Another chance with BF?

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    Aug 03, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    So he has always had a problem with going on manhunt and ect.. I have caught him 3 times, counting this time. Each time was a bullshit excuse saying he wasn't doing anything, and claiming he was bored and had nothing better to do, so that is why he is on there...

    Today he wasn't answering my phone calls and so I got a little worried, so I made a fake account and sent him a message with a hot guy from google images, saying I lived close to him and ect.. He also claimed he would never get on the site since the last time I caught him, he was on 1 day ago it claims. So within 3 messages, he gave the fake guy the address..

    I then received a call from him saying he is going to go eat with hims "friends", in reality he was planning to hook up with the guy..

    I replied to him on the website that it was me, and he claimed he knew it was me the whole time and he was just messing with me.

    Bullshit or no? He claims he has never met a guy on the websites and SWORE on his mothers grave and him.
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    Aug 03, 2012 2:48 AM GMT
    Remember, you broke up for a reason.
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    Aug 03, 2012 2:55 AM GMT
    Personally I never did anything.. Deleted all my hookup sites.. What else could you want? We were suppose to spend the weekend on the beach, but I guess that plan is over with.
  • SomeSiciliano...

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    Aug 03, 2012 3:09 AM GMT

    I learned a long time ago: never make someone a priority when they consider you an option. If that applies to your situation........
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Sounds like a lovely relationship... if by love you mean full of betrayal and deceit.. why would you want to go back to that?
  • Beeftastic

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    Aug 03, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    You caught him lying to you, he is did not know it was you, I had a bf that would use that excuse too (I knew it was you, that's why I was so slutty).

    If you want a monogamous relationship with respect and trust, it won't be with this man. Time to move on IMHO.

    I was in a similar situation with my ex, I let him get away with it three times, the third time I realized that he might stop for a while, but I knew he would eventually do it again, so I ended it. It was painful, we still did love each other, but I knew I would never get out of the relationship what I needed.
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    ditch this mofo..
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Buppi saidSo he has always had a problem with going on manhunt and ect.. I have caught him 3 times, counting this time. Each time was a bullshit excuse saying he wasn't doing anything, and claiming he was bored and had nothing better to do, so that is why he is on there...

    Today he wasn't answering my phone calls and so I got a little worried, so I made a fake account and sent him a message with a hot guy from google images, saying I lived close to him and ect.. He also claimed he would never get on the site since the last time I caught him, he was on 1 day ago it claims. So within 3 messages, he gave the fake guy the address..

    I then received a call from him saying he is going to go eat with hims "friends", in reality he was planning to hook up with the guy..

    I replied to him on the website that it was me, and he claimed he knew it was me the whole time and he was just messing with me.

    Bullshit or no? He claims he has never met a guy on the websites and SWORE on his mothers grave and him.


    Sounds like you're a real head case. So fucking what it he wants to see some hot guys. It's HIS life. You only control YOUR life. Not his. If he says he's not sleeping around, then you have just a few choices:
    1. Believe him and move on.
    2. Believe him and dump him.
    3. Don't believe him and be all cranky.

    What the fuck sort of asshole are you for putting him to the test. He's your boyfriend. If you don't trust him, you should be dumped.

    You're likely very clingy, and completely needy, and delusional that he shouldn't look at other folks. Yes, monogamous relationships are great, but, they are not healthy if they're isolated, and distrusting.

    My call: Separate for a while, do your own things. Either you'll change, or he will, or you'll come to accept how things are.

    Save all the negative immature bullshit energy for your next life.
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    Don't be so damn desperate. You're 18 and hot. You can do better than him.
  • Litmop

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    Aug 03, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    BiItalianBro said
    I learned a long time ago: never make someone a priority when they consider you an option. If that applies to your situation........


    Fantastic!
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    Thanks for the inputs again, guess I'm single.. Just going to have to give it a day or two to get fully over it.
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Buppi saidThanks for the inputs again, guess I'm single.. Just going to have to give it a day or two to get fully over it.


    You can end it Mean Girls style and backstab him by inviting a guy from manhunt to your place, have some "fun" with him right when your ex walks in from where ever he went. Its puurrrffeecttt icon_twisted.gif
  • Litmop

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    Aug 03, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    Buppi saidThanks for the inputs again, guess I'm single.. Just going to have to give it a day or two to get fully over it.


    Dude, he's a liar, wish him well and move on.
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    FilmGuy19_notporn said
    Buppi saidThanks for the inputs again, guess I'm single.. Just going to have to give it a day or two to get fully over it.


    You can end it Mean Girls style and backstab him by inviting a guy from manhunt to your place, have some "fun" with him right when your ex walks in from where ever he went. Its puurrrffeecttt icon_twisted.gif


    I think that would work on mean girls, I don't want anyone to be in prison lol
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:34 AM GMT
    It takes a long time to find the right guy. Sometimes it happens sooner. Be strong with yourself on this. Don't let a guy treat you any way other than you want to be treated.

    Pick yourself up, dust off and hit the gym. You'll find another guy.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:41 AM GMT
    I SMELL BULLSHIIIITTTT.

    its mad the things you can believe when you want them to be true
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:06 PM GMT
    Buppi saidSo he has always had a problem with going on manhunt and ect.. I have caught him 3 times, counting this time. Each time was a bullshit excuse saying he wasn't doing anything, and claiming he was bored and had nothing better to do, so that is why he is on there...

    Today he wasn't answering my phone calls and so I got a little worried, so I made a fake account and sent him a message with a hot guy from google images, saying I lived close to him and ect.. He also claimed he would never get on the site since the last time I caught him, he was on 1 day ago it claims. So within 3 messages, he gave the fake guy the address..

