they hadn't screamed, I woulda broke their fingers. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    As sad as it may sound, If I really cared about him, I don't think I would breakup after a punch or slap.

    If he beat me up then of course, but I think I would give him a second chance, depending on what led up to it and why he did it.
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    Jul 19, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidAs sad as it may sound, If I really cared about him, I don't think I would breakup after a punch or slap.

    If he beat me up then of course, but I think I would give him a second chance, depending on what led up to it and why he did it.
    I gave both of them second chances and neither of them ever got violent again. But those "second chances" were nothing more than a way of buying time to plan a way out of those relationships smoothly.
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
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    I won't hit you unless you hit me...and if you hit me, I'll hit you even harder.
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:45 AM GMT
    <--- New year's eve 3 yrs ago Broken Jaw!
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:50 AM GMT
    Nope. If anyone hit me once they better make damn sure they knock me out. If not, I'm going to go 145lbs of fury on their ass.
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    never got hit before.....but what would make them hit you?
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    Jul 19, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidAs sad as it may sound, If I really cared about him, I don't think I would breakup after a punch or slap.

    If he beat me up then of course, but I think I would give him a second chance, depending on what led up to it and why he did it.


    Jamie....really though??!!?? You can't be serious....icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:02 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA said
    If he beat me up then of course, but I think I would give him a second chance, depending on what led up to it and why he did it.

    With a 0% chance of second chance no matter what, right? Getting beat up by a boyfriend is serious.
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:03 AM GMT
    Hell no, I'd lose my shit /inner black female

    Men can only hit me in a bedroom setting...
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:07 AM GMT
    dan_x said

    Men can only hit me in a bedroom setting...


    This...and even then, I can't guarantee I won't hit back lol
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:10 AM GMT
    Yeah he put me in the hospital. He was so drunk he didn't remember any of it.
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    Daas saidYeah he put me in the hospital. He was so drunk he didn't remember any of it.

    omg...
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    MuchoMasQueMusculo said
    BlackCat90 said
    dan_x said

    Men can only hit me in a bedroom setting...


    This...and even then, I can't guarantee I won't hit back lol


    That won't be possible if you're restrained with ropes and chains.


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    Trust me, I'd find a way icon_evil.gif lol
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Never stuck or been struck by a boyfriend/partner/whatever; but definitely a DEALBREAKER/Relationship OVER!
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:21 AM GMT
    Yes.

    The first person that did I broke up with immediately mainly because I didn't give two shits about him or having any relationship with him.

    The second boyfriend that did it I did not break up with him when it happened. Love makes you blind and crazy.
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    nope/nope
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidNever stuck or been struck by a boyfriend/partner/whatever; but definitely a DEALBREAKER/Relationship OVER!


    Yeah I broke up with him while I was in a hospital bed. He was angry, drunk, violent, angry about something, I never figured out what. He shoved me down and when I was on the floor he kicked me in the stomach and ruptured it. I called an ambulance and the police came and arrested him. I was puking blood.

    He got out of jail and came to see me and apologize. He said he didn't remember doing it and I told him it was over when he stopped talking. Done.
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    MuchoMasQueMusculo said
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    Trust me, I'd find a way icon_evil.gif lol
    Or you can be like the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo...
    Gettin' yo REVENGE!

    I love that movie; she was so hot.
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    MuchoMasQueMusculo said
    BlackCat90 said
    Trust me, I'd find a way icon_evil.gif lol
    Or you can be like the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo...
    Gettin' yo REVENGE!

    I love that movie; she was so hot.
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    MuchoMasQueMusculo said
    BlackCat90 said
    Trust me, I'd find a way icon_evil.gif lol


    Or you can be like the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo...


    Gettin' yo REVENGE!

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    I haven't seen that movie, but from the looks of that picture, I can't tell who's having more fun, him or her! icon_twisted.gif looks kinda sexy to me lol
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    Jul 19, 2012 5:36 AM GMT
    Yes. good question.

    When my ex and I met, he was 220, I was 170. When we rekindled for a few months about 4 years later, I was 185, he was 205.... I say this to show that although the playing field was more leveled-out years later, he still had a physical advantage over me, and thus really should have taken that into account before ever throwing a punch.

    He was emotionally abusive the years in between those two events, and one drunken night, when I was trying to calm him down, he pushed me out of the doorway. The old me would not have retaliated, but thats fuckin bullshit. He's bigger than me and pushed me, so I clocked him, and we wrestled for a while. He came out worse, and fuckin deserved it. I don't regret it at all.

    Guys, we are NOT women. DON'T put up with abuse, grow some balls and kick ass when it's warranted!!

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    Jul 19, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    IzzyMuscle said

    Guys, we are NOT women. DON'T put up with abuse



    rofl hideously misogynist comment is hideously misogynist.