Now or Never

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    Aug 08, 2008 2:05 PM GMT
    The day is finally here. I am coming out to my family. I have tried to come up so many times over the past year. Each time finding an excuse why I should wait. The wait is over. I told some of my family to sign up for a race I will be running in this weekend. I wanted them to run with me knowing that my boyfriend would be there....kind of force me to do it and finally acknowledge him as someone important in my life. My older brother and his wife will be there. I can do the whole were friends routine but i dont want to have my other friends and boyfriend lie like that for me. I did want to tell my twin brother first so im going to have to tell him today or tomorrow. Theres alot going on in my head right now. My heart is racing and my stomach is doing flips. I can already hear my family calling me telling me that they are praying for me and that I have disappointed them. But this is something I know I have to do.

    I feel nauseous
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    Aug 08, 2008 2:11 PM GMT
    Best of luck to you, man. It's a big step, but you'll feel great about it afterward. Make sure to let us know how it goes!
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    Aug 08, 2008 2:14 PM GMT
    Congratulations. You are taking a huge step. One thing you will hopefully find is that you will feel the weight being lifted off of your shoulders. You won't realize what an impact on you the fear has had until it's gone. Try to focus on how you will feel after you've told everyone. Imagine being happier and taking your relationship with your boyfriend to a whole new level.

    Also, remember to give your family time to understand and accept that you are gay; recognize that they will need an adjustment period. Try not to hold anything they say or do against them during this time - but hopefully you won't have to. Your family will come through this much stronger and better.

    You're not a disappointment to your family and it's good that you showed them you love them enough to tell them. I know people here in NY who have no relationship with their family members because they don't want to come out to them.

    Please let us know how things go.
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    Aug 08, 2008 2:25 PM GMT
    Good Luck!

    Judging from your past posts, I think you come from a very religious family, right?

    Anyway, there were posts here about reconciling religion with being gay and some would be good recommended reading for your family if ever.

    Anyway, I'm jealous. I'm still not ready for my own family.

    Just remember, after this, no more lying. That's worth whatever anxiety it might bring imo. So again, best of luck! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 08, 2008 2:49 PM GMT
    Remember these are the people who raised you. They deserve to know who you are exactly.

    Live the truth. No looking back!

    PM8
  • MattyC0709

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    Aug 08, 2008 3:35 PM GMT
    icon_biggrin.gif GOOD LUCK, and FINGERS CROSSED! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 08, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    We're with ya in spirit... chin up.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 08, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    You'll feel like a huge weight is lifted from you afterwards -- hope it goes well.
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    Aug 08, 2008 3:41 PM GMT
    wow...that is a big step and like others, I can tell you that when it's over, you'll feel a BIG weight off your shoulders. Good luck, it will be a great feelings!
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    Aug 08, 2008 3:46 PM GMT
    Awww gymguy1....HUGS! Best of luck to ya!
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    Aug 08, 2008 3:49 PM GMT
    Hopefully things will go well. Remember though people sometimes act out of character when upset or shocked. It may take some of your family members a bit of time to adjust to the news.
  • gumbosolo

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    Aug 08, 2008 4:09 PM GMT
    Way to go, man. You're doing them and yourself a huge kindness . . . the nausea passes.

    Let us know how it goes!
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    Aug 08, 2008 4:15 PM GMT
    You are a hero. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 08, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    Best of luck man! Once you've finally done it, it feels like the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders. Like PHLmuscle said, you've got to live your life being who you are and letting the ones you love, know who you are too.

    You'll be in our thoughts icon_smile.gif

    Big HUG!
    -Gary

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    Aug 08, 2008 4:44 PM GMT
    Good Luck gymguy1. It is a major step. You will feel so much better about it in the long run. You are a good person andd your family knows that. Just remember their reaction may not be what you expect but give them time. We are all here to support you if you need us! icon_wink.gif
  • EricLA

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    Aug 08, 2008 4:52 PM GMT
    All the best, Gymguy. I'm sure it wont' be as bad as you think it will be, and I'm positive the relief you will feel afterwards will be massive. You're being true to yourself, so any negative reaction they may have is on them and no reflection on you.
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    Aug 08, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
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    We're all rootin' for ya!
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    Aug 09, 2008 12:08 AM GMT
    When I go sky diving, still before I let go of that plan. I am a mess.

    But as soon as I let go. i go into counting, and do what I have to do. When the shoot opens and all is OK. The mush is well gone.

    Somethings are worse before you take the dive. Then when it's done, you receive the joys.

    I truly hope all goes well for you, and I will pray for you too.

    Kind regards.
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    Aug 09, 2008 11:15 AM GMT
    Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. I definitely need it. It has finally set in that I have to tell my twin today so right now im a little bit of a wreck. I will remember your kind words and advice when im telling my brothers.
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    Aug 11, 2008 10:46 PM GMT
    I did it. I told my twin brother. He was cool with it. He said it didnt change anything. He didnt even sound shocked. We spoke on the phone for over 30 minutes. He also said some people had asked him before in the past. Like his wife, my ex-girlfriend and my mother. But I do feel good that I finally did it.

    Thanks again for all your support.
  • Timbales

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    Aug 11, 2008 10:48 PM GMT
    Best of luck, it's may be a bit like ripping off a Band-Aid, but it'll get better.
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    Aug 12, 2008 1:25 PM GMT
    Congratulations, Gymguy! I'm glad your twin brother took it well. Will he be any ally for you with the rest of the family?