afraid to have SEX. :-(

  • kemoze

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    Jul 27, 2012 7:11 PM GMT
    i work in kuwait but i am egyptian, never had sex and have plans to move this year.
    went on vacation to Turkey stayed in Istanbul for 8 days this month, attended the gay pride for the first time in my life, met gay guys for the first time, went to a gay bar for the first time in my life, tried to kiss guys i met while dancing in the bar but i didnt like it at all, knew about Grindr bought iphone and when i came back to kuwait i downloaded Grindr and was surprised to see lots on guys on Grindr.

    well i dont understand why i fuck up every chance to have sex. i mean i talk to the guys and when it comes to meet up i just make any excuse even though i feel like i want to have sex but i am a relationship oriented.
    i dont know if this because i am now 23 and havent had sex ever and my body rejects any physical interact with others cuz its not used to it.
    or because i am worried about HIV stuff. or because i am a relationship oriented
    i have decided to move to Argentina because gay marriage is allowed and adoption is legal for gay couples but i am afraid that i wont be able to have sex there and that might keep me single for ever.
    or maybe i dont want to be like a whore sleep with strangers i really dont know.
    all i had now is that i met a crazy guy and we kissed in his car and he wants me to go to his place but i refuse to go. i dont know if i am saving myself to the future guy that we might be in sort of a relationship or i am not confident to do it...

    i know its very long and boring story. i am sorry but i need your opinion guys.
    last thing is that i dont like this country and maybe its another reason to refuse any sort of a relationships here.

    Xxxxxx
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    Jul 28, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    You say you're relationship oriented, so obviously you're not comfortable with finding a guy in a bar and having sex with him afterwards.

    Maybe change your approach, try to find guys with a relationship in mind rather than just thinking about the sexual aspect of being with another male. It seems to me that if you do find the right guy you will slowly start to let your guard down and finally able to explore your sexuality.

    I feel that you'll be able to cherish your first time more greatly if it's with someone you actually got to know.
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    Jul 28, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
    Why be afraid to have sex? It's not like you're gonna have babies. icon_razz.gif
  • kemoze

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    Jul 28, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    Jay1922 saidYou say you're relationship oriented, so obviously you're not comfortable with finding a guy in a bar and having sex with him afterwards.

    Maybe change your approach, try to find guys with a relationship in mind rather than just thinking about the sexual aspect of being with another male. It seems to me that if you do find the right guy you will slowly start to let your guard down and finally able to explore your sexuality.

    I feel that you'll be able to cherish your first time more greatly if it's with someone you actually got to know.



    Youre right, but when I visited turkey and saw the gay scene there I found all guys thinking of hooking up only and having fun as possible as they can. Except for a french-Latino guy who I met for only for few hours, tried to meet up again but we couldn't, all I want to see that very few of us think seriously about having a relationship while many or the majority don't like the commitment thing( relationship ).
    So, I just hope to find someone like meicon_smile.gif
  • kemoze

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    Jul 28, 2012 4:36 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhy be afraid to have sex? It's not like you're gonna have babies. icon_razz.gif


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    Loool. If I am gonna have babies I would have dated since I was 16 years old.

    I adore Kids icon_razz.gificon_confused.gif
  • Koaa2

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    Jul 29, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    I wish I had more sex, if that was possible, when I was single. Don't be afraid of it, it is only natural for men to want to have sex. I think it is better to have sex before getting into a relationship, makes you a more all rounded person in that you have had other experinces. A relationship will happen when it happens. I have met a lot of people who all they talk about is a relationship and they can never seem to find on, or one for very long. There is somthing about people who are obsessed with a realtionship, seems like they are insecure about themselves, and they think a relationship will make them whole. Not true, you have to be whole, before you have a good relationsip. Start having sex and enjoying meeting other guys. By the way, what do you think about when jacking off?
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    Jul 29, 2012 4:36 PM GMT
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    Jul 28, 2012 2:10 AM
    Why be afraid to have sex? It's not like you're gonna have babies.

    Funny.
  • kemoze

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    Jul 29, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    Koaa2 saidI wish I had more sex, if that was possible, when I was single. Don't be afraid of it, it is only natural for men to want to have sex. I think it is better to have sex before getting into a relationship, makes you a more all rounded person in that you have had other experinces. A relationship will happen when it happens. I have met a lot of people who all they talk about is a relationship and they can never seem to find on, or one for very long. There is somthing about people who are obsessed with a realtionship, seems like they are insecure about themselves, and they think a relationship will make them whole. Not true, you have to be whole, before you have a good relationsip. Start having sex and enjoying meeting other guys. By the way, what do you think about when jacking off?


    I don't think because I jack off while watching porn icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 29, 2012 6:06 PM GMT
    So why are you putting all this pressure on yourself..??
    Do not compromise these standards !
    If you are relationship oriented.. you have to walk the walk and talk the talk..
    First time i had sex i was almost 25...(36 now)....and i don't regret waiting...
    With that said..good luck !!..be safe..!!
  • kemoze

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    Jul 30, 2012 7:12 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidSo why are you putting all this pressure on yourself..??
    Do not compromise these standards !
    If you are relationship oriented.. you have to walk the walk and talk the talk..
    First time i had sex i was almost 25...(36 now)....and i don't regret waiting...
    With that said..good luck !!..be safe..!!



    Well today I have that hot, muscle, Lebanese guy who wants to meet me tonight in his place but right now at work I am thinking of an excuse even though I am dying to top a muscle guy like Francois Sagat.. ;)
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    Jul 30, 2012 7:47 AM GMT
    go ask him on a date instead
    tell him that something came up, but if he wants you can go out to eat. When you do go out tell him that you're more of a relationship kind of guy and if he likes you, he'll accept it.
  • kemoze

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    Jul 30, 2012 8:10 AM GMT
    Jay1922 saidgo ask him on a date instead
    tell him that something came up, but if he wants you can go out to eat. When you do go out tell him that you're more of a relationship kind of guy and if he likes you, he'll accept it.


    That's a great idea, but the down side is that i met two guys on a coffee date but I didn't feel anything towards them and they still text me and call me and I don't know what to tell them.

    But that guy wants only sex so I feel It won't be that fun for me..
  • great_scott

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    Jul 30, 2012 6:45 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhy be afraid to have sex? It's not like you're gonna have babies. icon_razz.gif


    Kids...AIDS...same difference.
  • Koaa2

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    Jul 30, 2012 7:59 PM GMT

    I don't think because I jack off while watching porn icon_twisted.gif[/quote]

    You still have to be thinking that you are enjoying while your are watching and stroking.
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    Jul 30, 2012 8:37 PM GMT
    It is because you are Muslim and are psychologically opposed to gay sex, which goes against the tenets of your moon religion.
  • kemoze

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    Jul 31, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
    Firebrand saidIt is because you are Muslim and are psychologically opposed to gay sex, which goes against the tenets of your moon religion.


    No it has nothing to be with my religion it's the guys mentality that keeps me away, for example that guy who I was supposed to meet at his place kept texting me since 6 am asking about my dick and kept texting the whole day about how I will fuck him and he was very weird acting like awhore, he just freaked me out. Can you imagine someone texting you at work asking ( how is your DICK) I apologized and I didn't go to his place, at the same time I went on a date with someother guy for two hours we had ice cream and we talked, he wants a relationship but I feel nothing towards him, I am not a one night stand guy and have not met the one who attracts me yet.