Poor Unfortunate Souls (Let's be Better)

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    Jul 30, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    Why should anyone give up their dignity and values just so someone else can be satisfied? My cousins and I were looking at the animated The Little Mermaid (okay I admit... I was watching it by myself) and it was at the part where Ursela the mean sea witch was describing her clients as "poor unfortunate souls." The souls went to her because they felt a need to be... better. But not better for themselves, but for some other figure they liked and they went so far to change themselves that they threw away caution with morals and took a risk on losing their freedom. I began to relate this to me and my dignity of my virginity and my previous dating situation in which I was still sadly dealing with. And after thinking about it and comparing myself with the "poor unfortunate souls" on the movie, my conclusion was that I am better than anyone who would rather let me and even oblige me to toss away my pride and dignity than to better me as a person. But then I thought that there are some others like me: a virgin, internally and externally beautiful, that are fighting these horny, "now let me see your cock," rude and sometimes handsome dudes. Even though they may be charming and cute, please keep you dignity and be the individual who is better than a sexual nude disclosure. Though he, with his beautiful remarks, makes you feel bright inside and nudges you to feel a little comfortable to show some skin to appease his huge naughty appetite, keep your mind and pride together. You don't need them to help you feel better about yourself. The more you rely on them to give you strength to remain srtong the more they will take out of you and promote nothing but "casual" sexual chat with words disguised as a treat to read, but really are insults to your values. Be better.
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    Jul 30, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    "Land Of The Free" .."Home Of The Brave"..No one can make you do something you don't wan't to ..(not even our president)
    So your standards are different from the sluttier guys that we run into from time to time...You could stress this point in your profile to limit these "run-ins" with us sluttier folk...!!

    (le' me see it!)
    (I bet ya its monsterous!)
    (mmmmhhh yeaaahhh!!)
    (i bet you it's veiny!!)
    (mmmhhhhhhh!!)
    (i bet you it looks like driftwood!)
    (ahhhh fu*k yeaaahhh!)

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    Jul 30, 2012 10:15 PM GMT
    I guess I must stress it a bit more although I thought that it is clear in my profile that I want respect. So I will take your advice on that. But my aim for this forum was not to stop the "sluttier folk" from saying the things you have listed or anything equivalent to them (though I must say it is more nice to be flattered with intelligent beautiful compliments instead of vulgarity) but to encourage those trying to balance their pride in keeping their values of sexuality and being social on this site and any other one. I want them to feel good about themselves; knowing that they don't have to depend on any man that is soo viceful to make them feel good. I wanted to lift the pressure off the ones who were being weighed down with the determination to make a decision of whether to give in or to stand strong.
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    Jul 30, 2012 10:19 PM GMT
    whats wrong with losing your virginity?

    if you want to keep it fine.

    but why should anyone else? i am the same with drink/drugs etc. i am teetotal but i dont expect anyone else to be, or pity people who are not ie the "porr unfortunate souls" that you describe.

    i think this is quite patronising, i lost my v plates when i was REALLY YOUNG!!! and i stayed with the same guy for 5 years following. so not everyone who gives in to temptation either regrets it, or meant/wishes to do otherwise.
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    Jul 30, 2012 10:56 PM GMT
    I am not looking down on anyone who has lost their virginity. Who the hell would I be and who the hell am I to do such a thing when I myself am not too good. And losing your virginity, I'm not saying is a bad thing to do, but I am saying that if so, lose it with (I know this may sound corny but) honor of your morals. I believe that I shouldn't go full monty (naked) for someone to say I am more beautiful or even more interesting. And as the same, I don't want to feel determined to have sex to keep the relationship interesting. I was hoping that many who read this forum understood it and were inspired by it to not just give up their sex or body for some person or occassion; because (I believe) they are better than a one night stand, or a sexual c2c with some person they met on the internet or any where.
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    Jul 30, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    CalvinB saidI am not looking down on anyone who has lost their virginity. Who the hell would I be and who the hell am I to do such a thing when I myself am not too good. And losing your virginity, I'm not saying is a bad thing to do, but I am saying that if so, lose it with (I know this may sound corny but) honor of your morals. I believe that I shouldn't go full monty (naked) for someone to say I am more beautiful or even more interesting. And as the same, I don't want to feel determined to have sex to keep the relationship interesting. I was hoping that many who read this forum understood it and were inspired by it to not just give up their sex or body for some person or occassion; because (I believe) they are better than a one night stand, or a sexual c2c with some person they met on the internet or any where.


    see i understand your point. and i too would encourage people WHO DONT WANT TO OR FEEL PRESSURED TO not to lose it.

    but it is statements like the one highlighted that really encapsulate my point.
    you are just belittling the idea of a one night stand, how could a one night encounter possibly be passionate,caring,exciting,fun,erotic,educational, and a fantastic liberation of previously hidden feelings, with no remorse or emotional worries.
    because in my experience they can be all of those things. you as a person who has not experienced and/or is not knowledgable are clearly biased. and this bias considering the previous points can only be prejudice. so you undermine your GOOD ORIGINAL POINT with prejudice.

    no offence i am just stating where i think youare trivialising the importance of your own views.

    i saw you profile and you seem a really genuine nice guy. but casting uneducated and unfounded opinions about other peoples lifestyles, will never allow you to fully express that .
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    Jul 30, 2012 11:19 PM GMT
    I hear ya man....??
    Calvin i waited till i was almost 25 before i had sex..!
    I guess your words of encouragement are good for those who havn't lost it yet...!! You have a great evening cool..???

