Would you wear something that identified you as gay?

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    Jul 31, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    Straight men and women dress very differently, so they have no difficulty identifying someone as being of the opposite sex.

    Gays however look just like straight guys. So gays can't recognize each other out in the general population.

    I think this invisibility contributes to gays having difficulty finding friends and partners.

    So, the question is: Would you wear something that signaled that you are gay? Now, I don't mean something outlandish. But it obviously has to be discernible.

    Any suggestions what that something could be?

    EDIT: I'm talking about a general change of appearance or so acceptable item. Not some bizarre t-shirt or something.
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    Jul 31, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    I have my right ear pierced, is that gay enough?
  • Just_Tim

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    Jul 31, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    I have one of these...

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    Jul 31, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    OK, maybe Caslon should rephrase. Gay guys look just like straight guys except in Alabama and Oklahoma.icon_wink.gif

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    Jul 31, 2012 5:46 PM GMT
    I still wear t-shirts and jeans. Does that count?
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    Jul 31, 2012 5:58 PM GMT
    Does everybody think a right ear piercing is a good idea?

    Do y'all want to wear a rainbow button?
  • Karl

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    Jul 31, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    No , I always dress like a normal boy icon_smile.gif
    But if everyone ask about my sexuality , I'll tell them Im gay icon_smile.gif
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    Just_Tim saidI have one of these...
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    LOL, I have one too , I attached it on my bag and always go out with it icon_biggrin.gif
  • Just_Tim

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    Jul 31, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidPink triangle tattooed on your left cheek with your preferred position tattooed on the right. And the state should force all gays to do this....it shouldn't be voluntary; as soon as you're found out by government agents, you get hog-tied and tattooed. Done.


    Genius. I'd sign that petition in a flash... But when they got to me I'd be all "No need. I've got a button."
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:10 PM GMT
    I wear a tshirt all the time that says QUEER on it all the time so yes...
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    You mean, kind of like the Star of David? Yeah, no. I make it a point not to wear my sexuality on my sleeve. in this case, I mean literally and figuratively.
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    I wear my rainbow belt once at week, at least... I'm not so much a Pride Fairy... as I am trying to redefine what the people in my area see as gay, and show them I'm not scared to say it; even walking home from work.
  • stratavos

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    Jul 31, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    I have a pride chainmail choker, but I only wear it occasionally...
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 31, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    I'm so masc and straight-acting that only my headless torso ever gets to leave the house.
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:21 PM GMT
    So, anonymity outweighs finding a gay friend or partner?
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:22 PM GMT
    course I would, but knowing my sense of fashion I probably wouldn't realize it made me look gay lol.
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    I don't understand why people feel the need to proclaim that they're gay, but I don't really understand vanity plates or bumper stickers either. I think people can figure it out when I'm playing in a gay flag football league or having a drink at a gay bar. Do they need to know when I'm buying groceries? Come to think of it they might figure it out there too since I'm not buying any processed foods.......
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:25 PM GMT
    Caslon20000 saidSo, anonymity outweighs finding a gay friend or partner?
    Not all the gays are into showing their colors. Some for fear of reprisal, others cause they don't have the guts, other cause they identify with other aspects of life more... a mass gay call to show off your queerity would have to be a result of fad, fashion or social upheaval. Not everyone can do it... exactly why I do... since I have it in me to stand my ground in the face of opposition. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:28 PM GMT
    I dress like a Tom of Finland character. Everyday.
    So Yes.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 31, 2012 6:30 PM GMT
    imasrxd saidI don't understand why people feel the need to proclaim that they're gay, but I don't really understand vanity plates or bumper stickers either. I think people can figure it out when I'm playing in a gay flag football league or having a drink at a gay bar. Do they need to know when I'm buying groceries? Come to think of it they might figure it out there too since I'm not buying any processed foods.......


    I don't think many can really help it. With some guys, you can tell pretty easily that they're gay, not because of what they're wearing but because of their mannerisms and voice. We're not all the same, but visibility is probably best for the gay community. Also, straight people prefer Jack over Will, which is why the flaming guys have always been more the head of the movement and/or also the stereotype.
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said
    Caslon20000 saidSo, anonymity outweighs finding a gay friend or partner?
    Not all the gays are into showing their colors. Some for fear of reprisal, others cause they don't have the guts, other cause they identify with other aspects of life more... a mass gay call to show off your queerity would have to be a result of fad, fashion or social upheaval. Not everyone can do it... exactly why I do... since I have it in me to stand my ground in the face of opposition. icon_wink.gif


    You're awesome JR_RJ!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:32 PM GMT
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    JR_RJ said
    Caslon20000 saidSo, anonymity outweighs finding a gay friend or partner?
    Not all the gays are into showing their colors. Some for fear of reprisal, others cause they don't have the guts, other cause they identify with other aspects of life more... a mass gay call to show off your queerity would have to be a result of fad, fashion or social upheaval. Not everyone can do it... exactly why I do... since I have it in me to stand my ground in the face of opposition. icon_wink.gif


    You're awesome JR_RJ!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
    Thanks HottJoe! icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
    Didn't it go thru its phases, first the earring on the right side and then the popped collar not to mention the tight clothing (although i hear that only in the US, its gay whereas in Europe especially every guy likes tighter clothing)?
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:36 PM GMT
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    Caslon20000 saidSo, anonymity outweighs finding a gay friend or partner?
    Not all the gays are into showing their colors. Some for fear of reprisal, others cause they don't have the guts, other cause they identify with other aspects of life more... a mass gay call to show off your queerity would have to be a result of fad, fashion or social upheaval. Not everyone can do it... exactly why I do... since I have it in me to stand my ground in the face of opposition. icon_wink.gif


    Exactly. I don't really care if people know that I'm gay, but its not something I feel I need to advertise. It's only one part of me. Straight people don't normally advertise their heterosexuality...well, at least the mentally balanced ones don't. Additionally, I find that I identify better with straight guys jn terms of their likes and dislikes.

    Also, finding other gay men is already pretty easy whether its the internet, social app, gay sports leagues, gay bars/clubs, activism/charity work. It doesn't seem necessary. Certainly not to the point where we'd be putting a variant of a scarlett letter "A" or star of David on our person. We'd be opening ourselves up to additional outword harassment and violence.
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    Jul 31, 2012 6:40 PM GMT
    ... not on me specifically, but when I was younger I stuck a rainbow flag bumper sticker on my car. I don't anymore... I drive a MINI ;-)