Jul 26, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
My man and I have been together for a year. We met on Grindr, fell in lust, then deeply in love. We are fully monogamous, planning our lives for the long term, planning to marry and are looking into finding a surrogate in the next year. This is our first same sex relationship and have recently come out to our families and close friends ( going really well). I was over Grindr when I found him, he has quit using it after a few heart felt emotional requests from me. Recently (by accident) I discovered that he has been Scruffing using a fake profile and pics. He has three years of emails, pics and vids that he has collected from dudes around the world and local. He thinks there is nothing wrong with it. We are in our mid thirties and both want stability and longevity. Our sex life is amazing and we have a solid loving foundation that is obvious to everyone who knows us. I think that this Scruffing is harmful to what we have built. He disagrees and last night we hit an impasse. I say please quit, he says he will resent me if I make him. Am I being unreasonable, is he addicted?