Career vs inner peace?

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    Aug 02, 2012 8:52 PM GMT
    I'm pretty adamant about my move but I got that sick gut feeling about leaving my career behind and I would have to start over. I do like what I do but I'm not happy here and it feels like I'm wasting my time.

    So what would you choose,a career and a boring life or a fresh start somewhere where you want to be with some struggles and new excitement along the way? A search for happiness so to say
  • TheBizMan

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    Aug 02, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    I will have a boring life for a few years, and once I pull a six figure salary, I will no longer have a boring life.

    Gotta pay your dues.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    The six figure is not happening for about 10 years or so, I'm only 3 years into it.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    i'd choose a fresh start. you never know where it may lead... it could the best thing to ever happen to you, it could be disatrous. You won't know until u make the leap....

    go for it, dude. Be happy. Boredom is like rage only spread super thin.... can't stay bored. gotta move on
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    ohboy saidThe six figure is not happening for about 10 years or so, I'm only 3 years into it.


    Use your 3 years of experience to find a better paying career, in an area you wan't to live. Problem solved.

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    Aug 02, 2012 9:10 PM GMT
    I really don't know what you hope to achieve with your move. Other than the weather I can't see any advantage LA has over Seattle and lots of disadvantages. Are you sure your problems are really caused by your location and not something else? If you were living in Bumfuck, ID and wanted to move to LA I could understand, but this?icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI really don't know what you hope to achieve with your move. Other than the weather I can't see any advantage LA has over Seattle and lots of disadvantages. Are you sure your problems are really caused by your location and not something else? If you were living in Bumfuck, ID and wanted to move to LA I could understand, but this?icon_confused.gif


    I agree here, stay AWAY from LA unless you are made an offer you can't refuse.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:16 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI really don't know what you hope to achieve with your move. Other than the weather I can't see any advantage LA has over Seattle and lots of disadvantages. Are you sure your problems are really caused by your location and not something else? If you were living in Bumfuck, ID and wanted to move to LA I could understand, but this?icon_confused.gif


    Hey now! Bumfuck ID has nice scenery and open skies! LOL
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:19 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidI will have a boring life for a few years, and once I pull a six figure salary, I will no longer have a boring life.

    Gotta pay your dues.


    There are no poor wage slaves in america... just temporarily embarrassed millionaires.

    But to the point at hand, you can't 'escape' your problems they will follow you wherever you go.

    You need to balance the aspects of your life that give it meaning,the true challenge in life is sorting what will really make you happy from what other people and social programming are fighting to convince you, will make you happy.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:30 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidThere are no poor wage slaves in america... just temporarily embarrassed millionaires.

    But to the point at hand, you can't 'escape' your problems they will follow you wherever you go.

    You need to balance the aspects of your life that give it meaning,the true challenge in life is sorting what will really make you happy from what other people and social programming are fighting to convince you, will make you happy.
    You're a scholar and gentlemen... and right! Being happy where you're at is very important. Nothing in life ever goes our way, so we must change our ways, a bit.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    JR_RJ said

    Nothing in life ever goes our way, so we must change our ways, a bit.


    I wouldn't want it too, it would be an incredibly boring existence if you received everything you ever expected exactly as you expected it icon_wink.gif

  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 02, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    I already hopped from job to job when I was young and had plenty of excitement .... my job isn't perfect, but the positives vastly outweigh the negatives and in my experience, there is no such thing as a perfect job. The grass is not always greener and there is something to be said for longevity. However, if you have something that is going to pay you vastly better, or provide you with the experience to help you advance, you definitely need to go for it.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:56 PM GMT
    Inner peace should always trump career, imo. But, I don't know the details of your situation. I agree with the other posters, that it's tempting to think that changing the scenery will solve all your problems. Often not so, unfortunately. Wherever you go, there you are.
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    Aug 02, 2012 9:57 PM GMT
    Being a career driven person I would ask: Do you love your chosen career? If yes then I would say stick it out until your career is at a point where you can get a job in your field with relative ease given your skills and experience.

    But if your inner peace is preventing or distracting you from progressing your career and/or you want a career change, then go for it as you will be starting from the bottom either way.

    As has been already said, by moving you may able to leave some problems behind but most of your problems are yours to keep and will faithfully follow around. Not to mention new ones that may be acquired by the move.
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    Aug 02, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    Remember your mind goes with you. What habitat you give it will make all the difference in what you WILL accomplish.
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    Aug 02, 2012 10:45 PM GMT
    START FRESH! EXPLORE!
    I did, and it was the best decision I've ever made. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 10:47 PM GMT
    Take it from one who's been there. At 54, I can now say that a lot of my life was wasted in search of being happy. My career choices that went along with it made my personal life suffer, as I've spent so much time working that I wound up sacrificing relationships. I DID have some great times and opportunities and now have some great stories that makes for great cocktail chatter, but in retrospect I always wanted a fairly linear, non-traumatic life. that WASN'T the card that was dealt.
    Think about your long-term future, as re-inventing yourself in your mid 50s blows.
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    Aug 02, 2012 10:48 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidSTART FRESH! EXPLORE!
    I did, and it was the best decision I've ever made. icon_biggrin.gif


    +1
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    Aug 02, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
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    GigoloAssassin saidSTART FRESH! EXPLORE!
    I did, and it was the best decision I've ever made. icon_biggrin.gif


    +1


    Yay! he's back!!!

    And this is a debate i'm having now icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 02, 2012 11:07 PM GMT
    People don't realize how much peace comes from having a good career/job. Money has to be the #1 reason for the lack of peace in most people's lives. My advice would be to (further) specialize in the aspect(s) of your present career that you enjoy. This will let you do what you like to do, get further ahead and to not waste the hard work of your past 3 years. Some people think that moving away will allow for a fresh start (but running away from your problems don't really work; your problems tend to eventually find you).
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    Aug 02, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    I'm not escaping any problems, I live a pretty comfortable life here, in fact too comfortable. I'll have a lot more problems when I move and that's fine. I've been here for too long and don't see myself living here any longer. I need to get out of my comfort zone. Yeah #FirstWorldProblems

    About the career, I do like what I do but I can eventually get into the same field in the new city, just not sure how long it will take. I can always come back here and get my spot back whenever it becomes open and if my managers are still there. All I will lose is time and maybe some promotion opportunities, but I do want to explore!