Sacrificing fun for fitness...is it worth it?

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    Jul 28, 2012 7:22 PM GMT
    I've been asked out by my friends tonight, but if I go out I will drink and end up with a hangover tomorrow, which means I won't eat properly and I won't be able to go to the gym etc.

    I've said no, as I'm trying to limit my drinking to every other week...but then a part of me thinks, I only live once, why not just go out as much as possible :S

    What do you reckon? Should you live every day like it's your last, or is the odd night in worth it so you can lift an extra couple of kgs on your bench press or deadlift every couple of months?
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    Jul 28, 2012 7:33 PM GMT
    I have that dilemma sometimes as well, I just started this whole diet program and weight lifting thing. However, although I am really strict about it during the week, you have to allow yourself at least one day to release a little (but not all day!). There's always a way to make up for it, because life is worth living and a drink here and there won't kill you!
  • fitone

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    Jul 28, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    i don't know why having a few drinks should keep you from working out
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    Jul 28, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    Or just go out and not drink? I hope you wouldn't be forced into drinking to have fun with your friends.
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    Jul 28, 2012 7:47 PM GMT
    You should always sacrafice things for the gym. That's a no-brainer.
    But as some just posted, why not go out with friends and not drink?
    (Alcohol is full of calories anyway!)

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    Jul 28, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    I knew you were british from your "problem".

    just don´t get pissed. Have a FEW drinks, enjoy yourself and come home. It´s NOT hard.

    This is a non-issue.
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    Jul 28, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    jonny857 saidI've been asked out by my friends tonight, but if I go out I will drink and end up with a hangover tomorrow, which means I won't eat properly and I won't be able to go to the gym etc.

    I've said no, as I'm trying to limit my drinking to every other week...but then a part of me thinks, I only live once, why not just go out as much as possible :S

    What do you reckon? Should you live every day like it's your last, or is the odd night in worth it so you can lift an extra couple of kgs on your bench press or deadlift every couple of months?


    Fun doesn't have to equal drunk. Find another group of friends you can go.camping, hiking, swimming, fishing with and other stuff thats fun but also not unhealthy for you and even healthy! (Just wear plenty sunscreen spf 30-50)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 28, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    My fitness is very important to me .. and I enjoy time with my friends.
    For me, "fun with friends" doesn't have to mean "drinking" or getting bombed on my ass.

    I'd go, limit my drinking to 2 drinks or whatever works. Have fun... and never put the "fun" of my fitness in jeopardy.
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    Jul 28, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    jonny857 saidI've been asked out by my friends tonight, but if I go out I will drink and end up with a hangover tomorrow, which means I won't eat properly and I won't be able to go to the gym etc.

    I've said no, as I'm trying to limit my drinking to every other week...but then a part of me thinks, I only live once, why not just go out as much as possible :S

    What do you reckon? Should you live every day like it's your last, or is the odd night in worth it so you can lift an extra couple of kgs on your bench press or deadlift every couple of months?


    I struggle with this all of the time. I typically will stay in on Friday nights so I can be to the gym by 6 on Saturday. On Saturday night though, I'll go out, eat as well as possible, and have a beer or two (with a lot of water). Then, I sleep in and hit the gym a little later on Sunday. You can do both. Just don't stay out too late or drink too much alcohol.

    Lastly, there are fun things to do that don't include hitting up a bar or club. Maybe you can suggest doing one of those things every so often.
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    Jul 28, 2012 7:59 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer87 said
    jonny857 saidI've been asked out by my friends tonight, but if I go out I will drink and end up with a hangover tomorrow, which means I won't eat properly and I won't be able to go to the gym etc.

    I've said no, as I'm trying to limit my drinking to every other week...but then a part of me thinks, I only live once, why not just go out as much as possible :S

    What do you reckon? Should you live every day like it's your last, or is the odd night in worth it so you can lift an extra couple of kgs on your bench press or deadlift every couple of months?


    Fun doesn't have to equal drunk. Find another group of friends you can go.camping, hiking, swimming, fishing with and other stuff thats fun but also not unhealthy for you and even healthy! (Just wear plenty sunscreen spf 30-50)


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  • Buddha

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    Jul 28, 2012 8:00 PM GMT
    Well, I'm friends with people who like to get really drunk. It's not really a coincidence that we're friends, 'cos I'm pretty much the same.

    At the same time, if I'm out and see a really well-built guy, I get self-conscious and want to exercise more; but when I start exercising I end up saying no to a lot events (just said no today to go out jogging), and then I get stuck in a thinking-rut when I think about that I'm giving up perhaps precious memories in life to go out and run all by myself. I have the same issue with drawing. It's vicious cycle.
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:01 PM GMT
    I'm not saying I only have fun drinking, but when they invite me out to drink.....I tend to drink...and being 'sensible' is boring.

