I wasted a year of my life.

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    Jul 29, 2012 9:39 PM GMT
    Long story short. Nervous breakdown first year of University (for reasons I do not wish to disclose). Successfully completed that first year however I then dropped out, a year has passed and have decided to go back because I feel better now. I took a gap year before University as well which was a poor decision. I will be 23, almost 24 when I graduate. I feel like such a loser because I have a total mess of a life right now and it's difficult not to get depressed over my mistakes and what they have cost me. I don't know how to get over this, any advice/similar circumstances? Am I being to hard on myself?
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    Jul 29, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    Focus on the future, not the past and make sure that was the only year you wasted.
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    Jul 29, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    Welcome to life. Some years are better than others. Some years totally suck stinky donkey balls.
  • Karl

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    Jul 29, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    Last year I got a low score in the entrance test and I had to study in a university which I didnt want to be there.
    I wasted a year of my life at that university, I was so disappointed and all I wanna did at that time was going to die.

    Then I met a friend, she consoled me and helped me to get through that hard time.
    I took the entrance test again and I got a quite high score, now I can study in my dream university,

    That's my story, and all I wanna share with you is 'dont stop believing and keep chasing your dream' .
    Sometimes we feel like a loser , everybody has that feeling.
    Just forget it, stand up again and keep trying.
    There're so many things to enjoy in this life , dont waste it.
    You have your friends , your stuffs , you have your own feet , let's find something fun to do.

    Trouble is a friend , deal with it icon_smile.gif
    I hope you will get better soon icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 29, 2012 9:52 PM GMT
    darren222 saidLong story short. Nervous breakdown first year of University (for reasons I do not wish to disclose). Successfully completed that first year however I then dropped out, a year has passed and have decided to go back because I feel better now. I took a gap year before University as well which was a poor decision. I will be 23, almost 24 when I graduate. I feel like such a loser because I have a total mess of a life right now and it's difficult not to get depressed over my mistakes and what they have cost me. I don't know how to get over this, any advice/similar circumstances? Am I being to hard on myself?


    Whenever I use to get depressed about lifetime mistakes I would sit down and create a resume (or rewrite it) even if I had no intention of using it. This boosted my self-confidence level every single time. Now I am back in school although I have had a tremendously successful career. I'm wanting to change careers so I wrote a resume based on items I am forecasting myself to accomplish... IT WORKED AGAIN! I feel a hundred percent better and am happy to stick to what I am doing. I suppose you could just write out a basic list instead of using a resume... I so happened to have typed up my first resume when I was about 8 years old (watching a friend of my grandmother's do one) and it always makes me feel better.
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    Jul 29, 2012 10:06 PM GMT
    In every life we have some trouble, but when you worry you make it double, don't worry, be happy! I love that lyric.
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    Jul 29, 2012 10:17 PM GMT
    Yesterday's setbacks can inspire tomorrow's achievements. That's only a platitude if you make it one.
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    Jul 29, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    darren222 saidLong story short. Nervous breakdown first year of University (for reasons I do not wish to disclose). Successfully completed that first year however I then dropped out, a year has passed and have decided to go back because I feel better now. I took a gap year before University as well which was a poor decision. I will be 23, almost 24 when I graduate. I feel like such a loser because I have a total mess of a life right now and it's difficult not to get depressed over my mistakes and what they have cost me. I don't know how to get over this, any advice/similar circumstances? Am I being to hard on myself?

    23 / 24 is only older to you. Good heavens! Dont worry about it one bit. Neither of those years off was a mistake. Nobody....NOBODY....is going to notice. Why do you think it's a mistake anyway?
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    Jul 29, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    darren222 saidLong story short. Nervous breakdown first year of University (for reasons I do not wish to disclose). Successfully completed that first year however I then dropped out, a year has passed and have decided to go back because I feel better now. I took a gap year before University as well which was a poor decision. I will be 23, almost 24 when I graduate. I feel like such a loser because I have a total mess of a life right now and it's difficult not to get depressed over my mistakes and what they have cost me. I don't know how to get over this, any advice/similar circumstances? Am I being to hard on myself?


    If you just remember one thing you will never dwell on the past: You can do nothing about the past, you can only do something about the future. More than half the population never gets a degree and you'll have your degree before you know it. Go for it!
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:04 AM GMT
    The BEST teacher in life is experience. Don't beat yourself over something that you cannot change. The true essence of a man is how he deals with set-backs and obstacles...pick yourself up and get back to achieving your goals in life.
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    CLS30324 saidThe BEST teacher in life is experience. Don't beat yourself over something that you cannot change. The true essence of a man is how he deals with set-backs and obstacles...pick yourself up and get back to achieving your goals in life. [color=blue]
    Experience obviously hasn't taught you how to use the quote function properly. icon_lol.gif

    Edit: But it HAS taught you how to properly edit.
    <-- Stands corrected. icon_lol.gif
  • kencarson

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    Jul 30, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    It takes most people an average of 5 years to graduate college these days. More room for switching majors and more people needing to have a job to pay for college, tend to push back the graduation date.

