Jul 29, 2012 8:58 PM GMT
Let's compile a list of Do's and Do not's.
I got a message from a guy who was really awesome and complimentary... however i often don't reply when i get the message.. i will scan it... and 3 times out of 5, i will go back and respond in bulk unless it's super compelling..but usually when i am online.. i hop scotch between 5 different pages.
Because you can see when someone visits your page and read your letter some can assume that a dude isn't into them if they do not get a message right away. Today i get a message from the same compliment guy, cursing me out:
>>Im guessing ur a shallow person or judges someone easy. Thats to bad bro, ur loss my gain. I dont understand how people will browse another persons profile with no intention of writing back. some fucken rude shit. oh well ;)<<<
What fucking kind of sense is in that? I hadn't even responded, so he can't be sure i am asshole. And if i respond to him, i will most definitely be an asshole because he just called me one and rushed to some judgements about me. So he doesn't get the guy or the guys sympathy... all connection is terminated because of his hasty assumpation based on what he thought i would do.
Guys, do not do this. It makes absolutely no sense at all... wait a while before you assume someone isn't into you. But even if they don't respond to you and leave you hanging, oh the fuck well.. it's their perogative to not be attracted to you or send you a note back. Sure it speaks volumes of their character if they handle it with grace.. but what if they just don't have time to respond... it slips their mind or just don't want to.
So RJ rules: Don't ASSUME motive for non-quick response hastily.
and
It's everyone's right to refuse.
Please add your own...
I got a message from a guy who was really awesome and complimentary... however i often don't reply when i get the message.. i will scan it... and 3 times out of 5, i will go back and respond in bulk unless it's super compelling..but usually when i am online.. i hop scotch between 5 different pages.
Because you can see when someone visits your page and read your letter some can assume that a dude isn't into them if they do not get a message right away. Today i get a message from the same compliment guy, cursing me out:
>>Im guessing ur a shallow person or judges someone easy. Thats to bad bro, ur loss my gain. I dont understand how people will browse another persons profile with no intention of writing back. some fucken rude shit. oh well ;)<<<
What fucking kind of sense is in that? I hadn't even responded, so he can't be sure i am asshole. And if i respond to him, i will most definitely be an asshole because he just called me one and rushed to some judgements about me. So he doesn't get the guy or the guys sympathy... all connection is terminated because of his hasty assumpation based on what he thought i would do.
Guys, do not do this. It makes absolutely no sense at all... wait a while before you assume someone isn't into you. But even if they don't respond to you and leave you hanging, oh the fuck well.. it's their perogative to not be attracted to you or send you a note back. Sure it speaks volumes of their character if they handle it with grace.. but what if they just don't have time to respond... it slips their mind or just don't want to.
So RJ rules: Don't ASSUME motive for non-quick response hastily.
and
It's everyone's right to refuse.
Please add your own...