Making changes - Moving forward - Deleting profiles

  • fitginger

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    Jul 24, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    So today I decided that I should take some bold steps towards improving my love life and perhaps even quality of life... I spend so much time thinking about guys, checking if I have any messages from strangers that I decided that I should be more interested in my friends, family and my personal goals. If all of those things fall in line then maybe I will find something else.



    I deleted Grindr from my phone.

    I removed my Gaydar.co.uk profile

    I deleted Fitlads.net profile

    I deleted Recon.com profile

    I deleted Trackies.com profile




    The only profile I have kept is this one.... Which I decided to keep purely because of the amount of useful information that you can find here.

    Hope I get to see some changes in my life. I hope that I have the guts to make it stay that way.
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    Jul 24, 2012 7:02 PM GMT
    I think change is a good thing and it starts with action, which you have done. Best of luck and I hope you find what you are looking for. BTW, there is a lot of useful information on this forum. I myself am focused on improving my health and there is no better place to go.icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 24, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    Same here. I've got a couple of mobile apps and it's a big time suck. I'll probably delete them soon. Not sure about keeping my RJ account though. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 24, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    Useful information? On this site? icon_confused.gif Stuart, you really need to stay on your meds...
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    Jul 24, 2012 7:37 PM GMT
    I deleted my my fabguys account last week when I realised how toxic it was.

    Still struggling with gaydar but I always knew realjock would be the one I would keep even though there is pretty much zero chance of me ever meeting anyone from on here due to my location.
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    Jul 24, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    Whenever my life doesn't seem to be working I write a new profile and click save changes.
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    Jul 24, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    Those are great goals. I hope these steps help you make progress toward them. It never hurts to shake things up a bit now and again. Good luck bud - and I'm glad you're not leaving RJ.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jul 24, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    I usually just delete the verbage and pics and disable them if possible, I never know if I might want to go check them out again sometime. That way if I do, it is easier then going back an answering all the stupid questions again.
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    Jul 24, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    Several of my pals constantly "delete all profiles"...only to end up bored/lonely/restless/whatever two weeks later and create all new profiles. I always tell them, if those things bother you so much, just step away. Having a profile/app doesn't mean you have to actually use it.
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    Jul 24, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    LOL, I didn't do that until after I found my guy. icon_lol.gif

    I understand why you would, though. Good luck!
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    Jul 24, 2012 9:34 PM GMT
    Omg ..you guys have accounts on all these sites!!??
    Hmm..I am totally slacking !!
    I'm the only one in my circle that doesnt have Grindr..
    Fair to say i'm a little ..'over it'..
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    Jul 24, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    Firebrand saidUseful information? On this site? icon_confused.gif Stuart, you really need to stay on your meds...


    Well... he just supplied me with the names of five other websites that I didn't know about. Useful, however? We'll wait and see! ;)
  • Labrat2011

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    Jul 25, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    Yes the sites can eat away at the hands of time...and once they are on your phone, they can be somewhat evil...

    I agree though, that RJ is a great site, and wouldn't delete your profile from here.
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    Jul 25, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    Confession: I have never even looked at Grindr before
    the only profile I have on a gay site is this one
    good call on keeping it - full of info and good guys here
  • fitginger

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    Aug 24, 2012 9:12 AM GMT
    Well guys,

    Its been about 2 months now since I deleted all my profiles and apps.

    I can honestly say that while missing the habit of logging in and checking for messages, I'm really not fazed that they aren't there anymore.

    Sure, some day in the future I might decided to rejoin some of the sites, but for right now it feels good. I can focus more on my friends and family. Which are the most important people.... After myself and the gym of course!!
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    Aug 24, 2012 9:53 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidOmg ..you guys have accounts on all these sites!!??
    Hmm..I am totally slacking !!
    I'm the only one in my circle that doesnt have Grindr..
    Fair to say i'm a little ..'over it'..



    Salute you my friend!!
    To the OP, welcome back, the world missed you!
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    Aug 24, 2012 10:17 AM GMT
    This is the only site I use anyway, except for a4a a couple times a year when the company sends me to BFE.

    Hookup sites are designed for closeted gays who wanna get a quick nut. They're useless for people who are open and comfortable with their sexuality.
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    Aug 24, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    I only have 2 profiles out there. This one and grindr lol.
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    Aug 24, 2012 2:12 PM GMT
    A very good step indeed, did the same thing a while ago and feels so much better and the free time is just a bonus.
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    Aug 24, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    I fail to see how deleting those apps will improve your love life. You're single and I'm sure you are using those apps to connect with someone. There is nothing wrong with that!

    I know many people who use all those apps and don't have a problem finding dates and boyfriends. Perhaps you are reacting to frustration? That's okay, everyone gets to that point from time to time.
  • fitginger

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    Aug 27, 2012 11:49 AM GMT
    Lakeview27 saidI fail to see how deleting those apps will improve your love life. You're single and I'm sure you are using those apps to connect with someone. There is nothing wrong with that!

    I know many people who use all those apps and don't have a problem finding dates and boyfriends. Perhaps you are reacting to frustration? That's okay, everyone gets to that point from time to time.



    Maybe it is frustration. Perhaps I just need a break from so much gay! I think I had convinced myself the more profiles I had the more chance I had of meeting someone!
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    Aug 27, 2012 12:11 PM GMT
    Aside from Grindr I have never heard of the other sites. Is that a good thing? icon_eek.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 27, 2012 12:27 PM GMT
    To the OP: Congrats for doing that a month ago... I hope you haven't missed them and have found more beneficial ways to improve things.
    Give us an update of you think of it.
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    Aug 27, 2012 12:58 PM GMT
    I've done this before, but I began to realize removing those apps from my phone/deleting profiles on websites is only an end-of-pipe solution, and the real problem that you have will come back to haunt you.

    Why do you think you are constantly logging back onto those apps/websites to check whether you got the message or not? Where does the insecurity that you feel from being a part of those social networking tools come from?

    I am by no means trying to demean the tough steps you've taken to distance yourself from such a stressful environment, but I think you should also look into what it is about these social networking tools that are causing you all these burdening sentiments.
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    Aug 27, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    k3l3k0 saidConfession: I have never even looked at Grindr before


    Score 1 for k3I3k0. Me either. Grindr...just seems so tasteless.