singles saidI can easily find hookups but not friends. I prefer friendship over hookups, therefore I have rejected numerous offers.
I am finding it hard to find a friend. Why is that? Can gay men at least be friends at first? It seems not.
Most people in our society (gay or straight - and I would not think Canada much different from the US) make their close friends in their 20's and early 30's. So trying to make close friends in your 40's is more difficult. As for sex and friendship - in the gay world, a lot of friends evolve out of former potentially romantic sex encounters, where the romantic part has faded, but the liking remains. That was certainly my experience. There is a place for meaningless sex. But (if you are able to date), you can keep meaningless sex hookups in a different category from dates
, where you actually find some connection made before having sex - and you actually spend the night together - something that doesn't happen often today (so I am told by my promiscuous friends) as a result of a "hookup."