Jul 24, 2012 10:07 PM GMT
me and my partner have been together 3 years in sept. it has been amazing so far, we met,clicked and moved in really fast. no idea why just made sense at the time, not the sort of thing i would normally do.
the problem is we had this chat the other night, and i kind of came to the conclusion that we have almost noting in common. i know this sounds like a no brainer already, but , we function really well as a couple, ie we live and earn well, we absolutely care about each others well being first and foremost. we love each other, but it seems we have zero common interest.
for example, i spend most nights writing fingerstyle compositions for accoustic guitar, i love it, and have been playing for 17 years. he really likes my playing, but seems not to take any other interest. this is obviously something that is important in my life, and yet he has no desire to get involved at all, never asks me what they are about (most about him lol), ie themes, i have no idea which one is his favourite etc.
i have alot of tattoos, i have no idea which ones he likes.
i have gained 150lbs in the last 4 and a half years edit:deliberately through weightlifting lol, all he says is that he likes that i am happier now...
the list just goes on and it is exactly the same the other way around. i love that he loves the things that he does, and i only care that they make him happy, i just simply have no interest in those things, although he doesnt really "do" things, just enjoys different peoples company i think.
please share your opinions guys, i am really getting stressed about this, and have absolutely no friends with whom i can openly talk without grossing them out, or getting, man up dude. or some other emotional barrier enforcing nonsense.
i am really upset about this right now and feeling really isolated.what do you think am i just overeacting????