Somewhat unfaithful

  • acesguy20

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    Jul 23, 2012 5:33 PM GMT
    So ive been dating my boyfriend for the last 6 months or so and weve had our ups and downs but more ups, but I also have always been scared that I wsn't the only one he was interested in as this is my first relationship with a guy.

    He is older than I and of course more experienced with being with men and dating men than I have of course. I have fallen in love with him, he is the only guy ive had sex with, and I thought he was in love with me.

    The other night (it was wrong of me to do this; but im glad I did this) but I went into his facebook messages and there were countless messages wth guys that he hit up saying sup, or messages where he exchanged numbers with etc.

    We had a big fight about it, and he said he was sorry and it was bc he got bored or was either mad at me for something and just wanted to talk and then went to insure me that he hasn't met up with any guy, has no desire to talk to another guy or meet any one else. I stayed with him that night, and we got over the fight and was back to normal.

    The thing is its all still stuck in my head and it does really hurt and I want to beleive him that Im who he continues to want and hes done with the hitting up random guys on facebook. He said he would delete it, but i told him to keep it, i mean why delete it now that he got caught?

    Any advice on what to do or suggestions? Maybe its something im doing wrong that he needs other attention?
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    Jul 23, 2012 10:57 PM GMT
    First off that was a huge violation of trust that you did that. Second you are upset at him for doing what you are currently doing. Third if you don't like him being hit on why does your profile say single, and what you are looking for with no mention that you are involved in a relationship...Just sayin (troll)
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    Jul 23, 2012 10:59 PM GMT
    It's no big deal. I hope you can get over it and make up.
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:00 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidWell, the question I need answered before I can answer yours is: you have a torso like that, and you call yourself "stocky"? icon_confused.gificon_eek.gif


    Sock account lol
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidWell, the question I need answered before I can answer yours is: you have a torso like that, and you call yourself "stocky"? icon_confused.gificon_eek.gif


    Maybe she doesn't know what it means?
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:03 PM GMT
    acesguy20 saidSo ive been dating my boyfriend for the last 6 months or so and weve had our ups and downs but more ups, but I also have always been scared that I wsn't the only one he was interested in as this is my first relationship with a guy.

    He is older than I and of course more experienced with being with men and dating men than I have of course. I have fallen in love with him, he is the only guy ive had sex with, and I thought he was in love with me.

    The other night (it was wrong of me to do this; but im glad I did this) but I went into his facebook messages and there were countless messages wth guys that he hit up saying sup, or messages where he exchanged numbers with etc.

    We had a big fight about it, and he said he was sorry and it was bc he got bored or was either mad at me for something and just wanted to talk and then went to insure me that he hasn't met up with any guy, has no desire to talk to another guy or meet any one else. I stayed with him that night, and we got over the fight and was back to normal.

    The thing is its all still stuck in my head and it does really hurt and I want to beleive him that Im who he continues to want and hes done with the hitting up random guys on facebook. He said he would delete it, but i told him to keep it, i mean why delete it now that he got caught?

    Any advice on what to do or suggestions? Maybe its something im doing wrong that he needs other attention?


    I would of left at the first 'sup'.
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:05 PM GMT
    So, you cheat on your boyfriend, he finds the messages preceeding the cheating, gets in a huge fight with you, then you come on RJ pretending to be your bf to see what others will think about it.

    Well, now you know what I think. I think you're full of shit.
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    immature, insecure, sneaky, underhanded....story and profile don't match up....LIAR.....TROll? good luck with your drama real or imagined....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    Troll fail.
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    Jul 23, 2012 11:40 PM GMT
    OP: You have started 4 threads in the past all relating to the same problem (one of them you pretend the problem is happening to a 'friend').
    In each thread you mention the age gap as being a problem AND that you checked his Facebook each time to catch him talking with other guys.
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    Jul 25, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    I will give a different response from guys that have been saying that it was a huge violation of trust. A huge violation of trust is when someone continues to chat/give out their numbers when one is in a monogamous relationship. If u guys are just dating, it might be a violation of trust but if u r in a monogamous relationship, u make an agreement to be faithful to one another for good or for bad. It is after u have had a smorgasbord of entrees and u have decided on just one particular entree because it is the most compatible and suitable for u. If u still want a buffet, a little bit of everything then u r not ready for a relationship. Therefore, it is not a breach of trust when u check up on ur bf's activity once in a while especially if u have inkling that he might not be faithful. I don't believe in blind trust on someone; ppl tend to fuck up and it's your job to make sure u r not in any type of damaging relationship whether its emotional or physical and if u suspect that u might be the victim, get the hell out as fast as u can. I have been in a toxic relationship in the past and I don't want to be in one again. I don't believe in what the guys SAY, no matter how much they preach innocence or ask for redemption, I look at their actions and their track records. I do believe in second chances but u better prove urself twice as hard to believe u again. You'll learn from mistakes, hope u play safe.
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    Jul 25, 2012 4:46 PM GMT
    Anyone here know a good cheesecake recipe???

    My base is
    I can sweetened condense milk
    2 packs creme cheese
    2 cups gran. sugar
    3 eggs
    1/4 cup lemon juice
    1/2 tsp salt
    1 Tblsp vanilla x-tract
    1 cup ricotta cheese

    i use this base to make ..
    pineapple, strawberry
    Blueberry,guava
    cinamon apple fudge
    White chocolate mango
    white chocolate pinaple..

    Anyone wanna trade cheesecake recipes..???
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    Jul 26, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidAnyone here know a good cheesecake recipe???

    My base is
    I can sweetened condense milk
    2 packs creme cheese
    2 cups gran. sugar
    3 eggs
    1/4 cup lemon juice
    1/2 tsp salt
    1 Tblsp vanilla x-tract
    1 cup ricotta cheese

    i use this base to make ..
    pineapple, strawberry
    Blueberry,guava
    cinamon apple fudge
    White chocolate mango
    white chocalate pinaple..

    Anyone wanna trade cheesecake recipes..???


    Mmmmmm! That recipe looks GREAT! And, it's wheat free!!!!!
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