    (So..is it big???)
    (It's probably 2 toned..dark on the shaft and light on the tip!!)
    (mmmmhhhhhhhhhhh!!)
    (We wanna see it dammit!)
    (yeaaaahhhhhhh!!)
    (Take the tip....beat it on yer keyboard and post it!)
    (Ooooohhhhh fu*k yeeeeahhhh!!)
    (Hit the letter P!!!)
    (oooooohhhhhhhh!!)
    (Now hit the space bar..slap it..just the tip...just the tip.!!)
    (Aaaaahhh hell yeaahhh!!)
    (We wanna seee itttt!!!)
    (OooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhaaahhhhhaaaaaaaaAAAAAAAa!!!!!)

    Now get out..!!
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    Jul 30, 2012 11:23 PM GMT
    CalvinB saidI don't want to come off as a rude or undermining person to anyone, but I along with the rest of the world have opinions that I find to be true and correct. And I even respect the fact that people try to correct me if mine truths are contradicting theirs. All I am saying is that no one should settle for that stuff because like you highlighted from me, (I believe) they are better than a one night stand, or a sexual c2c with some person they met on the internet or any where.


    i see icon_rolleyes.gif lol

    i think you (people) should hold off forming any strong opinions on face value. i have had very few one noght stands but the ones probably 4 maybe ive had were great experiences that i neither regret, nor feel ashamed of. i certainly didnt lower myself or my moral standards to do so. and that after all is what you are saying.

    thing arent always what they seem. people almost never are. and experiences are never.

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    Jul 30, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    I don't want to come off as a rude or undermining person to anyone, but I along with the rest of the world have opinions that I find to be true and correct. And I even respect the fact that people try to correct me if mine truths are contradicting theirs. All I am saying is that no one should settle for that stuff. I say this because there are so many men on here who are hurt. You got some dudes on here who are hurting because they don't like what they encounter everyday when they look in the mirror, and that is if they can stand themselves enough to even bother with the mirror. And some come on here, with no photos and when they are on the chat rooms they show there dicks and chest instead of there face. And I think they show there chest or there dicks because to feel important, to feel worthy of being noticed and complimented. I don't want anyone to feel like that, especially when they talk to me. I have told many dudes who I have chatted with on video to show there face and not be ashamed. Though many may not consider them to be a beaut and disregard them I feel for them. So this is not to harrass or belittle anyone who are not virgins. But this is simply to inspire those who feel compelled to divert sombody's attention to materialistic things because they don't feel good about themselves.
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    Jul 30, 2012 11:42 PM GMT
    well said i like your attitude.
    differing opinions are what make life interesting after all. i totally agree with the theme of the thread and helping people in general. in that way we are similair. i just not a fan of labelling people or experiences. i hope you get a cance to help as many people as you can.
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    Jul 30, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    Interesting that in the Western world we say "lost my virginity" which has a negative connotation, like we were supposed to preserve it for all time.

    How about "gained my adulthood"? That's how I viewed it, I didn't feel any loss at all, but rather an accomplishment, without guilt or regret, a matter of pride.
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    Jul 30, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    And I don't judge, so please don't think that. I have been judged all my life and if there is anything I don't wanna do it's to be coming off as one of those f-ing ignorant judgmental people. But it hurts me to see that and know that there are some people on this site like what I just described. I am hurt because I was like that. Before I rejoined this site, many people said that I was beautiful but the only one who didn't believe it was ME. So therefore I showed my body off to get noticed. I was offering and looking for sex on the internet. ME. And thank god that I was too scared to go after the ones who called me to arrange somethin. I even jacked off on cam with some dude whom I didn't even know just because he said he IMed me and told me he liked me. I felt so humiliated and worse than I did before. So now, I try to encourage anybody and everybody, who is like I was before, that they are worthy to looked at, they are worthy to be called handsome. Like I said, there are people on here who needs that encouragement. I talked to this one dude that I met in a RealJock chat room. I know we talked for an hour and something minutes. But it wasn't until I told him to turn the camera from his chest and put it on his face that he started to really open up to me. And then when I was trying to get off he kept messaging me, telling me that "he tries to keep good people" like me in touch because I make him "feel better" about himself. I couldn't help but to shed tears. To know that I helped him see a clearer better image of himself. Fuck what you look like, because that shit ain't nothin. Have a good heart and encourage people that they are gorgeous and they are better than what these fucks on here or anywhere say. And please forgive me for the language!
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    Jul 31, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    And when I say fuck what you look like I am talking to all those fucked up in the head, snobby nose, cocky ass, "I look to damn good to be fucking with roadside kill looking muthafuckas", stupid ass bums who are "too good" to help someone in need. i feel like you hoes should be executed and thrown in the river to be forgotten about. Forgive me again for the language and vulgarity. Thats just how I feel.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 31, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
    So basically youre asking people to stop asking you to get naked?
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    Jul 31, 2012 12:37 AM GMT
    Calvin babe..Just make an effort to find guys that are like you..
    Your Body..Your Rules!!
    You are not the only one that gets "hit up" by the creepies...
    No thank you !!...and send!
    Cheer up dude!!!..hugz..icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 31, 2012 2:32 AM GMT
    People still don't understand. This has nothing to do with me. I guess you don't read the previous comments because if did, you all would have understood my point. Not trying to call anyone stupid but please read before commenting. I am not angry and "hugz" back to ya if you really mean it.