Why is it that the moment someone shows interest, I lose interest

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    Jul 31, 2012 3:23 PM GMT
    So I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!

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    Jul 31, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    Hapuna saidSo I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!

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    straight?
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    lucky_sevn said
    Hapuna saidSo I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!

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    straight?
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    icon_eek.gif who me?

    lmao no I'm all gay
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    Because he would find out what you actually look like?
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    maybe you want more than just sex? a friendship? oooor u just like the thrill of the chase... icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:41 PM GMT
    showme saidBecause he would find out what you actually look like?


    Lol!
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    My best guess is u just like the attention and don't actually want to do anything about it. Or maybe u don't have enough of a connection with the guy to actually want to get physical.
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    showme saidBecause he would find out what you actually look like?
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Hapuna said
    showme saidBecause he would find out what you actually look like?
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    I thought when you were here before there was big drama because the only pics you showed guys you were talking to were fakes.
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    Jul 31, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
    Hapuna saidSo I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!

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    Because you want something deeper than the D he's planning on putting in you. I'd probably do the same thing if all he wants is sex.
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    IMO scared of getting hurt or letting your guard down to allow yourself to feel love make any sense"?
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    Ever heard the expression "everyone wants what they cant have" ? It in many cases is largely true especially as I find in many women and in many gay men lol
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    jackrabbit108 saidEver heard the expression "everyone wants what they cant have" ? It in many cases is largely true especially as I find in many women and in many gay men lol


    Exactly what jackrabbit said. Many woman like gay men: "Aww why are all the great guys gay?"

    Many gay men like straight men: "Aww why are all the hot guys straight?!"

    The thrill of the chase. You probably had fun flirting with the guy, and thought you guys were being all cute and stuff (kind of like a relationship, more than a hookup conversation). But once he wanted to do the nasty, it crossed the "cute" boundary line and you didn't like it.

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    Jul 31, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    Hapuna Dude..Your world of dating is surrounded by 1's and 0's...Put the devices down and go out ...Maybe you need a more "organic" aproach to dating as opposed to RJ, Mancunt, Grindher etc
    ..I've been following your forums..and your encounters lack "Frontal Chemistry"..
    ..You have to meet a guy face to face...
    ..Decide if you like him face to face...
    ..Decide if your 'sexual fate'...face to face..
    Try it..and keep us updated !!
    (someone needs to knock the dust off that ass)
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    Jul 31, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidHapuna Dude..Your world of dating is surrounded by 1's and 0's...Put the devices down and go out ...Maybe you need a more "organic" aproach to dating as opposed to RJ, Mancunt, Grindher etc
    ..I've been following your forums..and your encounters lack "Frontal Chemistry"..
    ..You have to meet a guy face to face...
    ..Decide if you like him face to face...
    ..Decide if your 'sexual fate'...face to face..
    Try it..and keep us updated !!
    (someone needs to knock the dust off that ass)
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    OK SOUNDS GOOD BRAH

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    Jul 31, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    HapaDude said
    jackrabbit108 saidEver heard the expression "everyone wants what they cant have" ? It in many cases is largely true especially as I find in many women and in many gay men lol


    Exactly what jackrabbit said. Many woman like gay men: "Aww why are all the great guys gay?"

    Many gay men like straight men: "Aww why are all the hot guys straight?!"

    The thrill of the chase. You probably had fun flirting with the guy, and thought you guys were being all cute and stuff (kind of like a relationship, more than a hookup conversation). But once he wanted to do the nasty, it crossed the "cute" boundary line and you didn't like it.

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    I agree with this. The grass is always greener somewhere else.
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    Jul 31, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    You're convinced you want and need more than what you actually do/??
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    Aug 01, 2012 12:01 AM GMT
    probably the same reason why im attracted to straight guys.
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    You live in a constant fantasy of guys wanting you and once they express a desire you slam the candy shop door closed! Next victim
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:19 AM GMT
    Cause your like a lot of gay men...you want what you can't have...
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    Hapuna saidSo I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!

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    Does this happen when someone wants to just hook up or does it also happen if someone shows interest in a monogamous relationship too?

    You could just be overthinking it and not realising that you're not the hook-up kinda guy. You might just naturally want something deeper than hook-ups.

    Everyone's different, don't freak out that you are too icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Because you don't want to be part of a club that would have YOU as a member.
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    BRoss said
    Hapuna saidSo I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!

    SRSLY



    Does this happen when someone wants to just hook up or does it also happen if someone shows interest in a monogamous relationship too?

    You could just be overthinking it and not realising that you're not the hook-up kinda guy. You might just naturally want something deeper than hook-ups.

    Everyone's different, don't freak out that you are too icon_smile.gif


    Maybe you're right! I don't need to be a slut I can maybe one day be monogamous! icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    UglyAmerican saidBecause you don't want to be part of a club that would have YOU as a member.


    I read this like 5 times and I still have no idea what you're trying to say.

    Yes I went to top-tier college

    And I finished
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    Aug 05, 2012 5:48 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    BRoss said
    Hapuna saidSo I was chatting with this very sexy guy online and the convo is going well. Hes handsome and very sexy and I was comletely turned on. BUT...The moment he says he wants to hook up and have hot sex, then I start to lose interest. WTF!!!!!
    SRSLY


    Does this happen when someone wants to just hook up or does it also happen if someone shows interest in a monogamous relationship too?

    You could just be overthinking it and not realising that you're not the hook-up kinda guy. You might just naturally want something deeper than hook-ups.

    Everyone's different, don't freak out that you are too icon_smile.gif


    Maybe you're right! I don't need to be a slut I can maybe one day be monogamous! icon_smile.gif


    There you go, looking up already icon_smile.gif