Our first weekend together.....

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    Aug 02, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    So I met a really great guy exactly one month ago at a bar when I was visiting my friend in another city. I approached him and we ended up hanging the rest of the night. As luck would have it my phone was on the fritz when we were leaving the bar so I couldn't save his number and he didn't have his phone (he is very old school like that...doesn't carry his cell 24/7, doesn't do facebook or online dating...blah blah blah) but told me to tell him my number and he would call. Naturally as we left the bar I didn't think I would ever hear from him again but once I got my phone working later that evening I ended up getting a call from him.

    We have been talking every night since, except maybe 2 or 3, and generally for at least an hour or more. So I have really gotten to know him, yes I know its not the same as in person, but this is someone who I have spent at least 40 or so hours on the phone with in addition to texting through the day.

    This weekend he is coming to Nashville and it will be the first time we have seen each other since that night and I am kinda nervous. I am hoping it won't be awkward to hang out and since I do have feelings for him I really hope it goes well. It's been about 2 years since I have really liked someone who also liked me back.

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    Aug 02, 2012 6:24 AM GMT
    princeofnash saidSend me some positive vibes. icon_smile.gif

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    You don't say much about what kind of weekend is planned or expected. Including sleepover?

    I've had a "first weekend" together a few times over the years, and all of them went well. It can be a great time to get to know each other and bond. Kinda like a shake-down cruise, and even if it shows a lack of compatibility, it's better that happen early than later. So in a sense it's a win-win proposition.

    And you've already met in person, none of the worries of a blind date. I envy you, because I remember a couple of times within weeks of meeting, one a weekend with a guy, the second a whole week with another some years later, that were each enchanted. If yours is anything like mine were then I envy you, because it still pleases me to think about those times.

    Good luck, and please tell us how it went. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    Awww. Hope you guys have a great weekend. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
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    Aug 02, 2012 6:42 AM GMT
    Just be yourself it seems to be working.

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    Aug 03, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    princeofnash saidSend me some positive vibes. icon_smile.gif

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    You don't say much about what kind of weekend is planned or expected. Including sleepover?

    I've had a "first weekend" together a few times over the years, and all of them went well. It can be a great time to get to know each other and bond. Kinda like a shake-down cruise, and even if it shows a lack of compatibility, it's better that happen early than later. So in a sense it's a win-win proposition.

    And you've already met in person, none of the worries of a blind date. I envy you, because I remember a couple of times within weeks of meeting, one a weekend with a guy, the second a whole week with another some years later, that were each enchanted. If yours is anything like mine were then I envy you, because it still pleases me to think about those times.

    Good luck, and please tell us how it went. icon_biggrin.gif


    No 'planned' sleepover. He got a hotel room just because seeing as this is the first weekend we have hung out he didn't want us to feel 'forced' to hang out together if things got weird. At first I wasn't sure about him doing that but I now actually think its a good idea. I am picking him up from the airport tomorrow and I know we will go out Saturday night for sure. We will definitely hang more than that but just playing it by ear. He has a friend here so I think he may spend a little bit of time with him too.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:39 AM GMT
    Do you remember or know what he looks like when your sober?

    If you do then your golden. If you only remember what you saw when you were drinking, yikes!!
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    princeofnash saidSend me some positive vibes. icon_smile.gif
    8JQO
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:47 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    princeofnash saidSend me some positive vibes. icon_smile.gif
    8JQO


    Y u so funna??
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    Aug 03, 2012 2:51 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidDo you remember or know what he looks like when your sober?

    If you do then your golden. If you only remember what you saw when you were drinking, yikes!!


    Haha. Yes I remember. He is a very handsome guy. Great body too. It's there mentally and physically for me.
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    Aug 03, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    Just don't head out to a gay bar please!!!!icon_mad.gif
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    Aug 08, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    So here is a quick recap of the weekend. I picked him up on Friday night from the airport and we went to dinner. After that we went to the bar and I ended up staying the night at his hotel. We slept in the same bed but nothing happened except some kissing. Saturday he was meeting a friend that also lived here and I ended up meeting them both for dinner and we all went out and have a fun time. I did not stay the night with him on Saturday. On Sunday we ended up having brunch and I took him to the airport. After he got back home we talked on the phone for an hour so I took that as a good sign......

    But....and there is always a but.... icon_smile.gif

    He wasn't very affectionate towards me. I didn't care that we didn't get too physical but it was me initiating the littie contact we had. I mean we had been talking for over a month for long periods of time each night on the phone so it wasn't like we had just met. So I guess I just expected a little more affection after that long of time. So I am not sure if this is how he is or if he is just shy.

    Any advice? Am I taking this the wrong way?
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    Aug 08, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    So far, so good! I was wondering how far away he lives from you? Looks like you're about ready to schedule your next visit. How about you going to his city next time?
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    Aug 08, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    princeofnash saidSo here is a quick recap of the weekend. I picked him up on Friday night from the airport and we went to dinner. After that we went to the bar and I ended up staying the night at his hotel. We slept in the same bed but nothing happened except some kissing. Saturday he was meeting a friend that also lived here and I ended up meeting them both for dinner and we all went out and have a fun time. I did not stay the night with him on Saturday. On Sunday we ended up having brunch and I took him to the airport. After he got back home we talked on the phone for an hour so I took that as a good sign......

    But....and there is always a but.... icon_smile.gif

    He wasn't very affectionate towards me. I didn't care that we didn't get too physical but it was me initiating the littie contact we had. I mean we had been talking for over a month for long periods of time each night on the phone so it wasn't like we had just met. So I guess I just expected a little more affection after that long of time. So I am not sure if this is how he is or if he is just shy.

    Any advice? Am I taking this the wrong way?


    Glad to hear you had a fun time icon_smile.gif
    but maybe he didn't want to rush things.
    or he's just more of a gentleman and wants see where things go before he gets too physical with you.
    I wouldn't worry about it icon_wink.gif
  • chgobuzz1

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    Aug 09, 2012 6:17 AM GMT
    If it was meant to be it would have been more than what you described. Let it go and see how he is at contacting you. You lost nothing over all this. Try and be friends later.