After how many dates do you make it official and just how do I do it ?

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    Jul 25, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    Hey guys been seeing this guy and really like him a lot ..

    Was just wondering how many dates do I have to go on with him in order to make it official and how do I ask him ...

    "can you be my boyfriend " doesn't sound good thanks for your help guys

    Take cAre
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:37 PM GMT
    For me..dating at least 3 times a week for 3 months...
    36.. just old fashioned i guess..icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    Never.

    Whenever the word "boyfriend" is introduced into the relationship, guys start acting weird and possessive.

    FWB's are much more tolerable and enjoyable to be around.
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:50 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidNever.

    Whenever the word "boyfriend" is introduced into the relationship, guys start acting weird and possessive.

    FWB's are much more tolerable and enjoyable to be around.

    Paul are you a needy b*tch in a relationship? icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:50 PM GMT
    Asking someone to be your boyfriend should be done with great thought. I would date for a year before asking that question. And not dating exclusively either.
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:50 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys been seeing this guy and really like him a lot ..

    Was just wondering how many dates do I have to go on with him in order to make it official and how do I ask him ...

    "can you be my boyfriend " doesn't sound good thanks for your help guys

    Take cAre


    whenever it feels right for you, i kinda said, "so....are we like a thing now?" with fear and humiliation oozing from my expression, in anticipation of the GOD NO and raptious laughter that would surely follow.

    but he replied with a hefty sigh of relief "my god i thought you would never ask, so we are finally bf and bf" .

    quite unexpected was an amaaaaaaazing night to follow though icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:53 PM GMT
    ozgreenguy said
    paulflexes saidNever.

    Whenever the word "boyfriend" is introduced into the relationship, guys start acting weird and possessive.

    FWB's are much more tolerable and enjoyable to be around.

    Paul are you a needy b*tch in a relationship? icon_lol.gif
    No, but I've been known to date a needy bitch or two. Dropped'em like a bad habit pronto. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:56 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    ozgreenguy said
    paulflexes saidNever.

    Whenever the word "boyfriend" is introduced into the relationship, guys start acting weird and possessive.

    FWB's are much more tolerable and enjoyable to be around.

    Paul are you a needy b*tch in a relationship? icon_lol.gif
    No, but I've been known to date a needy bitch or two. Dropped'em like a bad habit pronto. icon_lol.gif

    Damn that excludes a lot of the gay population lol
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    Jul 25, 2012 9:58 PM GMT
    ozgreenguy said
    paulflexes said
    ozgreenguy said
    paulflexes saidNever.

    Whenever the word "boyfriend" is introduced into the relationship, guys start acting weird and possessive.

    FWB's are much more tolerable and enjoyable to be around.

    Paul are you a needy b*tch in a relationship? icon_lol.gif
    No, but I've been known to date a needy bitch or two. Dropped'em like a bad habit pronto. icon_lol.gif

    Damn that excludes a lot of the gay population lol
    That's why I only have FWB's. They're rare. icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 25, 2012 9:59 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I were pretty much inseperable from the first day we met. We never discussed going from dating to being boyfriends, but after a year we moved in together. We've been together for eight years now (living together for 7) and we celebrate our anniversary on the thursday before Pride each year, which was the day we met.

    I guess my point is that everyone is different and there no rules to go by.
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    Jul 25, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidMy boyfriend and I were pretty much inseperable from the first day we met. We never discussed going from dating to being boyfriends, but after a year we moved in together. We've been together for eight years now (living together for 7) and we celebrate our anniversary on the thursday before Pride each year, which was the day we met.

    I guess my point is that everyone is different and there no rules to go by.

    My partner and I are very much the same as you guys. Your last statement is very true - different strokes for different folks. The challenge is finding others who have similar wants and ideas on what they want from a relationship.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 25, 2012 10:08 PM GMT
    You don't ask, ever.
    Sooner or later, it will be easily understood by both of you, if boyfriends are, indeed, what you are.
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    Jul 26, 2012 12:48 AM GMT
    I'm a sane rational guy, just had my second date with a guy that I chatted with. for about 2 weeks.. our second date we both kinda said "what's going to be our anniversary date?" Both of us have been in very LTR's.. we now just act/talk like a commited couple.. I think this is my next husband!
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    Jul 26, 2012 2:22 AM GMT
    I think around the 4-5 date when both of you guys are comfortable with each other already, my last ex and I decided to be official after we had sex on our 5th date. That was about 2 weeks into it. He sort of asked me to go steady and I agreed.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 26, 2012 2:29 AM GMT
    We never did have the discussion, it just sort of happened after about 3 months.
  • Thirdbeach

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    Jul 26, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    When friends start asking "are you two dating" or "is that your boyfriend".

    That's usually a clue that you started to be in that zone
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    Jul 26, 2012 6:42 AM GMT
    Wait, we have to ask them to be our boyfriend? I just usually go around telling people without my partner knowing we're together...
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    Jul 26, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    Some guys like the official status while others don't and some don't mind it.

    My bf and I were official after 1 month of dating. He was the one who asked me and I didn't mind the official status.
  • d694485

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    Jul 26, 2012 1:21 PM GMT
    Lash saidWait, we have to ask them to be our boyfriend? I just usually go around telling people without my partner knowing we're together...


    Lol, apparently some girl thought I was dating her and told her friends, when I just thought we were friends. I thought it was pretty clear I thought she was annoying, but maybe I'm not mean enough icon_razz.gif