    Obviously I still do normal stuff that doesn't involve drinking, but then tonight most of my mates are out and I'm sat in considering whether to start my ironing :S
  • d694485

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    Jul 28, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    Can someone explain what the fun in drinking is?
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:07 PM GMT
    d694485 saidCan someone explain what the fun in drinking is?


    I don't find drinking fun per se. I just enjoy drinking different kinds of beer and good bourbon. It tastes good.
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:09 PM GMT
    d694485 saidCan someone explain what the fun in drinking is?


    Oh God.....we British really are alcoholics icon_biggrin.gif

    The fun can't be described....it has to be experienced!

    But I gotta admit....this site is very serious, fair enough my OP was a sweeping statement, but I assumed people would read it sensibly and not take it literally :S

    I'd like to think i don't look like I spend every night downing pints down the local.....
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    In situations like this we tend to think in terms of "2 steps forward 1 step back"

    But the thing is, is that different aspects of your life are always going to pull you in one way or the other. Sometimes our goals conflict with one another. Whether it be work, socializing, your relationships, or your fitness regime.

    So rather than thinking that you have taken a step backwards in your fitness, just look at it as taking one step forwards in your social life, reaffirming your friendship with your mates and cutting loose with some fun is also an important aspect to life.

    So as long as overall you are still taking those other 2 steps and heading towards your goal then you shouldn't beat yourself up.
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    it just depends if you enjoy regular partying, or health/fitness/muscle whatever your goals are, the most.

    there is nothing at all wrong with going out at the cost of training. just dont expect to have it both ways.

    i love to party but probably like you limit myself so as to avoid under training. but thats not for everyone, just do what you would prefer to do, the odds are that partying will become less important to you over time anyway, and thats when a higher level of fitness could be a good replacement.
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    jonny857 said
    d694485 saidCan someone explain what the fun in drinking is?


    Oh God.....we British really are alcoholics icon_biggrin.gif

    The fun can't be described....it has to be experienced!

    But I gotta admit....this site is very serious, fair enough my OP was a sweeping statement, but I assumed people would read it sensibly and not take it literally :S

    I'd like to think i don't look like I spend every night downing pints down the local.....

    Cant you go out without pickling your liver? Cant you limit your intake to two drinks....or switch to a non alcoholic drink...or go home early?
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    Jul 28, 2012 8:24 PM GMT
    I've always never found the appeal in drinking from a caloric standpoint, a moral standpoint, and a socializing standpoint. The only thing I see is it is less awkward socially because you don't have to have a painful conversation on why you choose not to imbibe. Maybe in 100 years people will realize that you can socialize without psychoactive chemicals.

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    Jul 28, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    It is worth it. Having the body you want feels better than a night of drinking. Go hang out with your friends and drink soda water. You'll still have a good time because your friends are there.
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    Jul 28, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
    About a year ago I met a guy at a bar from out of town and we hit it off. It was getting late and he asked if I wanted to go back to his hotel but I declined because I had plans to go on a run with my roommate early the next morning and I wanted to do so fully refreshed on a full nights sleep. I was proud of how committed I was to the routine and to my roommate. But later that week she cancelled on me for a hookup herself! Lol.
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    Jul 28, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    Like my acupuncturist says, "everything in moderation."

    Know your body. Know your limits.

    A few empty calories once in a while probably won't affect you at your age, but you will hit a point in your life where they will start to matter. I once let myself go and I'm still paying the price by trying to lose those last five pounds (which are the hardest to lose). I can say from experience, don't ever let your diet get out of control with your lifestyle, but rather let your healthy lifestyle help control your diet. And, don't ever avoid creating great memories with your friends.
  • muscletruk

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    Jul 28, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    sense I stopped drinking for the most part on the odd occasion when I go out, I enjoy being the sober one in the club and laughing at all the drunk and there ridiculous antics.
    and I can hit the gym hard in the morning no matter whet time I stay out till
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    Jul 28, 2012 9:59 PM GMT
    You gotta do what you gotta do, but you have to have a strong will. Once in a while it wouldnt hurt but the more you will do it, the less you will hesitate next time making that decision, and thats how you get carried away from your goals.
    To me, every missed day is a step back, If I know Im going to go out, I just workout extra hard that week.
  • Litmop

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    Jul 28, 2012 10:03 PM GMT
    You look great...go have fun with your friends. Try drinking a glass of water between pints, it will limit your intake, help with the hangover and you will feel like you kept pace with your buds.