Ugh I feel bad...

  • Musicman91

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    Aug 03, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    I met this guy on Grindr(I know I know!) and we chatted and then started texting. We hung out one night about 3 weeks back and it was nice. Then we went to a dinner and a movie type deal a few days later and he was VERY touchy feely. It was a fun time we went for ice cream and then back to his place and chatted. Then he was getting even more touchy feely and said how attracted he was to me, he said he is a huge soccer fan and I reminded him of Rooney from the English soccer team. I caught it short by having to leave.

    Well we hung out again tonight and had a nice time and then he started trying to get sexual and I point blank told him that I was more interested in being friends and I am not really into anything sexual until I get to know a person better anyway. He then said he is just so attracted to me. I was flattered but I am not attracted to him sexually and I am like him as a friend and I don't want any sex crap ruining it. Anyway after told him I could tell he was sad and I remember him telling me how he gets lonely because his family lives in Mexico and he misses them. I just feel bad he is lonely and wants comfort and feeling of closeness with someone. I don't know I have just been thinking about it all night and how sad he looked and how it is my fault that he looked that way,

    Sorry for the long winded post but I needed to tell someone!
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:06 AM GMT
    So basically you hooked up on GrindR, a hook up app, then didn't put out and gave the guy blue balls and now you feel bad for not putting out.

    I say, lube up that clam and call the boy.
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:07 AM GMT
    I hate it when it is ALWAYS about the sex. Don't feel bad. If he was lonely, he would appriciate the time you two spent together. Who just goes.. "My family is far-far away, and to fill the void, I sleep with a person as soon as I meet them.."

    He was trying to get some BOW-CHICKA-WOW-WOW
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    Hey if you don't like him then don't have sex with him! You don't win prize for giving out pity fucks. Who are you, the gay fucking Messiah?! Rejection is part of this cruel world. But you can do it nicely so he doesn't get too hurt. That's the trick icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 03, 2012 6:15 AM GMT
    Farmjock saidI hate it when it is ALWAYS about the sex. Don't feel bad. If he was lonely, he would appriciate the time you two spent together. Who just goes.. "My family is far-far away, and to fill the void, I sleep with a person as soon as I meet them.."

    He was trying to get some BOW-CHICKA-WOW-WOW


    That, is how the gay cookeh crumbles. He was trying to score symphony fuck from you.

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  • Musicman91

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    Aug 03, 2012 6:23 AM GMT
    Daas saidSo basically you hooked up on GrindR, a hook up app, then didn't put out and gave the guy blue balls and now you feel bad for not putting out.

    I say, lube up that clam and call the boy.


    We didn't "hook up" we hung out. I barely ever use Grindr anyway and he seemed like a cool guy. I just wish there was an app to meet people and not have the whole hook up BS in the way...
  • Fable

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    Aug 03, 2012 1:00 PM GMT
    he said you looked like this:


    Wayne-Rooney_2054536.jpg



    ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 03, 2012 1:06 PM GMT
    You did the right thing...you were honest, told him how you felt and in person.
    If most did what you did, there were would be fewer issues out there.

    Good job!
  • FireDoor211

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    Aug 03, 2012 1:07 PM GMT
    The pity plea is a sex addicts weapon of choice when you won't put out.
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    Aug 03, 2012 1:12 PM GMT
    Yeah, Pity Sex is gonna make you feel used afterwards too..

    And you're a nice guy, he's a nice guy.. when did you become responsible for his emotional baggage?

    Dude - seriously?

    You can be supportive, but don't buy into the intimacy for comfort thing, .... he's playing you.
  • Musicman91

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    Aug 03, 2012 2:36 PM GMT
    fable saidhe said you looked like this:


    Wayne-Rooney_2054536.jpg



    ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...



    Lol I don't think I look like him but he showed me a better pic of him :3
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    Aug 03, 2012 2:56 PM GMT

    MusicMan I think you have a gentle soul and a great deal of empathy. Those things are valuable and worth protecting. You did the right thing.

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  • HottJoe

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    Aug 03, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    Just because a man buys you dinner doesn't mean you have to put out. Pity sex is bad for both of you. I'm sure he'll go back on grindr and find someone else. You made the right call. (:
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:24 PM GMT
    Grindr. 'Nuff said.

    And I watch porn for the brilliant writing.
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    Oh wow exactly same story...Grrindr...he just moved here...I was looking for friends...he wanted a lot more...he's a cool guy to hang out But I don't find him sexually attractive...he still tries every damn time we hangout, which is not very often lately because of that, and I've told him icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:56 PM GMT
    Am i the only guy that doesn't have this app..??
    (yup i'm gettn' old)
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    Aug 05, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    Sad? Randy more like.