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    Jul 20, 2012 6:08 AM GMT
    A little background info first. I've only come out to three people in my life before today. It's definitely a very slow process for me and I'm still getting used to it. I've been talking a lot to my close friend recently and I told him that I was ready to take the next step and tell more people. So I did.

    I came out to a group of 7-8 people today. I've been hanging out with this group of friend a lot. They have made my transfer to my current university much more fun and welcoming. Today I was finally comfortable enough to break the news to them, and it went a lot better than I expected. They were so supportive of me!

    It was so funny. After coming out, I immediately became a chick magnet and the three girls in our group showed a lot of interest in me, more than what I was used to haha They already offered to take me to a gay club next week! The rest of the guys were really cool with it, joked around with the girls, and were there for me. My one gay friend in the group was very supportive, and gave me a lot of advice, saying how he's been through the whole process and knows how tough it is.

    I am just so grateful of how supportive my friends are. A year ago, I told myself that I would never come out to anyone and I was just gonna hide it for the rest of my life. But now, it feels so surreal. I feel like my mind has been cleared and uplifted.

    I definitely have a long way to go still. I still have to tell my high school friends, who I'm really close with. But they will be much more harder to tell since I don't know about their stance on homosexuality, unlike my college friends. And by far the greatest challenge is coming out to my parents. I come from a very traditional and conservative family, so that doesn't help at all.

    Still, I feel great today for taking that big step and I'm proud of myself. Things can only look up from here =)
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    Jul 20, 2012 5:59 PM GMT
    Congratulations! Coming out's a big deal and getting a positive reaction makes it so much easier. It sounds like you have a great group of friends there, which are hard to find. Before you know it you'll be out to everyone and all will be wellicon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 21, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    Sparks saidCongratulations! Coming out's a big deal and getting a positive reaction makes it so much easier. It sounds like you have a great group of friends there, which are hard to find. Before you know it you'll be out to everyone and all will be wellicon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks!

    I live in a very progressive environment (DC area), so that certainly helps a lot. I can imagine how tough it is for people who live in a more conservative area.
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    Jul 21, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    I am in the same boat as you slowly coming out to close family and friends first so I know how good it feels when you come out to the right people and they are supportive. So far most have been supportive. Not all but most. The ones I really care about have been supportive. the others I cut out of my life.

    I am so happy for you that they showed you love and support. It must be such a relief of something you have feared happening all your life suddenly is not bad at all.

    What is also great is those relationships of friends who reacted positively to you coming out grow even stronger then they were when you realize they care about the real you and love you no matter what.

    Several of my friendships and relationships with family members got so much stronger after I came out to them.

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    Jul 21, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    Clusp..Congrats!!..
    You have done a smart thing in coming out first to people that seem to care about you...!! I wish you the best..and remember..baby Steps!!
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    Jul 21, 2012 3:20 AM GMT
    Why are you telling us? Tell your friends. They're the ones who accepted you and made you feel better. We don't even know you.

    BTW, congrats! Now prepare for the rest of your life. "Coming out" is a lifetime process. It was easy this time, but as you encounter more people, you'll have to "come out" to them as well. This includes family, future business associates, future friends, etc.

    Sorry to be the party pooper...just throwing out some reality. But also in reality, I'm truly happy that your first coming out experience was awesome. I wish mine coulda been that way. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 21, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Im so glad it went great!! Thanks for sharing it