Social Anxiety...anyone struggle?

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    Jul 20, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    I have struggled for two years,some days are better than others--any suggestions to rid of this horrible affliction?icon_cry.gif
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    Jul 20, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
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    Jul 20, 2012 2:46 AM GMT
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    Jul 20, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    jdukay24 said I have struggled for two years,some days are better than others--any suggestions to rid of this horrible affliction?icon_cry.gif
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    What are the symptoms? Are you very shy? Or do you experience panic attacks in social situations? Is your discomfort related to the size of the crowd? Are you OK one-on-one, or in small groups?
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    jdukay24 said I have struggled for two years,some days are better than others--any suggestions to rid of this horrible affliction?icon_cry.gif
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    What are the symptoms? Are you very shy? Or do you experience panic attacks in social situations? Is your discomfort related to the size of the crowd? Are you OK one-on-one, or in small groups?



    --Its when I talk to people--It usually starts with my eye contact. I have trouble issuing eye contact for long periods of time, then I start to think well maybe this person thinks I'm a liar because I can't maintain eye contact-then I am completely in my head and when its my time to talk I start to stumble over my words/sweat/look away. Its not fun.
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    Jul 20, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    jdukay24 said--Its when I talk to people--It usually starts with my eye contact. I have trouble issuing eye contact for long periods of time, then I start to think well maybe this person thinks I'm a liar because I can't maintain eye contact-then I am completely in my head and when its my time to talk I start to stumble over my words/sweat/look away. Its not fun.

    And when did this start? As long as you can remember, or as a teen? Could you ever speak easily with people? Was there a change, that you can relate to a particular event, or a phase in your life? For instance, did it start as a HS Junior, or when you came out?
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    Jul 20, 2012 3:22 AM GMT
    When making eye contact in conversation, look "through" them rather than looking at their eyes... That helped me quite a bit!
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    Jul 20, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    jdukay24 said
    Art_Deco said
    jdukay24 said I have struggled for two years,some days are better than others--any suggestions to rid of this horrible affliction?icon_cry.gif
    icon_smile.gif

    What are the symptoms? Are you very shy? Or do you experience panic attacks in social situations? Is your discomfort related to the size of the crowd? Are you OK one-on-one, or in small groups?



    --Its when I talk to people--It usually starts with my eye contact. I have trouble issuing eye contact for long periods of time, then I start to think well maybe this person thinks I'm a liar because I can't maintain eye contact-then I am completely in my head and when its my time to talk I start to stumble over my words/sweat/look away. Its not fun.


    When you talk to someone and are looking at them, let your eyes go a bit out of focus so that you are seeing not only their eyes, but you are looking at them like you would be a picture where you see them and all the background as well ... focusing in on the eyes when talking to someone is reserved for just brief moments, flirtations and intimate conversations ... I would think when speaking to your family you don't stare deep into there eyes when you are speaking with them ... or do you?
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    Jul 20, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    Its different with family--Like my immediate family. I can look @ with no problem. Its just different people. Looking through someone throws me off cause I can't pay attention to the context of what the person is saying. As far as when this started it started at the age of 23...so about 4 years.