Good places to meet relationship oriented men?

  • DR2K

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    Jul 28, 2012 10:01 PM GMT
    It seems like everywhere I go sex is first and foremost and human relationships are foriegn afterthoughts.

    I've outgrown hook ups, so what are my options. I've done bars and online dating sites. All Fail.
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    Jul 28, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    You've come to the right place. Almost everyone on RJ claims to want a relationship. Happy hunting.

    Otherwise I'd try to find stuff to do with men like sports, art, games or church where the primary activity is not sex.
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    Jul 28, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    Volunteering orgs.. i would start there. Work at an HIV service (this doesn't entail that men working are going to poz.. thats a silly assumption i wanted to squash right away) but the general idea is that if you really want to find a guy who interested in dating you might want to meet in an environment where it is framed that you will meet gay men and work with them over an extent of time, get to know them first in a non sexual environment and eventually there will be mixers. Anything like Volunteering or taking a class at gay community center is strong step in that direction. You just want to meet men in a frame in which it will allow them to see you as less sexually as possible.
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    Jul 28, 2012 11:59 PM GMT
    also.. if you want to attract a relationship orientated guy.. you might want to delete your pictures... and go for more face and clothed pictures.. and write more text in your profile. More about your likes and dislikes... hobbies...and fascinations. Get them interested in YOU... not your muscles. Show pictures of you hanging out with friends.
  • DR2K

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    Jul 29, 2012 12:47 AM GMT
    JackKash saidalso.. if you want to attract a relationship orientated guy.. you might want to delete your pictures... and go for more face and clothed pictures.. and write more text in your profile. More about your likes and dislikes... hobbies...and fascinations. Get them interested in YOU... not your muscles. Show pictures of you hanging out with friends.


    I live in the south, that is fully clothed, lol.
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    Jul 29, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    DR2K said
    JackKash saidalso.. if you want to attract a relationship orientated guy.. you might want to delete your pictures... and go for more face and clothed pictures.. and write more text in your profile. More about your likes and dislikes... hobbies...and fascinations. Get them interested in YOU... not your muscles. Show pictures of you hanging out with friends.


    I live in the south, that is fully clothed, lol.



    Good One!



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    Jul 29, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    Places that are more tranquil, where many people aren't necessarily even thinking about hooking up... like museums... zoos (Probably will see nice zoologists, naturalists, animal behaviorists, photographers, artists, etc.).. plays.. and places where more cerebral, intelligent, deep thinkers would perhaps go... which will allow for more intelligent and interesting conversation. If he can't stimulate your mind.. leave him behind. Listen to some Jill Scott..
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    Jul 29, 2012 1:52 AM GMT
    I know online dating gets bashed a lot but it's worked very well for me. Get to know someone on there, go out for some coffee or a bite to eat, and go from there!
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    Jul 29, 2012 2:01 AM GMT
    Local church for gay peeps.
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    Jul 29, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    I've seen this type of thread so many times on here, and hundreds of gay guys saying the same thing, here and irl. With so many of you claiming you're looking for the same thing, why are you all still single? I don't understand.
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Jul 29, 2012 2:27 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidI've seen this type of thread so many times on here, and hundreds of gay guys saying the same thing, here and irl. With so many of you claiming you're looking for the same thing, why are you all still single? I don't understand.

    If "they" can't use the forum search box to find something that has been posted about a million times, how are "they" supposed have the skills and know-how to find a LTR ? icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 29, 2012 2:31 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidI've seen this type of thread so many times on here, and hundreds of gay guys saying the same thing, here and irl. With so many of you claiming you're looking for the same thing, why are you all still single? I don't understand.


    I don't think the question was about how many times the thread has been created. For those of us who don't thumb through every thread every day, it might be the first time seeing it. Perhaps you sir should have provided or attempted to provide an answer to what he asked instead of an off topic, unhelpful response. Since it seems you are in a relationship and also have "seen this type of thread so many times on here", it would have perhaps been easier, helpful, and not to mention a lot nicer to speak on how you obtained yours.
  • DR2K

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    Jul 29, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidI've seen this type of thread so many times on here, and hundreds of gay guys saying the same thing, here and irl. With so many of you claiming you're looking for the same thing, why are you all still single? I don't understand.


