Jul 24, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
So basically I just had a shitty encounter with a guy the past 3 days. So this guy smiles at me on adam4adam and (his name is Zeal) starts a conversation we start talking and flirting have a lot in common and this conversation goes on for a while. Eventually he asks me out right on the spot and since (me being the inexperienced gay I am and just having met him) go with my gut and politely turn him down and I say I wanna talk with him more before we do anything which he says he understands. I ask for his number but he refuses to give to to me stating "i don't want someone's number if he isn't planning to be real outside.. just don't want another number in my phone.. u know it's depressing to look at how many people's number you have in phone and they aren't even friends with you outside.. i'm sick of it already... sorry i can't do phone romance.. please spare me the drama if you are so scared to meet me outside." which I found odd because I was planning on meeting him once we got to know each other better so instead he added me on facebook and we concluded the conversation and he logged out. Next day I tried to instigate another conversation however he didn't answer me the entire day. The next day (yesterday) I began to read his about me second of his facebook and his blog (which was linked on his facebook) and found him to quite and intellectual and deep person. i was also quite attracted to him initially so I felt bad for turning him down flat when he asked me out the first time because of my past experiences with guys and decided to message him again to ask if he wanted to do something this weekend. However he responded he was seeing someone and didn't want to talk to multiple guys while dating but said if it didn't work out he would keep me in mind. Which made me feel not only bad about missing out on a nice guy but also feeling like I'm his back-up. So later that day I found out Zeal (the guy) was chatting with a friend of mine (also on adam4adam) and trying to arrange a hook up with him. Zeal told my friend he was single the same day after telling me he was seeing someone. I asked my friend to work me into the conversation (to see his reaction) and my friend suggested the 3 of us hangout Zeal didn't know we were friends. Then Zeal said that he saw my facebook pictures and that I was ugly and I wasn't cute, I seemed clingy, he didn't want to deal with my insecure drama and that he didn't believe i was a virgin. So yeah needless to say I was pissed and so we both confronted him about it he was pissed and we stop talking so yeah. But my point is that it pissed me off that he lied and made up this whole excuse to avoid me when all he had to say was he wasn't interested. It pissed me off more him lying and me catching him in a lie. Not to mention this whole ordeal makes me feel ugly. I mean I know I'm not everyones type but I never had anyone flat out say I was ugly before I was pretty self conscious about my looks before this and thought I was just ok.