RJ IMs

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    Aug 11, 2008 4:08 AM GMT
    So u get a random IM message ... how do u decide which ones u answer back to and which ones u ignore? what grabs ur attention about the ones u answer?

    for me it all depends on the message itself. if its one like, do all black guys have huge dicks, which i have gotten a couple of times i ignore, if its a hello or how are u doing etc... ill usually answer. it also helps if his pic is also catchy!
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    Aug 11, 2008 5:13 AM GMT
    I at least try to humor people with a "hey" back, maybe some short conversation, and then if it keeps going all depends on what their actual intent of sending the message was.
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    Aug 11, 2008 5:17 AM GMT
    I normally replay only to guys who took the time to read my profile, and they say things like "so you like (put whatever here)?" otherwise, I might not answer at all...
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    Aug 11, 2008 5:26 AM GMT
    I keep the feature turned off cuz it has always worked so slow for me.
  • groundcombat

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    Aug 11, 2008 5:49 AM GMT
    i only get IMs from guys with no profile or picture, to which I certainly never respond.
  • ep83

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    Aug 11, 2008 6:01 AM GMT
    I think the IMs have a bad rap. Sure you get weirdos and creeps, but they are easy to block. Besides, you can always close the window. Plus I've met some of my best friends on RJ by either randomly IMing them or them randomly messaging me. Once you see a few it becomes very easy to pick out who is looking to talk dirty and who actually wants to talk.

    I used to keep my pop-up blocker on so I could preview who wanted to IM me before I accepted, but once I started going in the chatroom more often I had to allow them because I wouldn't get the notice while I was in there. But a preview is still just a click away.
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    Aug 11, 2008 6:19 AM GMT
    No big deal depends on my Mood?

    You can always Click off?
  • 2theTEE

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    Aug 11, 2008 7:14 AM GMT
    Once an IM had randomly popped up as I returned to my comp and this guy already had his video on while he was slapping his ass.

    There wasn't even a greeting, like a simple hello or hey. Of course I watched for about 10 secs, just to see what I thought I was seeing. Usually though, I just leave it off.

    If the chat is about work out tips and such, the conversation will usually continue on...and onto other interesting topics icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 11, 2008 7:55 AM GMT
    Well I send e-mail sometimes, but people don't really answer even if I ask something. well sometimes it makes me sad (angry??) though.

    I guess it's really annoying. or they just don't like me .. lol (I answer almost every e-mail if it's not about having sex lol)

    anyawy I say Hey lol if I get random IM and if they are not bad people (usually they are asking sex though)
    just talk lol

    but sex thing. I jsut say F**K yourself.

    I hate cyber sex. ;p
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    Aug 11, 2008 8:00 AM GMT
    For me it is a combination of what they say in the message and in the profile. If a message pops up with "wanna cam" they are OUT! If it's real conversation then I read the profile. Empty, crude, or profiles meant is agitate are OUT! If the profile is mostly complete and portraits him as a functioning adult with a real life and interests other than leering online chat I will answer. Like my profile says... "nice guys only please." Pictures are not something I give much weight.
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    Aug 11, 2008 9:08 AM GMT
    groundcombat saidi only get IMs from guys with no profile or picture, to which I certainly never respond.

    Ditto.
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    Aug 11, 2008 10:58 AM GMT
    Sometimes I will talk to them when they IM me. When it starts going in the wrong direction I exit. I try to reply to everyone, but I do get the people with no picture and nothing in the profile asking me to cam. I dont even have CAM in my profile. When that happens I tell them to read my profile and I close out my IM.
  • DiverScience

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    Aug 11, 2008 11:02 AM GMT
    I keep mine off, since I'm often at work. Only get them when I'm in the chatroom.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 11, 2008 12:00 PM GMT
    For me its pretty simple, if the guy says something that shows he's respectful, friendly and sincere I respond, if its just a sexual comment, many times I don't. I have my IM on about half the time. Never in the chatroom, it really depends on whats going.
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    Aug 11, 2008 12:18 PM GMT
    My profile says no pic, no chat. When I get a profile that pops up with no pic, I know they have not bothered to read my profile.

    I didn't put a lot in my profile because I wanted to make the thing simple and easy to read, not a story of my life, just a starting point.

    If someone doesn't have the consideration to read that little bit, I really, really can't be bothered.

    The few times I've answered those no pic IMs, I've deeply regretted it.

    All I can say is, "Dubai - ugh."
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    Aug 11, 2008 12:24 PM GMT
    I usually IM with my friends only... though I will admit to this, a handful of those random IMs have turned into pretty cool friendships. But not one of those few ever started with "ur hot luv to ___(insert sexual activity)___ w/u"
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    Aug 11, 2008 1:31 PM GMT
    I do not use rj's IM feature.
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    Aug 11, 2008 2:10 PM GMT
    I never think about using it since firefox just blocks it straight away.
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    Aug 11, 2008 3:57 PM GMT
    If it's someone in my buddylist or someone from the forums, I accept. If I can't chat I apologize and close the IM. If it's an unknown guy asking for camsex, I play with him a bit then close it. icon_cool.gif

    I don't mind if they don't have pictures at all, just as long as they can carry on a decent conversation.
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    Aug 11, 2008 4:15 PM GMT
    I generally prefer there to have been some sort of established interaction before receiving IM's - either through e-mail, forum exchanges or in the chat room. You know when you've "clicked" with someone (either platonically or otherwise). I find random IMs out of the blue to be a little bit like a total stranger wandering up to you saying, "Hi!" There's nothing inherently wrong with that but I don't really pay it much attention unless they're funny. Humor will get me every time.
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    Aug 11, 2008 9:09 PM GMT
    The IM has its place, but I generally keep mine turned off because, like AOL's IM system, eventually it becomes impossible to keep up with five or more messages going at once. You have to have some way to manage it and I don't like feeling overwhelmed.

    I don't think it is being rude to keep it turned off.

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    Aug 11, 2008 10:20 PM GMT
    How can you say "no pic not chat" when you are just shoulders and torso?
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    Aug 11, 2008 10:20 PM GMT
    GobB saidSo u get a random IM message ... how do u decide which ones u answer back to and which ones u ignore? what grabs ur attention about the ones u answer?

    The ones that promise to take over the world and make me Prince Things get responded to.

    Or just guys that look like this:
    225629_fat_guy_in_car.jpg

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    Aug 11, 2008 10:26 PM GMT
    GobB saidSo u get a random IM message ... how do u decide which ones u answer back to and which ones u ignore? what grabs ur attention about the ones u answer?

    for me it all depends on the message itself. if its one like, do all black guys have huge dicks, which i have gotten a couple of times i ignore, if its a hello or how are u doing etc... ill usually answer. it also helps if his pic is also catchy!


    Yeah I've gotten some raunchy IM's so I just turned that feature off and if a dude want's to message me he'll ask in email plus this allows me to see his profile first also see if he is even verified. I prefer IM's if where gunna have a conversation to keep my mail box tidyicon_wink.gif Also ask him if he want's to chat on yahoo or aim if your getting bugged by some guy.
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    Aug 12, 2008 2:31 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle said
    BigSETXjock said.....and I don't like feeling overwhelmed.....


    So, you're saying that if you were the bottom for a group of like 10 or 12 tops and you were on your knees having to decide which one to take care of first, that you wouldn't like the feeling of being overwhelmed?

    Me thinks you would. icon_twisted.gif


    That kind of overwhelming could be fun ;)