    I stated the reason, pretty clearly. I can use smaller words if you need more help understanding. icon_confused.gif

    Dominican_Gent said
    Iceblink saidI've seen this type of thread so many times on here, and hundreds of gay guys saying the same thing, here and irl. With so many of you claiming you're looking for the same thing, why are you all still single? I don't understand.

    If "they" can't use the forum search box to find something that has been posted about a million times, how are "they" supposed have the skills and know-how to find a LTR ? icon_twisted.gif


    Because it's totally the same thing. I guess I just missed all the new and fresh threads in this forum.
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    Jul 29, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    DR2K said... so what are my options...

    A long slow crawl to death. Srsly.
  • DR2K

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    Jul 29, 2012 2:37 AM GMT
    Caslon20000 said
    DR2K said... so what are my options...

    A long slow crawl to death. Srsly.


    I don't like skinny guys. icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 29, 2012 2:49 AM GMT
    I would say church functions...the Episcopal Church is practically a gay social club lol. Or a gay themed charity.I think they would be a good start.Ryan
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    Jul 29, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    DR2K saidIt seems like everywhere I go sex is first and foremost and human relationships are foriegn afterthoughts.

    I've outgrown hook ups, so what are my options. I've done bars and online dating sites. All Fail.


    try dating women.

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    Jul 29, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    OP/DR2K: You seem like a (??) guy... But it's hard to know people through a sentence or two. Fill out your bio a bit more... interests, what you find funny, what you LOVE - what turns you on in a guy, etc. If what you have here is an indication of how you've filled out bios on other websites or what you talk about with people when you meet them, then it's no wonder you're not meeting enough or the right kinds of guys(!).

    What you have on here seems quite generic to me, you could be ANYONE on this - or any other site. Make yourself stand out bio/graphically... show that you're putting some effort into who and what you are as an INDIVIDUAL. Be BOLD, be ORIGINAL, be SHARP (if you are, that is... then show it). Why are all y our pictures basically the same? No varying angles or views. How am I supposed to know what you'd look like if I saw you on the street or at a party? Why don't you have a friend take some pics? Put your camera on auto-shoot and prop it from above you so you can DO stuff with your hands and body and still be in-frame.

    Perhaps most guys (people?) just want 'the guy next door'... but I don't. I want the special edition model with the customized features and the hot multi-view/lit pics in the catalog. But hey... that's ME. icon_cool.gif
  • DR2K

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    Jul 29, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    curiouser saidOP/DR2K: You seem like a (??) guy... But it's hard to know people through a sentence or two. Fill out your bio a bit more... interests, what you find funny, what you LOVE - what turns you on in a guy, etc. If what you have here is an indication of how you've filled out bios on other websites or what you talk about with people when you meet them, then it's no wonder you're not meeting enough or the right kinds of guys(!).

    What you have on here seems quite generic to me, you could be ANYONE on this - or any other site. Make yourself stand out bio/graphically... show that you're putting some effort into who and what you are as an INDIVIDUAL. Be BOLD, be ORIGINAL, be SHARP (if you are, that is... then show it). Why are all y our pictures basically the same? No varying angles or views. How am I supposed to know what you'd look like if I saw you on the street or at a party? Why don't you have a friend take some pics? Put your camera on auto-shoot and prop it from above you so you can DO stuff with your hands and body and still be in-frame.

    Perhaps most guys (people?) just want 'the guy next door'... but I don't. I want the special edition model with the customized features and the hot multi-view/lit pics in the catalog. But hey... that's ME. icon_cool.gif


    I seem like a guy? I figured the facial hair would give it away. . .

    Not really interested in online dating.

    Blackguy4you said
    DR2K saidIt seems like everywhere I go sex is first and foremost and human relationships are foriegn afterthoughts.

    I've outgrown hook ups, so what are my options. I've done bars and online dating sites. All Fail.


    try dating women.



