Fear of people finding out about me at workplace

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    Jul 19, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    Does any one of you have this fear? I am so scared of people finding out about me and might use that against me at work. I work at a very competitive company and I don't want people to use that agains me. icon_sad.gif
  • Just_Tim

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    Jul 19, 2012 11:13 PM GMT
    yourname2000Why would anyone at your work care that you're an internet troll? icon_confused.gif As long as you're not doing it at work, it really shouldn't impact them.


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    Jul 19, 2012 11:18 PM GMT
    Hapuna saidDoes any one of you have this fear? I am so scared of people finding out about me and might use that against me at work. I work at a very competitive company and I don't want people to use that agains me. icon_sad.gif


    Just have faith there is good that always prevails in society... You will join many in all sectors of society that believe in good. I have a friend I tell this to all the time when he cannot find an answer to workplace politics. Work hard and be good to others and don't respond to gossip as it is a method the weak use to drag you down to their level. You don't want to lose consciousness of who you are and where you are going. Again, have faith there is good that always prevails and I will believe it along with you and together the world can be a better place.icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 19, 2012 11:21 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Hapuna saidDoes any one of you have this fear? I am so scared of people finding out about me and might use that against me at work. I work at a very competitive company and I don't want people to use that agains me. icon_sad.gif

    Why would anyone at your work care that you're an internet troll? icon_confused.gif As long as you're not doing it at work, it really shouldn't impact them.

    No silly. Not about finding that I am a troll. Finding out that I am gay
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    Jul 19, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    Sustenance said
    Hapuna saidDoes any one of you have this fear? I am so scared of people finding out about me and might use that against me at work. I work at a very competitive company and I don't want people to use that agains me. icon_sad.gif


    Just have faith there is good that always prevails in society... You will join many in all sectors of society that believe in good. I have a friend I tell this to all the time when he cannot find an answer to workplace politics. Work hard and be good to others and don't respond to gossip as it is a method the weak use to drag you down to their level. You don't want to lose consciousness of who you are and where you are going. Again, have faith there is good that always prevails and I will believe it along with you and together the world can be a better place.icon_cool.gif


    I wish everyone in my company and my life is as nice as you are. The world would be a better place to live
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 19, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    LOL if you are logging on here at work ... they already know ... do you think the network gods not gossip or pass this info on ... It is better to let them know right up front, that way they can never hold it against you finding out later ... besides if you lie to begin with and they find out, then you will be pegged as dishonest, when they might have liked you to begin with
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    Jul 19, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    I can't even see you and I knew right away. I am sure they already know.
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    Jul 19, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    I was always asked privately but never admitted. They didn't need to know who I wanted to have sex with. I had a roommate that was fired from a sales job. The boss set him up with a date with a woman. And then he asked her if he was gay. This happened in the late 90s. He was let go... and years later found out from a friend that also worked there that he was fired for being gay. Yes it sucks to have to worry about your job.

  • Jul 20, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
    It's the 21st century... With the Internet, anyone can find out. Not to make you paranoid, but I once saw someone I worked with obsess once over it, and they detailed exactly how they found out about a co-worker. It was disturbing, but it ended up being accurate. Luckily it wasn't me. LOL. But then again, I got over caring a long time ago.

    I used to work for a large company, in sales, run by old white Republicans, and it was definitely a "Good Ol' Boys" club. People ended up finding out about me, and while every once in a while, I got the impression someone was uncomfortable about it, in the end, it didn't really matter to me.

    Sometimes, we can imagine the worst and it really doesn't matter.
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    Jul 20, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    Hapuna saidDoes any one of you have this fear? I am so scared of people finding out about me and might use that against me at work. I work at a very competitive company and I don't want people to use that agains me. icon_sad.gif


    Living in fear is a terrible thing. You are giving power to others.
  • waccamatt

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    Jul 20, 2012 1:48 AM GMT
    I've been out at work since about a week or two after I started 18 years ago. I've never missed out on a promotion because of being out of the closet. I think you're needlessly afraid.
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    Jul 20, 2012 1:51 AM GMT
    No fear here. This is a way for people to gain control over you. They may not know you're gay, but they'll know you're weak, and treat like it.
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    Jul 20, 2012 1:54 AM GMT
    braddomo saidI was always asked privately but never admitted. They didn't need to know who I wanted to have sex with. I had a roommate that was fired from a sales job. The boss set him up with a date with a woman. And then he asked her if he was gay. This happened in the late 90s. He was let go... and years later found out from a friend that also worked there that he was fired for being gay. Yes it sucks to have to worry about your job.



    This is retarded.

    #1 You can sue the pants off of someone for firing you for your sexual preference!

    #2 Even if you do risk getting fired, where the hell is your integrity? Is your job really more important than standing up for who you are and living an honest and open life? Spineless "men" like your friend turn my stomach.

    #3 "They didn't need to know who I wanted to have sex with." This is the lamest excuse on Earth. When will you guys grow up and realize this isn't about who you're having sex with? Do your coworkers not casually mention their girlfriends and wives at work? Why the fuck can't you do the same? And I won't even get into the way straight guys talk about women they're sexually attracted to...."did you see those tits brah?"
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    Jul 20, 2012 1:55 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Hapuna saidDoes any one of you have this fear? I am so scared of people finding out about me and might use that against me at work. I work at a very competitive company and I don't want people to use that agains me. icon_sad.gif


    Living in fear is a terrible thing. You are giving power to others.

    Very true. Every angry ex or friendship gone wrong has power over you if they threaten to call or stop at your workplace as well as any coworker or supervisor that may see you going into a gay bar or coffee shop. Some people in very competitive job fields may not have as much of a choice as the rest of us, but it is not the way I want to live.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jul 20, 2012 1:56 AM GMT
    waccamatt saidI've been out at work since about a week or two after I started 18 years ago. I've never missed out on a promotion because of being out of the closet. I think you're needlessly afraid.


    I think it all depends on your co-workers. Before my boss at my previous job found out, all was well....afterward...he started to throw gay slurs every time he was around. I eventually left and started my own business. icon_confused.gif
  • Medjai

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    Jul 20, 2012 2:02 AM GMT
    Here's what I've learned: if you don't make a big deal out of it, neither will they.

    I work in a very competitive, homophobic environment. I'm out. I don't talk about my life outside work often, and even then it's vague. Personal life and work should be seperate anyways. So unless you're trying to sleep with your coworkers, it shouldn't come up much anyways...
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    Jul 20, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    Sorry bud...not a place I would work at...got my man's picture on my locker, proud as shit of him. If they don't like it, they can take their pictures down, like I want to see their ugly family all the time anyway.
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    Jul 24, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I took my BF to a minor league baseball game on Saturday, by the time I showed up on Monday morning, the gossip machine was in high gear.icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 24, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    Buster57 saidI took my BF to a minor league baseball game on Saturday, by the time I showed up on Monday morning, the gossip machine was in high gear.icon_lol.gif

    Just wait till a cute male coworker is a little to flirtatious and the bf shows you all the text he got concerning it...
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    Jul 24, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    The only reason why I would be is because my coworker who I'm not into (and wouldn't date anyway because you don't shit where you ear) is into me and thinks I'm 100% straight. =/