At the Gym today...

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    Aug 01, 2012 4:22 PM GMT
    Now you guys know me, I am not the most self confident of people- but today really sucked at the gym... I was sitting back doing my shoulder press and assorted other exercises and in walks in this 42 year old (I overheard him talking to one of the gym trainers) guy and his girlfriend. She ripped like super ripped for a chick- and he, How can I put this? Ah, yes, He was absolutely fucking massive like holy fucking God ripped... and he sets it up so he uses the max weights on the machines and is all showin off and shit for his gf making these orgasm-y grunting sounds and such- and I had/have a few massive issues with this dude.

    1. Gym etiquette- Don't slam the weights (which he was doing after every rep) Hell, that was rule 1. I learned in the weightroom for football.

    2. The obnoxious grunt orAgasming... While it sounded nice, you don't have to scream like it's ladies' Wimbledon out here.

    3. This is general, How do I get over my self consciousness? I do stand by my complaints against this guy- but in the same way I know I'm not worth holding a candle to him, or most of you guys here- I'm just doing my best to lose the tummy
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    Aug 01, 2012 4:30 PM GMT
    That kind of behavior wouldn't impede my workout in the slightest. I'd have a problem if he did something that did, like not reracking his weights on, or taking ridiculously long rest breaks or supersets on, equipment I was up next to use.

    As for getting over any my self consciousness, instead maybe let it work for you. I'm in the same boat as you - lost a lot of weight, looking pretty good but am embarrassed over my tummy, so it motivates me to work at it harder. But do work on your confidence by recognizing the great accomplishments you've made so far!




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    Aug 01, 2012 4:32 PM GMT
    Just remember that decency and/or friendliness ALWAYS trumps obnoxious/ultra ripped/showoffing. It's that simple.
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    Aug 01, 2012 4:40 PM GMT
    graniteknighte saidHow do I get over my self consciousness?

    Oh I'm afraid it's gonna take many many therapy sessions over at my house. Bring your toothbrush.
  • Latenight30

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    Aug 01, 2012 5:02 PM GMT
    i just laugh quietly to myself. They look like asses and showing off for 5 minuets isn't a work out
  • suedeheadscot

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    Aug 01, 2012 8:17 PM GMT
    Dude, assholes like these exist in every gym, there's always some loud mouth showing off. Get earphones, good music, or a gym bud to work out with you!

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    Aug 01, 2012 8:32 PM GMT
    suedeheadscot saidDude, assholes like these exist in every gym, there's always some loud mouth showing off. Get earphones, good music, or a gym bud to work out with you!



    Agree here! Get headphones and tune the asshole out. They exist and unfortunately have as much right as the next guy to be there.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 01, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    No body is perfect. Nobody is infallible.
    We eat, we sleep, we shit, we die and what we do in between, do it with joy. The world is not you and you are not the world. Admire the beauty of life and admire the beauty in you. Some people work really hard to get to where they are in just the short amount of time we have in this world. Do you want to be one of those that spends all of his time here to accomplish a single goal, whether it be wealth or muscles. Or do you want to spend your short time here on this world trying to enjoy the many things it has to offer. Which ever it is you prefer, do that which brings you the greatest peace within, because being at peace is the greatest thing that anyone can accomplish.
  • d694485

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    Aug 01, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    ayer2009 said
    suedeheadscot saidDude, assholes like these exist in every gym, there's always some loud mouth showing off. Get earphones, good music, or a gym bud to work out with you!



    Agree here! Get headphones and tune the asshole out. They exist and unfortunately have as much right as the next guy to be there.


    I agree with headphones. They help me concentrate for sure. I'm self-conscious too and always feel like no guy at the gym is skinnier than I am (which may be true...) but you just kind of have to focus on yourself and your goals. I just keep telling myself I'll slowly get to where I want. Also, one of my friend's mom who is a psychologist says that people really don't judge others nearly as often as one thinks. I think for us self-conscious people, it really might just be in our heads.
  • UncleverName

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    Aug 01, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    Was he doing deadlifts or clean and jerks or any of the other massively heavy lifts that basically require you to slam the weight when you ge to a high enough weight?

