Firebrand saidSitting on the benches while talking to your friend and simultaneously eyefucking half the gym is not acceptable, especially while some of us are waiting to use the bench. I can only do other crap for so long before I'm like, done with this shit.
So #YCYL and go check out guys elsewhere.
Also, to the creepy 40-ish nearly anorexic man who herps, derps, and durdles at 1mph on the elliptical near the entrance for hours while creeper-staring at all the young guys going in and out: You're fug and no one will ever love you.
Dude, you seem to put way too much mental energy into thinking about being cruised at the gym, not appearing to cruise at the gym, and sitting in judgement of others at the gym.
When people hog equipment, I simply walk up and ask them if I can work in. If (as you say in another post in this thread) they say they've got sets remaining, I say "Excellent! I don't mind at all." and then I work in. Problem solved. Civility maintained.
A gym is a "Hall of Mirrors" designed for narcissists, voyeurs, and exhibitionists. The public (for membership fee) gym is a place where people go to workout, and where some of society's fittest specimens spend some of their living. Like minded people are in the gym. People are going to look at other people and for different reasons. Some may be there to oogle. Great. Let them oogle. Take the complement. Some though, are there to observe and learn from more experienced members. Get used to it. Get over it. Or, put a private gym in your own home. Then nobody will oogle you.
In a public gym, there are going to be all kinds of people. I see them at my own 24 Hour Fitness every day. I'm assuming you go to the 24 Hour Fitness on Yale, because I think I ran into you in passing recently while I was in Seattle. You should do something about that hair (or lack of it). It's not flattering. Anyhoo, back on topic. Everybody is in the gym for their own purpose. Fitness is a common theme. And, whether it's the 250lb girl who is trying to shed pounds so that she can have a healthy life, or it's the 40ish man who is struggling to do just 1mph on the eliptical...everybody is at their own place on their own path. I welcome them all. If you don't like seeing other people who are not in shape then either get used to it and get over it. Or, put a private gym in your own home.
You've got ugliness of your own to work on, Rob. And that ugliness is inside you. It stems from prideful self-centeredness. Unless "get into the gym" of getting fit on the inside, you're going to have a miserable hellish life wherever you go. Clean the inside of the cup first, Rob. I'm getting the feeling that one day you're going to go all "Ted Haggard" on us and we're going to learn that as loudly as you publicly protest, you've been a wallowing hypocrite in private.
Seattle is such a cool place full of remarkably cool people. Get with the vibe of the city, Rob. For your own sake.
Love and hugs!