    I then received a call from him saying he is going to go eat with hims "friends", in reality he was planning to hook up with the guy..

    I replied to him on the website that it was me, and he claimed he knew it was me the whole time and he was just messing with me.

    Bullshit or no? He claims he has never met a guy on the websites and SWORE on his mothers grave and him.


    Ok...first thing, it was wrong of you to steal some other dudes pics. I get it. You weren't trying to be malicious, but you don't know who may have seen those pics and thought, "Oh shit. He's gay?" Not that there's anything wrong with being gay (obviously), but no one deserves to be outted by someone else--especially when they aren't gay.

    Second thing...dump his ass and never look back. You gave him multiple chances. It's one thing if he went on MH/Grindr/Scruff to honestly look at pics or make friends. (Yes, people do that.) Within three messages, he was ready to meet up with the fake you (presumably to do something), and then lied to you about his whereabouts. He can pull that bullshit, "I knew it was you" line, but he's saving face. He knows he's been nailed, and he's afraid of losing you. He clearly can't be trusted, and who knows how many times he's cheated and potentially put you at risk.
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    he's playing you.

    just let him go. he's not who you thought he was.
  • FireDoor211

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    Aug 03, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    Buppi saidSo he has always had a problem with going on manhunt and ect.. I have caught him 3 times, counting this time. Each time was a bullshit excuse saying he wasn't doing anything, and claiming he was bored and had nothing better to do, so that is why he is on there...

    Today he wasn't answering my phone calls and so I got a little worried, so I made a fake account and sent him a message with a hot guy from google images, saying I lived close to him and ect.. He also claimed he would never get on the site since the last time I caught him, he was on 1 day ago it claims. So within 3 messages, he gave the fake guy the address..

    I then received a call from him saying he is going to go eat with hims "friends", in reality he was planning to hook up with the guy..

    I replied to him on the website that it was me, and he claimed he knew it was me the whole time and he was just messing with me.

    Bullshit or no? He claims he has never met a guy on the websites and SWORE on his mothers grave and him.


    Total bulshit, no question. I used to watch my old roommate and his boyfriend go through this very same crap. I knew full well my roommate was banging other dudes. Hell, he's come into my room trying to get some dick. Some guys are just sluts, kick em loose and find a real man,
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    Aug 03, 2012 12:24 PM GMT
    Litmop said
    BiItalianBro said
    I learned a long time ago: never make someone a priority when they consider you an option. If that applies to your situation........

    Fantastic!

    Yeah, I like that one. So much I'm gonna steal it and use it myself, my highest compliment - LOL!
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    Aug 03, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    To Chukystud, not the OP, the fuck up, u r delusional, he can put his bf to the test if he suspects that he is cheating him and can potentially put himself at risk.
    chuckystud said
    Buppi saidSo he has always had a problem with going on manhunt and ect.. I have caught him 3 times, counting this time. Each time was a bullshit excuse saying he wasn't doing anything, and claiming he was bored and had nothing better to do, so that is why he is on there...

    Today he wasn't answering my phone calls and so I got a little worried, so I made a fake account and sent him a message with a hot guy from google images, saying I lived close to him and ect.. He also claimed he would never get on the site since the last time I caught him, he was on 1 day ago it claims. So within 3 messages, he gave the fake guy the address..

    I then received a call from him saying he is going to go eat with hims "friends", in reality he was planning to hook up with the guy..

    I replied to him on the website that it was me, and he claimed he knew it was me the whole time and he was just messing with me.

    Bullshit or no? He claims he has never met a guy on the websites and SWORE on his mothers grave and him.


    Sounds like you're a real head case. So fucking what it he wants to see some hot guys. It's HIS life. You only control YOUR life. Not his. If he says he's not sleeping around, then you have just a few choices:
    1. Believe him and move on.
    2. Believe him and dump him.
    3. Don't believe him and be all cranky.

    What the fuck sort of asshole are you for putting him to the test. He's your boyfriend. If you don't trust him, you should be dumped.

    You're likely very clingy, and completely needy, and delusional that he shouldn't look at other folks. Yes, monogamous relationships are great, but, they are not healthy if they're isolated, and distrusting.

    My call: Separate for a while, do your own things. Either you'll change, or he will, or you'll come to accept how things are.

    Save all the negative immature bullshit energy for your next life.
  • xysx

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    Aug 03, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    BitalianBro said:I learned a long time ago: never make someone a priority when they consider you an option.

    ^^ Brilliant. Winning answer. Short enough to copy and keep in your wallet as a reminder.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    He's a cowardly piece of shit who is not worth your time.

    Unless you stay with him, in which case you are tacitly agreeing that your time has no value and you deserve a piece of shit.

    Since you know yourself better than I do, I wouldn't argue either way.

    If you were my son or my baby brother, he would learn the meaning of fear. and I'd smack you for being a sucker. but you're not...so, let yourself get played if you don't think you deserve better.

    Don't complain of being treated like a doormat, when you lay down and sleep in front of the door.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    Dump him. You deserve honesty and he's probably not going to ever give it to you. Just be glad you found out now that he's unable or unwilling to be honest with you. You could have wasted decades with this guy. Cut your losses and don't look back.
  • ATXnative

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    Aug 03, 2012 6:14 PM GMT
    Don't waste your time judging him, or trying to make a reason. Youre 18, you dont have to deal with it. Just break up with him and see a new guy. Don't waste time feeling negative about it, youve already wasted enough energy... its just gonna keep you down. Don't listen to all the vindictive queens.