Life after breakup

  • Devinci

    Posts: 16

    Jul 31, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    I broke up with my last bf 9 months ago. Since then, I met a very nice guys. We are dating, but I am not sure yet where this is going... I really love him, however I feel that this current relationship will really hurt me one day...

    I am trying to make new friends (biking, hiking), however lots of the guys I met only want sex. When they know I am dating or when they notice I don't want to go on a date, they loose interest...

    What is wrong with me?

    I didn't realize before now that making friends when you are over 35 is not easy...

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    Jul 31, 2012 10:22 PM GMT
    Take it one day at a time. If you're not sure about this guy, then make sure that you communicate that you're not ready to 'commit' with him. Don't lead him on. As for making friends, make sure you're fishing in the right pond. If you're on a hook up site, friends can be made there but most aren't looking for a hiking buddy as much as a f-bud.

    If you know what kind of activities you like, then find a group that attracts those kinds of people, like a mt biking group or a hiking group. Don't limit your friends to just gay guys, you should have a mix of gay and str8 friends. Some of them will have friends and you'll get to know them too and it goes on from there.

    Be patient.
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    Jul 31, 2012 10:30 PM GMT
    Devinci saidI broke up with my last bf 9 months ago. Since then, I met a very nice guys. We are dating, but I am not sure yet where this is going... I really love him, however I feel that this current relationship will really hurt me one day...

    I am trying to make new friends (biking, hiking), however lots of the guys I met only want sex. When they know I am dating or when they notice I don't want to go on a date, they loose interest...

    What is wrong with me?

    I didn't realize before now that making friends when you are over 35 is not easy...



    its not iver 35's its gays. its unbelievably difficult to have gay friends, ones that arent just interested in sex anyway. i have literally none, if you get rid of the very young, very old, very camp, closeted, very promiscuous, and then the "normal" but have interesting things in common, AND people who just dont find you likable, you arent left with alot of people to whom you can relate. i get it though *same boat

    x
  • Devinci

    Posts: 16

    Jul 31, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for the replies...

    I joined a outdoor activity group, however my ex partner is there... So, I lost interest. I tried to bike with other guys, but I received more than 5 emails from guys who want to hook up...

    I guess I will have to open my activities to straight / gay friendly people...

    I already talked to the guy I am dating about the issue I have with this relationship. He knows...

    Life is a bitch sometimes...