    Done. Next.
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    Jul 29, 2012 3:06 AM GMT
    DR2K said
    curiouser saidOP/DR2K: You seem like a (??) guy... But it's hard to know people through a sentence or two. Fill out your bio a bit more... interests, what you find funny, what you LOVE - what turns you on in a guy, etc. If what you have here is an indication of how you've filled out bios on other websites or what you talk about with people when you meet them, then it's no wonder you're not meeting enough or the right kinds of guys(!).

    What you have on here seems quite generic to me, you could be ANYONE on this - or any other site. Make yourself stand out bio/graphically... show that you're putting some effort into who and what you are as an INDIVIDUAL. Be BOLD, be ORIGINAL, be SHARP (if you are, that is... then show it). Why are all y our pictures basically the same? No varying angles or views. How am I supposed to know what you'd look like if I saw you on the street or at a party? Why don't you have a friend take some pics? Put your camera on auto-shoot and prop it from above you so you can DO stuff with your hands and body and still be in-frame.

    Perhaps most guys (people?) just want 'the guy next door'... but I don't. I want the special edition model with the customized features and the hot multi-view/lit pics in the catalog. But hey... that's ME. icon_cool.gif


    I seem like a guy? I figured the facial hair would give it away. . .

    Not really interested in online dating.

    Blackguy4you said
    DR2K saidIt seems like everywhere I go sex is first and foremost and human relationships are foriegn afterthoughts.

    I've outgrown hook ups, so what are my options. I've done bars and online dating sites. All Fail.


    try dating women.



    Done. Next.


    return to dating women
  • DR2K

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    Jul 29, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    [quote]return to dating women[/quote]

    I have a better shot at a relationship than you being funny.
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    Jul 29, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Brazilianaire said
    Iceblink saidI've seen this type of thread so many times on here, and hundreds of gay guys saying the same thing, here and irl. With so many of you claiming you're looking for the same thing, why are you all still single? I don't understand.


    I don't think the question was about how many times the thread has been created. For those of us who don't thumb through every thread every day, it might be the first time seeing it. Perhaps you sir should have provided or attempted to provide an answer to what he asked instead of an off topic, unhelpful response. Since it seems you are in a relationship and also have "seen this type of thread so many times on here", it would have perhaps been easier, helpful, and not to mention a lot nicer to speak on how you obtained yours.

    And that is not what my post is about- how many times this thread has been created. The point of bringing up the amount of threads concerning this topic and all the posts that follow is that it shows thousands of guys are saying the same thing, but somehow they all keep claiming other guys who want a relationship do not exist. With all the methods of communication that are available today, it seems it should be easier today to meet someone, but somehow it seems to be the opposite. Maybe technology has been a detriment to real life social skills, I don't know. My relationship begin with a conversation after meeting through mutual friends nearly 10 years ago. Not something planned on our friends part, we just started talking.
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    Jul 29, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Brazilianaire saidPlaces that are more tranquil, where many people aren't necessarily even thinking about hooking up... like museums... zoos (Probably will see nice zoologists, naturalists, animal behaviorists, photographers, artists, etc.).. plays.. and places where more cerebral, intelligent, deep thinkers would perhaps go... which will allow for more intelligent and interesting conversation. If he can't stimulate your mind.. leave him behind. Listen to some Jill Scott..


    The n.1 problem with this approach is that while it's "easy" to find a nice guy with whom you have an intellectual connection, it's a whole different deal finding someone who also happens to be fit instead of being yet another sedentary guy.
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    Jul 29, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    DR2K said
    Caslon20000 said
    DR2K said... so what are my options...

    A long slow crawl to death. Srsly.


    I don't like skinny guys. icon_sad.gif

    Did you just call me skinny?
  • DR2K

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    Jul 29, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    Caslon20000 said
    DR2K said
    Caslon20000 said
    DR2K said... so what are my options...

    A long slow crawl to death. Srsly.


    I don't like skinny guys. icon_sad.gif

    Did you just call me skinny?


    Are you death?