far away love or long distance love ever is it work?

  • drcharm

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    Aug 11, 2008 10:59 AM GMT
    hi
    i am just asking what u think of far away love i mean u met the gay in this web site or othere but he far away u can nt see each othere let say for 6 month is it trial worth is nt is an unrealistic relation i had been there all i got a heart that beat to a guy i never met?
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    Aug 11, 2008 2:52 PM GMT
    I usually follow my 20 minute - 20 mile rule but not always!
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    Aug 11, 2008 2:57 PM GMT
    The most I'll ever commute for "love" is 2 hours; and I ONLY say that 'cause when I was in San Diego I dated several guys who lived in LA and it's not THAT far, however other than that I'd prefer to stay within a descent driving distance.
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    Aug 11, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    lol, I won't even date someone in north county san diego, let alone LA.

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    Aug 11, 2008 6:08 PM GMT
    To date, the furthest I have lived from anyone has been 1 hour. 3 hours would be my cut off.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Aug 11, 2008 7:38 PM GMT
    It is REALLY difficult to carry on a love affair of any substance if you live so far as to not be able to spend very much time together. I am sure it varies, but for me, even San Diego is too far.... I live in LA and he didn't want to drive here and I finally got tired of the constant drive (all the time and money) BUT having said that, if I were in love and it was mutual.... everything would change!

    -- Ron
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    Aug 11, 2008 11:00 PM GMT
    At some point one of you is going to have to make a commitment.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 11, 2008 11:01 PM GMT
    Long distance love affairs are usually more in your mind than anything else
    Being IN a relationship requires that you BE together
    when you're apart fantasy starts kicking in and the things that you wouldn't like start fading away until you meet him again
    Can they work?
    Yeah...I guess if you and the other guy work really hard at it but where will it get you?
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    Aug 11, 2008 11:03 PM GMT
    Most likely not, but kudos to the couple who's done it and stayed faithful.
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    Aug 11, 2008 11:29 PM GMT
    This is not a issue of will work or don't work. I know couples who have made this work. One of those couples has been a faithful couple for over 15 years. However, there has to be mutual agreement on a lot of things that both parties are comfortable with.
    If you don't think it will work, (like any other major issue in a relationship - regardless of what it is) then it probably won't.
    Statistically, most fail between year one and year two if the parties do not eliminate the distance. That doesn't mean it won't work, it is simply an issue of being too stressful to the relationship over time to allow the relationship to develop normally.
    As the common issues are localization of family, work, or social/cultural network.
  • drcharm

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    Aug 12, 2008 12:07 PM GMT
    long distance love i asked cause i already been thr i m talkin to a guy since 1yr he commit himslf but realy wt the benfit as madonna said u alway luv me more miles away lol