Is it possible to be gay and not have any feminine traits

  • Matt2004

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    Jul 27, 2012 5:13 PM GMT
    I can elaborate for example is it possible to meet a gay guy that is very masculine like the Rock and Vin Diesel. I am curious where they are because I know you can't find them at the gay bar or gay events.
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    Jul 27, 2012 5:18 PM GMT
    Yes, but you can only find them in airport restrooms and public parks behind the bushes after midnight.
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    Jul 27, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    You can't find straight guys w/o fem. qualities, it is the ratio of masc to fem. that counts. I like my men butch.
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    Jul 27, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    I need to find a way to make my body stop producing estrogen. I must become one with my butchness.
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    Jul 27, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    Me no feminine... icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 27, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
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    Jul 27, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    Matt2004 saidI can elaborate for example is it possible to meet a gay guy that is very masculine like the Rock and Vin Diesel. I am curious where they are because I know you can't find them at the gay bar or gay events.

    Most straight guys have some feminine qualities as well. You're never going to find a guy that's 100% masculine gay or straight.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    My boyfriend is not feminine at all. All of his mannerisms scream "straight." People can never tell he's gay, and if he tries to act gay it is a joke. Even his family wouldn't believe him when he came out to them. They thought I "did something to him." Every time he meets someone new or starts a new job he has to come out all over over again. Even then, people question if he's really gay, which pisses him off--a masculine trait in and of itself.

    He is only attracted to femme guys and flamers. I'm not really femme (at least I hope not, lol) but I'm without a doubt a flamer. Everyone can tell I'm gay the second I open my mouth. I once asked my boyfriend if I should try to deepen my voice, and he said no, he would be less attracted to me if I changed my voice. Weird. But if that's what it takes to keep my man happy, I will flame on, girl!

    I think we make a good match, because in our case opposites attract.
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    Jul 27, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
    Careful what you wish for.

    and if you should find one, please don't be back on here whining about how he doesn't like to cuddle, never tells you what he's feeling, or hardly reciprocates in the bedroom. set's two seats over in the movie theater, calls you a friend of friend in mixed company....
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidCareful what you wish for.

    and if you should find one, please don't be back on here whining about how he doesn't like to cuddle, never tells you what he's feeling, or hardly reciprocates in the bedroom. set's two seats over in the movie theater, calls you a friend of friend in mixed company....


    You're describing insecurity, which is different from what I thought he meant.
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    Jul 27, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    The government tried to genetically create the kind of man you are talking about, but shut down the endevour fearing the program would fall into the wrong hands.
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    Jul 27, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    Stuttershock saidThe government tried to genetically create the kind of man you are talking about, but shut down the endevour fearing the program would fall into the wrong hands.


    like LOGO or Bravo????
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    Jul 27, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    dustin_K_tx saidCareful what you wish for.

    and if you should find one, please don't be back on here whining about how he doesn't like to cuddle, never tells you what he's feeling, or hardly reciprocates in the bedroom. set's two seats over in the movie theater, calls you a friend of friend in mixed company....


    You're describing insecurity, which is different from what I thought he meant.


    You calling my dad insecure???
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    Jul 27, 2012 8:23 PM GMT
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    LOL! This never gets old. icon_biggrin.gif
  • FireDoor211

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    Jul 27, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    I would say it's impossible to meet a guy that's that masculine at gay bars and other gay events. I don't think they'd be caught dead in such a place. Try a shooting range or someplace with a mechanical bull.
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    Jul 27, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said set's two seats over in the movie theater, calls you a friend of friend in mixed company....


    A truly masculine man wouldn't give a shit about hiding those things. You're suggesting masculine gay men are ashamed of themselves. Those are two totally different things.
  • shaker1990

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    Jul 27, 2012 8:25 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidMy boyfriend is not feminine at all. All of his mannerisms scream "straight." People can never tell he's gay, and if he tries to act gay it is a joke. Even his family wouldn't believe him when he came out to them. They thought I "did something to him." Every time he meets someone new or starts a new job he has to come out all over over again. Even then, people question if he's really gay, which pisses him off--a masculine trait in and of itself.

    He is only attracted to femme guys and flamers. I'm not really femme (at least I hope not, lol) but I'm without a doubt a flamer. Everyone can tell I'm gay the second I open my mouth. I once asked my boyfriend if I should try to deepen my voice, and he said no, he would be less attracted to me if I changed my voice. Weird. But if that's what it takes to keep my man happy, I will flame on, girl!

    I think we make a good match, because in our case opposites attract.


    Wow ur bf sounds like the guy I'm looking for lol

    Congrats icon_smile.gif ur very lucky!!!
  • easterndude69

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    Jul 27, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    ANY feminine traits? Every guy has their share of feminine traits just as women have their share of masculine traits. But it's def possible to be masculine and gay. I know of a few, and I'm one as well. Now a butch guy? Havent met one yet, I'm sure they do exist, but I wouldn't worry too much about finding one of them. It's too superficial of a desire.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 27, 2012 10:39 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    HottJoe said
    dustin_K_tx saidCareful what you wish for.

    and if you should find one, please don't be back on here whining about how he doesn't like to cuddle, never tells you what he's feeling, or hardly reciprocates in the bedroom. set's two seats over in the movie theater, calls you a friend of friend in mixed company....


    You're describing insecurity, which is different from what I thought he meant.


    You calling my dad insecure???


    Straight guys (and dads) are just weird, lol.
    But a gay guy who won't sit next to his bf at a movie is way too insecure.
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    Jul 27, 2012 10:42 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidMy boyfriend is not feminine at all. All of his mannerisms scream "straight." People can never tell he's gay, and if he tries to act gay it is a joke. Even his family wouldn't believe him when he came out to them. They thought I "did something to him." Every time he meets someone new or starts a new job he has to come out all over over again. Even then, people question if he's really gay, which pisses him off--a masculine trait in and of itself.
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    this describes my bf exactly! i am however very similair, probably a little more emotional than him but people flat out refuse to believe either of us are gay, until they see how tactile and loving we are towards each other. even then the amount of "wtf am i seeing?" stares is hilarious.
  • unicoman1

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    Jul 27, 2012 10:42 PM GMT
    Is it possible? Just ask me! Not a feminine bone in my body ... "Quiet you trash!" Oh sorry that slipped
  • unicoman1

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    Jul 27, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmOQVh94iew
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    Jul 27, 2012 10:47 PM GMT
    Anyone ever notice how the ones who cry the loudest about their own masculinity are the biggest cowards about showing their faces? or verifying their profile?
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    Jul 27, 2012 10:57 PM GMT
    My ex was completely what you're describing. Met only a few others I would describe this way. They're pretty rare. And I honestly feel you have the gay community to thank for that: teaching gays that in order to be gay they have to be sassy bitches and act like women. :/
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    Jul 28, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    !s it possible to be HUMAN

    ....... and not have any feminine traits?