Hello all, new to site, and new to fitness!!!

  • doomafidget

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    Jul 30, 2012 5:10 PM GMT
    Hello guys. I'm not exactly sure where to post this, or even if this is the place for me or not, but I figure here goes.

    I have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost 2 years. I'm 25 years old and live in a small town. I have never been into fitness much. I used to do a lot of bike riding, but not so much anymore. Not any friends here to do much with. All of my friends moved on to other places, I stayed behind to live with my boyfriend. Work also gets in the way. (I know these are piss poor excuses for not exercising!!!)

    I have always been pretty scrawny. Lately I'm gaining a little weight, more than likely because of my work schedule and my boyfriends, and us trying to fit in meals together and what-not. (We eat a lot of late meals before bed. No more of that!)

    Lately I've been interested in getting more fit. My boyfriend always tells me that I am beautiful just the way i am, blah-blah-blah. But that is just what boyfriends are supposed to say, right? lol

    I'm looking for a place to meet other guys who are interested in getting and staying fit, maybe making a few friends in the process and some work-out buddies. My boyfriend isn't really interested in doing any of this with me.

    Ive avoided gyms my whole life. Never felt comfortable in them. (I'd be one of those guys that got "excited" constantly, lol) My gym equipment is pretty much nothing at home. I have a simple bench and some light weights. Haven't completely ruled out a gym, I'm still sort of looking around for a good one where I'd feel comfortable.

    So, feel free to message me, say hello, add me as friend, whatever the heck you all do here. Also feel free to share any tips you may have for a beginner.

    I'm thinking starting simple, push ups, sit-ups, jogging, maybe a little bike riding,, just to get in the habit of exercising. Then when I am confident that I will keep it up, finding a gym to attend.
  • Jasonblue

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    Jul 30, 2012 5:27 PM GMT
    That's a good start. Get some dumbbells and maybe some resistance bands to add, and you'll have a decent little workout room. I'd say make sure you don't skip out on legs, do squats and other leg exercises. Also try to keep your diet on point. If you're looking to build in size, you'll need to increase your calories, with healthy foods. You'll need 1gram of protein per every pound you weigh, you'll want to get on a protein supplement. Good luck and welcome!
  • doomafidget

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    Jul 30, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    Jasonblue saidThat's a good start. Get some dumbbells and maybe some resistance bands to add, and you'll have a decent little workout room. I'd say make sure you don't skip out on legs, do squats and other leg exercises. Also try to keep your diet on point. If you're looking to build in size, you'll need to increase your calories, with healthy foods. You'll need 1gram of protein per every pound you weigh, you'll want to get on a protein supplement. Good luck and welcome!

    Thanks. icon_smile.gif darn, they have to be healthy? Well forget this then! Lol. J/k. Yeah, I've got some shopping to do. There is an all organic foods store the next town over I was thinking about stepping into one day. But that might be overkill to start out doing suddenly. I also need to find a suitable replacement for soda. I drink way too much of it.
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    Jul 30, 2012 6:52 PM GMT
    doomafidget said
    Thanks. icon_smile.gif darn, they have to be healthy? Well forget this then! Lol. J/k. Yeah, I've got some shopping to do. There is an all organic foods store the next town over I was thinking about stepping into one day. But that might be overkill to start out doing suddenly. I also need to find a suitable replacement for soda. I drink way too much of it.


    Welcome to RJ, where you can get a wealth of information about health and fitness, served with as much drama as you can stand. icon_biggrin.gif

    You don't need to shop at an organic store unless it interests you. Depending on the item, prices might be higher than you are interested in paying at this point. Most regular grocery stores carry everything you'll need to get going. Even Costco has some decent selections, especially in the butcher shop and the fresh produce areas.

    As a rule of thumb when trying to assess foods for the healthy potential, I always lean toward the least processed foods. So, fruits, vegetables, meats in the butcher shop (not the deli area), and fish. I always look for bread made with whole grain, although I try to limit carbohydrates as much as possible. When buying processed foods, I mostly look for low or no sodium, low or no sugar (but not chemically sweetened), low or no fat. Start reading labels.

    In your case you are probably going to need to eat more. It will be hard to gain weight, but between eating healthy protein and exercising, it's very achievable.

    Now, about your boyfriend. If he doesn't support you, that can make fitness and nutrition into a challenge for you. Especially if you start meeting other guys, he might be threatened by your interests. So, be prepared to have tension, jealousy, and possibly attempts to undermine your efforts. If you guys are serious, you'll have to reassure him that you are doing this for you and not as a way to meet other guys.

    In your original post, you said pushups, situps, running, and biking. All of these are good. You can also add in pullups for another bodyweight only exercise. If running is too hard, walking can be a good substitute until you get going. Also, walking is a good way to include your boyfriend in some of the physical activity.

    Good luck and stick with it!



  • doomafidget

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    Jul 30, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    Thanks for the tips, yeahim40. Yes, I'd like to include my boyfriend in it. But at the same time it's his decision, not mine. We will just Have to cross that bridge when we come to it. He is slightly older, and has some back problems, so I understand if he doesn't want to. Walking together is a good idea, though.
  • Beeftastic

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    Jul 30, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    Welcome and congratulations on your new resolution to be healthier!
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    Jul 31, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    No one cares that you didn't exercise in the past or what reasons there were. They're just happy that you found the initiative to get started. That's something to be proud of. Welcome.
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    Jul 31, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    Welcome to the site.

    Going to the gym (or going back after a leave of absence) can be like opening a wound. Go slow at first. Settle into a routine that you like and then start mixing it up and adding new stuff to it. Don't procrastinate...make exercise a habit so that you start missing it if you don't do it for a couple of days.10 minutes on a treadmill (or a hike or jog) is better than no minutes at all. Make sure that you're doing things with proper form and technique to prevent injury. Get your nutritional act in gear and do research on any supplements you are interested in taking. Mark your progress to help keep you motivated. Best wishes.
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    Jul 31, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    Welcome to RJ!

    Kudos on your commitment to yourself through better health!

    Replace soda with ANYTHING which is plain water based and not processed (i.e. water; water with a slice of fruit; iced tea without sugar).

    Add cardio and "core exercises" to strengthen your midsection as you begin training.

    Do the cardio as early in the day as you can to kick start your metabolism and carry through the high metabolic rate throughout the day.

    Avoid big meals after 1600.

    Throw away anything processed in your kitchen.

    And, don't take everything you see here on RJ seriously. There is a lot of "trolling" which goes on. Expect to get a nasty message every now and then from "sock puppets" and their ilk.

    Welcome and I wish you the best!

    Aloha and Be Well!
    Alan
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    Jul 31, 2012 1:23 AM GMT
    Welcome to the site and enjoy! There are some good people here! icon_biggrin.gif
  • doomafidget

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    Jul 31, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Thanks, everyone.
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    Jul 31, 2012 4:16 AM GMT
    Have your boyfriend lay face up on the floor while you do pushups with your pinga in his boca. icon_biggrin.gif