    And I personally know three people who have taken a 3-5 year break and gone back. The fact that you are choosing to go back and further your education, makes you ahead of a lot of the game.

    Congratulations!
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:12 AM GMT
    You're only twenty three years old! Just move on.icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:17 AM GMT
    JackBlair69 saidBe thankful that one year hasn't turned into 20 years. Don't let that happen.
    ...because if you do, you'll end up being so jaded that you turn into a Republican.
  • tazzari

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    Jul 30, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    One thing I learned in International-level sports: if you're good, you learn from your mistakes and get stronger. There's nothing you can't learn from. You'll be fine - and we're all pulling for you!
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:21 AM GMT
    You are only 23! A lot of people continue their education in their 40s. I'll be 33 when I graduate. Cut yourself some slack. Remember, your health (especially mental) is foremost. You made the right decision to take some time off. Now, focus on the future.
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    You can't change the past.....so move on and get your education.....also realize that not everyone needs college to be a success in life....do what is right for you, some folks need extra time to grow up....you define your success, quit worrying about the stereotypes and what anyone else thinks.....and you are 23 or 24....BFD!....still a YOUNG man!
    Go get'm tiger! Set the world on fire!icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:25 AM GMT
    A year is nothing in the grand scheme of things- trust me, i've been in very similar circumstances, worse even, but it's never too late to pick yourself back up and create the life you want.

    There are people who go back to UNI in their 30/40's and start new careers, so don't loose faith, and don't compare yourself to how others have done things in their life- nobody knows how things will work out in the future of anybody else, no matter how early they graduated.
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:46 AM GMT
    OK I appreciate all your encouragements...but who the hell said I am 23 NOW? I've just turned 22 and have 2 more years of University left, don't add another year to me LMAO!
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:52 AM GMT
    I didn't graduate until I was 27. It's not the end of the world. Just remember to judge your success by being the best you can be, not by comparing yourself to others.
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    darren222 saidLong story short. Nervous breakdown first year of University (for reasons I do not wish to disclose). Successfully completed that first year however I then dropped out, a year has passed and have decided to go back because I feel better now. I took a gap year before University as well which was a poor decision. I will be 23, almost 24 when I graduate. I feel like such a loser because I have a total mess of a life right now and it's difficult not to get depressed over my mistakes and what they have cost me. I don't know how to get over this, any advice/similar circumstances? Am I being to hard on myself?


    I think the phrase is, "Bitch Please!". Yes, totally being hard on yourself!!!! You must be a over achiever. Ask the Registrar who is the Oldest student in your university. I am sure that they may be in their sixties. Most college students in today's world are returning adults who wasted time with life and are now trying to catch up with education so they can enjoy life more. Wasting two years is not bad. Just live love & learn. Nothing is really a waste because it all builds character. Well, unless its a drug stupor but even then
    if you are recovering from that you learned something.
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:55 AM GMT
    METAMORPH saidA year is nothing in the grand scheme of things- trust me, i've been in very similar circumstances, worse even, but it's never too late to pick yourself back up and create the life you want.


    Yep yep I agree!!
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    Jul 30, 2012 12:56 AM GMT
    If you had a nervous breakdown and had to skip a year of school why are you blaming yourself.If you broke your back or were fighting cancer you would have had to do the same.Chin up handsome.Stop hating on yourself.Switch over to the sunny side of the street.Go back to school,work hard,make new friends esp gay ones and go forward.Hugs Ryan and Ruben
  • Litmop

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    Jul 30, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    darren222 saidLong story short. Nervous breakdown first year of University (for reasons I do not wish to disclose). Successfully completed that first year however I then dropped out, a year has passed and have decided to go back because I feel better now. I took a gap year before University as well which was a poor decision. I will be 23, almost 24 when I graduate. I feel like such a loser because I have a total mess of a life right now and it's difficult not to get depressed over my mistakes and what they have cost me. I don't know how to get over this, any advice/similar circumstances? Am I being to hard on myself?


    I have a buddy who stayed in school into his mid 30s, he lwas comfortable with his life as a student and was afraid to move on from it.

    He finally got his PHD in biology, became a patent research scientist, then went back to school for his law degree. He is now a practicing attorney in Boston.

    Relax...move forward.