do you think friends with benefits work?

  • sk2010

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    Jul 19, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    would love to hear peoples thoughts on the subject. currently dealing with some issues from a situation like this.
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    Jul 19, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    Mine lasted for about five years before falling apart and getting completely boring.
    Enjoy it at first, then forget about it.
  • sk2010

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    Jul 19, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    Aress saidMine lasted for about five years before falling apart and getting completely boring.
    Enjoy it at first, then forget about it.


    mine has been going for two years. we got closer as time went, but now im a bit confused about where we are at. he's one of my best friends. helped me with coming out and stuff.
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    No! Feelings always develop somewhere. Maybe I just tend to get a strong emotional connection with people. But sometimes a relationship can actually spring out of that and be really great icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    Mine lasted for about 25 years and then your mom said that your dad was starting to ask questions.
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:40 PM GMT
    If it works for you, it works for you. If it doesn't work for you, then it doesn't work for you. If it worked for you at some point but now it doesn't, then it doesn't work for you now.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jul 20, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIf it works for you, it works for you. If it doesn't work for you, then it doesn't work for you. If it worked for you at some point but now it doesn't, then it doesn't work for you now.


    Wow....so basically you're sayin' that everyone is.......different? icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 20, 2012 12:13 AM GMT
    I have no experience in this area, however, plenty of people that I know do. And from what I've witnessed it never works. Eventually one person has developed feelings while the other hasn't.
    They tend to become complicated situations... such as yours. Unhealthy if you ask me.
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    Jul 20, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    malefeet said
    Ariodante saidIf it works for you, it works for you. If it doesn't work for you, then it doesn't work for you. If it worked for you at some point but now it doesn't, then it doesn't work for you now.


    Wow....so basically you're sayin' that everyone is.......different? icon_eek.gif


    Shhh...don't tell anyone...the world isn't ready for such shocking info =o!
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    Jul 20, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidShhh...don't tell anyone...the world isn't ready for such shocking info =o!


    I will not stand for this completely sane and rational discussion!
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    Jul 20, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    Why ask for advice at all? If it works for you, then go for it. If it doesn't work for you, then why ask?

    Without knowing a damn thing (I'm channeling Ms. Cleo), I'd say you're falling in love with someone.
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    Jul 20, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    You never know, for yourself, unless you try, for yourself!icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Jul 20, 2012 12:34 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    Ariodante saidShhh...don't tell anyone...the world isn't ready for such shocking info =o!


    I will not stand for this completely sane and rational discussion!


    Aw.....you're so cute when you're serious.....71.gif
  • sk2010

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    Jul 20, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidMine lasted for about 25 years and then your mom said that your dad was starting to ask questions.


    hahahahaha!!! holy fuck! BEST FUCKING ANSWER
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    Jul 20, 2012 4:41 AM GMT
    Yes they do
  • sk2010

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    Jul 20, 2012 4:42 AM GMT
    credo saidWhy ask for advice at all? If it works for you, then go for it. If it doesn't work for you, then why ask?

    Without knowing a damn thing (I'm channeling Ms. Cleo), I'd say you're falling in love with someone.


    guess i just needed to hear from other people.
    oh Ms. Cleo, you and your mystical bones.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jul 22, 2012 6:59 AM GMT
    Sharing my experience, it didn't really work out for me. This happened when I had a FWB intimate encounter with my second guy who was 29 at the time when I was 19. It lasted about a month. In the beginning, it was fun but he started getting deep feelings for me but I didn't have them for him... He was talking about me moving in with him and all that on our 4th week. Unfortunately, I had to decline and since then, he rarely speaks to me.

    But yeah, everyone is different. You just have to see for yourself I suppose.