I just got dumped for the first time...

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    Aug 02, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    What do I do? He was my first love.I need advice.icon_cry.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 3:36 AM GMT
    "When you're going through hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill

    But for real, you learn to cope and move on with your life. Delete him from facebook and other social networking sites so he's not a thought. Get involved in activities, surround yourself with friends, and realize that time is the perfect remedy.
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    Aug 02, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    I go to a small University. I am going to see him all the time...
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 02, 2012 3:51 AM GMT
    Get drunk and fuck some other guy that will make you forget him
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    Aug 02, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    jomu112 saidI go to a small University. I am going to see him all the time...


    totally get this. my school is 1500 students so if something goes south romantically it's a freaking nightmare.

    I think the first thing to do is be sure you don't feel any shame about this. the way I combat this tendency (and I totally have it when something shitty like this happens... blame myself, feel humiliated, etc) is actually talking to people about what happened. the more open I am the less shame I feel.

    step two... get an even hotter rebound boyfriend. just kidding icon_cool.gif

    I also don't think it's really helpful to avoid common places where he could be (dining hall, library, common walkways) because you'll just develop the habit of hiding from uncomfortable situations with him.... and there are going to be some if your school's small :/ sorry, the way it is.
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    Aug 02, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    get over it.

    holla at some friends, get drunk, party, find a hot guy to fuck or be fucked by, and start your new day a new person

    or

    if you're still in love with him: get drunk, call him to meet you and have make up sex.

    or

    realize that theres tons of fish in the sea and that hes just one of them. and go fishing cause its fishing season now
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 02, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    Would it help to know that in a couple of years you are going to see him and think, "What the hell was I thinking?"?
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    Aug 02, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    I got dumped before I know how it feels. It sucks, you feel like your life revolves him. Truthfully you will never stop loving him but can forget him with the process of "time"... It wa so bad I had to go on anti depressants.. The medicine worked very well and makes you happy.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 02, 2012 4:15 AM GMT
    Just listen too all those broken heart love songs and lay in your bed for a day or two and cry .... hey, sometimes it helps
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    Aug 02, 2012 4:17 AM GMT
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    cut your wrists
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    What if I want him back?icon_cry.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:16 AM GMT
    Derp saidcut your wrists

    Bad joke right now
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    I hot listed you if it helps icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    jomu112 saidWhat if I want him back?icon_cry.gif


    If he doesn't want you back, then fuck him
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    Derp saidcut your wrists

    Bad joke right now


    oh for fucks sake grow some balls! You're gays, it will happen constantly. Nut up or shut up.
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    Aug 02, 2012 5:56 AM GMT
    Idk....come over and cuddle
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    Aug 02, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    The best thing is to learn and grow! What can you take from it to make next relationship better?
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    Aug 02, 2012 6:14 AM GMT
    Derp said
    Hapuna said
    Derp saidcut your wrists

    Bad joke right now


    oh for fucks sake grow some balls! You're gays, it will happen constantly. Nut up or shut up.


    "You're gays"?

    Like you're not? You suck dick, right?
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    Aug 02, 2012 6:20 AM GMT
    Hapuna said
    Derp said
    Hapuna said
    Derp saidcut your wrists

    Bad joke right now


    oh for fucks sake grow some balls! You're gays, it will happen constantly. Nut up or shut up.


    "You're gays"?

    Like you're not? You suck dick, right?


    We're.
  • araphael

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    Aug 02, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    Welcome youngster, to the world of grown men and pain. I guess you have just had your first initiation in to the reality of having a penis. Be thankful you haven't started your journey with dating girls. You would really have been initiated in to pain with this first dump experience you had. lol. You see, lesson number one for you: even in a bad experience there is some positive if you look for it.
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    Aug 02, 2012 7:12 AM GMT
    jomu112 saidWhat if I want him back?icon_cry.gif

    Ignore him and don't let this affect your grades. They will stay with you when you go off to work-he won't and didn't. Listen to the song " I'll fall in love again" Sammy Hagar- it's rock it's old, but upbeat and music can help you heal. You will be fine it's process. I have only been dumped once in my life. I am usually the one that gets bored, but I try never to hurt anyone.

    Cycle icon_idea.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_smile.gificon_razz.gificon_smile.gificon_question.gif)icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gificon_question.gifcry:icon_cry.gificon_sad.gificon_mad.gificon_mad.gificon_eek.gificon_question.gif?icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif
    reverse this too late and tired to do it again.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:13 AM GMT
    like seriously,get over it,still better then closet gay man married to straight woman,can u imagine put ur penis into ur wife no no place,ew!
  • BmwKid92

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    Aug 02, 2012 11:21 AM GMT
    you'll be alright bud, grab yourself a ben and jerrys and turn on judge judy
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    Aug 02, 2012 11:26 AM GMT
    I seriously can't even cry anymore I've cried so much...but the pain is still there...why??????