Is it the norm that all we go by is looks? Is there anything else ABOUT YOU?

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    Aug 02, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    Discovered the "Who's Online" link and decided finally I would start checking people out. Of course I like to click on a link with an interesting photo, but then there is nothing about the person. How can you assume the world will be attracted to you just by your looks? I won't even waste my time emailing someone that cannot even write a little about what they believe in, it goes a LONG ways. If you ran into each other in person, I can understand that you would have to gather information about the person. But online, it seems like you are only asking people to view you as "good looking". Why should I put myself in the situation of throwing myself out there when obviously your About Me section could have saved me the trouble. Or do people just hate writing? This is just my opinion. Do you agree or disagree?
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    Aug 02, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    YESSSSSSSSSSSSS. Always has been, always will be. /endthread
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    Aug 02, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    dan_x saidYESSSSSSSSSSSSS. Always has been, always will be. /endthread


    How many more are about to share in your attitude I wonder?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:03 AM GMT
    Sustenance said
    dan_x saidYESSSSSSSSSSSSS. Always has been, always will be. /endthread


    How many more are about to share in your attitude I wonder?icon_rolleyes.gif


    People will always judge by looks. It's human nature. There's not much to expand on. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    I thought the text part of profiles was just decoration to compliment the good looking headless torsos. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:09 AM GMT
    dan_x said
    Sustenance said
    dan_x saidYESSSSSSSSSSSSS. Always has been, always will be. /endthread


    How many more are about to share in your attitude I wonder?icon_rolleyes.gif


    People will always judge by looks. It's human nature. There's not much to expand on. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Not much to expand on????

    I took English last semester and my professor told us, over 80% of students will never make it through college simply because they fail to have good English skills. It's not because they don't have something good to write, it's that they have no interest in it. Well, I guess there will be a shitload of jobs when I get out of college.
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI thought the text part of profiles was just decoration to compliment the good looking headless torsos. icon_razz.gif


    I'm beginning to wonder. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    Well it depends on what you are after, If you want hook ups and sexual release with no strings attached, then yes, looks are more important.

    If you are after friendships or relationships with depth to them, then "who you are" is much more important.

    I think that people in general respond better to someone good looking, whether it is conscious or not. The first thing we are judged on are our looks. Then upon in person interaction, or your "bio" online, people can get a somewhat better idea of what kind of person you are. When I don't know a person and only have looks to go off of, I am very picky. When I actually interact with a person and learn about them, and share and relate with them, then regardless of their physical appearance, they do become more attractive.

    I think sometimes we feel defined by our appearance, especially in the gay community. However, I like individuals with their own sense of being, rather than someone who has to follow the latest trends and fit in with the in crowd. If you are in to fashion though, like as a designer or it is just a passion, than the latest trends and what not is understandable.
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:28 AM GMT
    SSJTrunks saidWell it depends on what you are after, If you want hook ups and sexual release with no strings attached, then yes, looks are more important.

    If you are after friendships or relationships with depth to them, then "who you are" is much more important.

    I think that people in general respond better to someone good looking, whether it is conscious or not. The first thing we are judged on are our looks. Then upon in person interaction, or your "bio" online, people can get a somewhat better idea of what kind of person you are. When I don't know a person and only have looks to go off of, I am very picky. When I actually interact with a person and learn about them, and share and relate with them, then regardless of their physical appearance, they do become more attractive.

    I think sometimes we feel defined by our appearance, especially in the gay community. However, I like individuals with their own sense of being, rather than someone who has to follow the latest trends and fit in with the in crowd. If you are in to fashion though, like as a designer or it is just a passion, than the latest trends and what not is understandable.


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    Aug 03, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    SSJTrunks, you should incorporate somehow a lot of what you just wrote into your About Me section. I think it would become even more subliminal along with your cartoon for profile photo.icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    Sustenance saidSSJTrunks, you should incorporate somehow a lot of what you just wrote into your About Me section. I think it would become even more subliminal along with your cartoon for profile photo.icon_cool.gif


    hahaha icon_biggrin.gif ok.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:12 AM GMT
    Obscure saidIt looks like Im going to have to start revoking gay cards again.

    Gay Lesson 131: Penises, Pecs and Pics - Thats all we ask!


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    Aug 03, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    I think mine says alot about who I am and what I'll do.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    dan_x saidYESSSSSSSSSSSSS. Always has been, always will be. /endthread

    Sadly this
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    "Is it the norm that all we go by is looks? Is there anything else ABOUT YOU?"

    Oh there is much more about me, I just dont spill my guts on here like other people icon_neutral.gif

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    Aug 03, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    Yes... but this website and gay men in general for that matter go beyond just being superficial attention whores of whatever kind... we make it into a lifestyle and philosophy. IMHO, if you can't appreciate the aesthetic qualities of someone, you'll never truly appreciate their depths.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    Claystation said"Is it the norm that all we go by is looks? Is there anything else ABOUT YOU?"

    Oh there is much more about me, I just dont spill my guts on here like other people icon_neutral.gif

    No you don't, but that is why I like you. If ever there was a nut that needed cracking is you! icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidNo you don't, but that is why I like you. If ever there was a nut that needed cracking is you! icon_wink.gif


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    You stay away from my nuts icon_mad.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    Just give him alcohol, it all comes out then.

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    JR_RJ saidNo you don't, but that is why I like you. If ever there was a nut that needed cracking is you! icon_wink.gif


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    You stay away from my nuts icon_mad.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:35 AM GMT
    RJ isn't a dating site, at least not primarily. There is no need to go into as much detail as I might need to do somewhere else. My profile is very basic. It should give a very general sense of my personality, but it doesn't have too many personal details. Those things come up in conversation as I talk to people.

    It depends on what people are after too. RJ has a lot of different aspects - the forums (socializing, discussions, advice), the chat room (the adult one is the only one that has anyone in it), direct communication (e-mail, chat), and the articles. Depending on what people want, there may be no need for them to fill out their profile.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidNo you don't, but that is why I like you. If ever there was a nut that needed cracking is you! icon_wink.gif


    Why does it always come down to the nuts? icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:37 AM GMT
    Claystation saidicon_eek.gif

    You stay away from my nuts icon_mad.gif
    Fine then... blue ball it... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:38 AM GMT
    Claystation said"Is it the norm that all we go by is looks? Is there anything else ABOUT YOU?"

    Oh there is much more about me, I just dont spill my guts on here like other people icon_neutral.gif



    And I respect that... But I wonder why you would find that human expression is spilling your guts? I find the most beautiful human emotion ties into honesty and if people don't like that, they might be insecure. I throw myself out there because I find art in it. People will either like it or dislike it and I don't pay attention to the ones that dislike it. Then there are those that fall flat on their face from loneliness even in a world of great looking outer appearances just in wonder of why they fell down. I try to be there for them, but I can't unless I have made it clear that I am human and that I am not judging their personality. But rather I judge their fear of falling down over and over again until they just have no desire to get up anymore. That is what scares me; people no longer get up when they assume that inside of themselves they must be useless to humanity. I don't think that's really so. I believe everyone has a shining light that needs to be uncovered so others can find inspiration and emotional relations with each other.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:42 AM GMT
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    JR_RJ saidNo you don't, but that is why I like you. If ever there was a nut that needed cracking is you! icon_wink.gif


    Why does it always come down to the nuts? icon_confused.gif
    Cause, they're salty good.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidCause, they're salty good.


    But they're so high in fat.

    Wait, I just made this unsexy. Fail.