    Grunting is one thing, but there is a reasonable time for slamming the weights.
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    Aug 01, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    graniteknighte saidNow you guys know me, I am not the most self confident of people- but today really sucked at the gym... I was sitting back doing my shoulder press and assorted other exercises and in walks in this 42 year old (I overheard him talking to one of the gym trainers) guy and his girlfriend. She ripped like super ripped for a chick- and he, How can I put this? Ah, yes, He was absolutely fucking massive like holy fucking God ripped... and he sets it up so he uses the max weights on the machines and is all showin off and shit for his gf making these orgasm-y grunting sounds and such- and I had/have a few massive issues with this dude.

    1. Gym etiquette- Don't slam the weights (which he was doing after every rep) Hell, that was rule 1. I learned in the weightroom for football.

    2. The obnoxious grunt orAgasming... While it sounded nice, you don't have to scream like it's ladies' Wimbledon out here.

    3. This is general, How do I get over my self consciousness? I do stand by my complaints against this guy- but in the same way I know I'm not worth holding a candle to him, or most of you guys here- I'm just doing my best to lose the tummy


    Just focus on your own workout. 90% of the guys at the gym aren't even paying attention to what you're doing. They're focused on their own workout. The other 10% are egregiously violating firebrand's #YCYL rule by staring and drooling over nearly everyone. Just focus, and all will be fine.
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    Aug 01, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    OP, you have to admit that most people have better things to spend their lives on than camp out in the gym all day.

    I don't believe the majority of Olympic athletes and ripped actors do 4 hours in the gym daily plus a 40+ hour week job.

    Their fitness(and recovery) IS their job.

    Tell yourself he's compensating for something and move on.
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    Aug 01, 2012 10:50 PM GMT
    i trained in a HARDCORE bodybuilding specific gym. it was amazing at times for inspiration, motivation and....well all sorts of things.

    but honestly after about 2 months those bbers really made me glad i am deaf all the "DRIVE IT" and "LIGHTWEIGHT MOTHERFUCKER" after a while gets really old. i suppose i am lucky i just stopped taking my hearing aids lol.

    on the self confidence thing, i think focus is the key. it was certainly for me. the more i focused on MY targets and goals, (im 250lbs and 6ft and i was one of the smallest guys in the bbing gym icon_sad.gif ) the less i really cared about intimidation/jealousy/annoyance you are refferring to.

    headphones is probably the best advice i could give.
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    Aug 01, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    Put in your ear-buds, rock out to your favorite tunes and don't pay any attention to the douchebags who feel they need to show off.
    If he's near you, do something else, go to the other side of the gym. There will ALWAYS be 'that guy' at the gym. Don't let it ruin your day, bro.
  • d694485

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    Aug 01, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidNext time he starts grunting like that, start moaning really loudly in unison.

    HIM: GruAAAHHHH

    YOU: OoooYEAAAAHHHHH!

    HIM: GRUGGHHH

    YOU: Ahhh-whimper--mmmmOOOOOOOOOOOoooo

    HIM: HUUghhh-CHAAAAA

    YOU: Mmmmm....OOOOHHHHhhh...YEAHH!

    And when he asks you: Hey? Are you mocking me?

    Tell him: No! I really like it...you're so turning me on....I thought we'd ALL do it. and give him a gay coy look and a fierce sexy-snarl at his gash.

    Try and turn it into a sex show....that should make mister egotistical a little more self-conscious about the noises he makes in public.


    Omg. LOL. moooOOOooo.
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    Aug 01, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    I dunno man..!..Why are you so eagar to compare yourself to some other person that you bearly know??
    What do you like about yourself..?
    What are some things that trigger your self consciousness?
    ..
    Personally it's hard to compare myself to someone i know nothing about..A guy could be hot as hell on the outside..but if i find out he's a douche..i can never see him in that light again..just sayin'..
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    Aug 01, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    The best way to stop being self conscious is... to stop being self conscious.

    The way it is now, when he or some other intimidating guy walks into the room, your focus and energy are diverted to observing this other guy and comparing yourself with him. If, instead, you just focus your energy and attention on yourself and focus on only comparing yourself with your past self, you'll find it's a lot easier to deal with.

    In essence, he can't have any affect on your state of being unless you allow him to.
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    Aug 01, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    Wear headphones if you don't. That seems most logical when it comes to how the sounds bother you. The problem with being self-conscious about it... That part is up to you, wish you luck though!