What would you do if you saw your straight friends on a gay/social app?

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    Jul 19, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    I saw few of my friends on grindr, scruff, and jack'd recently. one of them were in my class before but we never talked...
    what should i do? (still a closet guy here)icon_question.gif?icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    I had worse...

    I use to frequent a gay bar many years ago in Laguna Beach called The Boom Boom Room (shut down since) and ran into the son of one of my very conservative clients I use to do work for. What could we say? We were caught! We immediately agreed this would remain our little secret and it did. This was many years ago when I use to be a private contracting Webmaster for medium sized businesses. If his Father ever found out I don't know what would have happened. Pretty funny it was. We became best friends and his Father never questioned why.icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:23 PM GMT
    Sustenance saidI had worse...

    I use to frequent a gay bar many years ago in Laguna Beach called The Boom Boom Room (shut down since) and ran into the son of one of my very conservative clients I use to do work for. What could we say? We were caught! We immediately agreed this would remain our little secret and it did. This was many years ago when I use to be a private contracting Webmaster for medium sized businesses. If his Father ever found out I don't know what would have happened. Pretty funny it was. We became best friends and his Father never questioned why.icon_lol.gif

    thats not worse... thats pretty fun.. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    but i m afraid that they will tell everyone.. icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Jul 19, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    I guess it would depend on context.

    Before, when I wasn't out, I obviously would have kept my mouth shut.

    Now, when most people know I'm a big ol' homosexual, I would probably reach out to them and say, "caught ya," but let's talk about it.

    I'm not in the business of outing people; they're still my friend, and it's okay if I know.

    Sometimes, it's easier for people to come out through accidental means.
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:28 PM GMT
    Well obviously you should message them
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:29 PM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidI guess it would depend on context.

    Before, when I wasn't out, I obviously would have kept my mouth shut.

    Now, when most people know I'm a big ol' homosexual, I would probably reach out to them and say, "caught ya," but let's talk about it.

    I'm not in the business of outing people; they're still my friend, and it's okay if I know.

    Sometimes, it's easier for people to come out through accidental means.

    well, to me its ok to come out to close friends, but not family..
    wait till i moved out then i'll come out to my parents.. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:32 PM GMT
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    Sustenance saidI had worse...

    I use to frequent a gay bar many years ago in Laguna Beach called The Boom Boom Room (shut down since) and ran into the son of one of my very conservative clients I use to do work for. What could we say? We were caught! We immediately agreed this would remain our little secret and it did. This was many years ago when I use to be a private contracting Webmaster for medium sized businesses. If his Father ever found out I don't know what would have happened. Pretty funny it was. We became best friends and his Father never questioned why.icon_lol.gif

    thats not worse... thats pretty fun.. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    but i m afraid that they will tell everyone.. icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif


    Just be glad your dealing with somewhat of a stranger. I had to hope my clients son was gay or else I was going to be in SERIOUS trouble with regards to my livelihood.icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidIt's just as weird as when you get a call at home, on your first day of vacation and it's your straight/female co-worker asking why you have a profile on Match.com when she's known you as gay for almost 20 yrs!
    My pics got lifted from RJ and were used on Match. Not a good feeling and yes, it's very confusing to see your likeness on another site of a different sexuality. I still wished Chris would help lock down our photos on RJ by disableing the right click COPY photo option....icon_rolleyes.gif
    I really dont care people saving my photos.. cuz all my pics r from my facebook icon_biggrin.gif
    but its kinda creepy that ur co-worker calls u and ask u those questions lol
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    Jul 19, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    Sustenance said
    SimpleGuy said
    Sustenance saidI had worse...

    I use to frequent a gay bar many years ago in Laguna Beach called The Boom Boom Room (shut down since) and ran into the son of one of my very conservative clients I use to do work for. What could we say? We were caught! We immediately agreed this would remain our little secret and it did. This was many years ago when I use to be a private contracting Webmaster for medium sized businesses. If his Father ever found out I don't know what would have happened. Pretty funny it was. We became best friends and his Father never questioned why.icon_lol.gif

    thats not worse... thats pretty fun.. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
    but i m afraid that they will tell everyone.. icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif


    Just be glad your dealing with somewhat of a stranger. I had to hope my clients son was gay or else I was going to be in SERIOUS trouble with regards to my livelihood.icon_lol.gif

    this is my first time dealing with those kind of stuffs.. ugh.. it bothers me..