Friends with benefit

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    Aug 03, 2012 6:05 AM GMT
    I have this friend and we get along pretty well. Right ow either of us have a BF right now, but of course being guys we get horny pretty often, and we do find each other physically *non-repulsive*. Do you think it's a good thing for us to get into? That we can provide sexual gratification for one another? He has joked about it so many times but I'm pretty sure he would want that. Knowing him, he's just testing the waters.

    How do I approach this? I don't want to have the awkward talk.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Aug 03, 2012 1:35 PM GMT
    Friends with benefits are great. People who tell you otherwise have been watching too many chick flicks. If you don't want to have that awkward talk, get drunk with him and fool around. (If fooling around is going to include fucking, make sure you have condoms and lube on hand.)
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    Aug 03, 2012 3:57 PM GMT
    slimnmuscly saidFriends with benefits are great. People who tell you otherwise have been watching too many chick flicks. If you don't want to have that awkward talk, get drunk with him and fool around. (If fooling around is going to include fucking, make sure you have condoms and lube on hand.)

    This, and only this. I have changed my life philosophy around to the point that if you want to be my friend, you have to become a friend with benefits. At first it was a bit awkward, but you get all your friends drunk and fuck around with them and pretty soon, it's all good.
  • jayatl56

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    Aug 03, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    I met a young guy who, at first wanted a LTR. I explained to him that I'm not looking for that for several reasons. I just got out of a 4 year relationship AND just moved back to the US. I just want to get settled. We get along very well and eventually we slept together. He finally realized that it's ok to be FWB but told me that I might not be his only FWB. I don't really care so long as he's safe in all he does, as I am. But at the moment he's the only guy I'm seeing (for sex).

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    Aug 03, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    smartmoney said
    slimnmuscly saidFriends with benefits are great. People who tell you otherwise have been watching too many chick flicks. If you don't want to have that awkward talk, get drunk with him and fool around. (If fooling around is going to include fucking, make sure you have condoms and lube on hand.)

    This, and only this. I have changed my life philosophy around to the point that if you want to be my friend, you have to become a friend with benefits. At first it was a bit awkward, but you get all your friends drunk and fuck around with them and pretty soon, it's all good.


    Is anything sacred anymoar? wtf
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    Aug 03, 2012 10:44 PM GMT
    OP I say don't do it, it will only ruin your friendship.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:05 PM GMT
    Hapuna said
    smartmoney said
    slimnmuscly saidFriends with benefits are great. People who tell you otherwise have been watching too many chick flicks. If you don't want to have that awkward talk, get drunk with him and fool around. (If fooling around is going to include fucking, make sure you have condoms and lube on hand.)

    This, and only this. I have changed my life philosophy around to the point that if you want to be my friend, you have to become a friend with benefits. At first it was a bit awkward, but you get all your friends drunk and fuck around with them and pretty soon, it's all good.


    Is anything sacred anymoar? wtf


    I agree, friends aren't just play things and if that's all you look for in friends I'm sure you won't be able to find many.
    I'm giving the benefit of the doubt that he was joking when he said that.

    I think sex itself is intrinsically a naturally sacred thing and so the reason things can get so 'complicated' is that people try to treat sex like it's not when it is.
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    Aug 04, 2012 6:10 AM GMT
    Thx guys I think I won't talk to him but if there a moment that feels right I will just seize it and go for it. We're pretty good friends so I don't think we will ruin our friendship over it. We work out often together and we have seen each other naked many times if you know what I mean lol
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:45 PM GMT
    smartmoney said
    slimnmuscly saidFriends with benefits are great. People who tell you otherwise have been watching too many chick flicks. If you don't want to have that awkward talk, get drunk with him and fool around. (If fooling around is going to include fucking, make sure you have condoms and lube on hand.)

    This, and only this. I have changed my life philosophy around to the point that if you want to be my friend, you have to become a friend with benefits. At first it was a bit awkward, but you get all your friends drunk and fuck around with them and pretty soon, it's all good.


    Sounds ..Rape-ish .. icon_eek.gif
  • bigking

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    Aug 04, 2012 4:58 PM GMT
    slimnmuscly saidFriends with benefits are great. People who tell you otherwise have been watching too many chick flicks. If you don't want to have that awkward talk, get drunk with him and fool around. (If fooling around is going to include fucking, make sure you have condoms and lube on hand.)


    good idea LOL icon_wink.gif