attraction to effeminate men?

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    Aug 03, 2012 10:04 PM GMT
    This is in no way a bash thread and im a firm believer in being who you are no matter what anyone thinks of you. This is just my ignorance speaking but I would like some truthful answers form men that find feminine men attracted, or knows someone who does. I always thought that if you were gay you like men. Not just the body, but the whole package. Everything that comes along with being a man. So why date a man that acts like a female? Where is the attraction? Like I stated in the beginning of this post im not trying to be mean, but I just honestly don't see where the attraction comes from. Can you guys educate me on this subject icon_confused.gif

    p.s. Im asking this question because im openly serving in the military and currently the only gay member at my base (that I know of). I am the only gay friend that majority of them know and get along with, so they ask me a lot of question and sometimes I don't have the answer.
  • Lanter

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    Aug 03, 2012 10:24 PM GMT
    I don't get it either and I've wondered the same thing. The only conclusion I have come to is that it is a personal preference that I don't understand. The way there are a lot of different preferences that I don't understand. I will say that I could imagine that if a guy was at one time married to a woman, he may have come to enjoy feeling dominant and more of a protector. This also depends on how feminine you are talking about. Is this someone with a questionably lispy voice or a flaming drag queen.

    If a guy had some of the most enjoyable years of his life with a woman, he might get nostalgic around the makeup and delicate demeanor.

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    Aug 03, 2012 10:33 PM GMT
    Seriously bitches there are some flaming ass gay guys and men who love them. It's not the same thing as wanting to be a woman and marrying a straight guy. It's more just a part of gay culture that rubs off on some people. I see it as an attitude and way of self expression. Like Jack on Will & Grace. I think straight people like Jack more than Will anyway lol.
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    Aug 03, 2012 10:45 PM GMT
    I think it has to do with dominance. Some gay guys like dating feminine guys to feel more powerful & it's a turn on for them. Now I'm talking about feminine guys that still look like a guy,not necessarily butch,but looks feminine "soft".

    Now for feminine gays that are into cross dressing & gender bending like Gregory Gorgeous. I really have no idea why some masculine men are into it. I still think it has to with dominanc,but there is also something else that goes with it. Just like how some straight men are into pre-op transgender people. Whatever floats your boat.
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    Aug 03, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    This is SO femmiphobic. I'm attracted to masculine men.. scruff... musculature... box features but if a guy has a bit of sugar in his tank.. oh the fuck well. It's no big deal. Because i think it says more about me than it does about them... that there is something about them being completely over the radar gay. It's like homophobic straight men who fear they are or can be perceived as gay...they object to other gay men because they so strongly fear the consequences of being perceived as a gay man based on social stigmas that are attached to gay men. Guys who are so opposed to femme guys to the point that they shut themselves off from femme guys and will make statements like the OP immediately, to me at least, come off as if they fear being seen as femme themselves. And all the repercussions attached.

    It's better and less stressful to just take men as they come.. see them for who they are at the moment you meet and get to know them. I would say that i more disgusted by bitchy rude behavior that mimics a cheerleader rather than a guy who is girly. I think men confuse this. They think that dating or sex with a girly guy means they are somewhat what that girly guy is. Those girly men often drive your rights because they are visible and constantly the subject of scorn from straights and gay men. It's basically misogyny. And it's learned from heterosexuals who think being gay automatically means you are a wannabe female. and females are weak.


    So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. You will find a huge goldmine of dating and sex opportunities.

    I will date a femme guy if he is masculine in features.. but will stop short at drag.. and women perfume because it's disgusting to me(dislike the fragrance)... but even if he does do drag.. he is not a woman.

    Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing. So i'm ok with being called "gurl" eventhough i have a dick.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic. I'm attracted to masculine men.. scruff... musculature... box features but if a guy has a bit of sugar in his tank.. oh the fuck well. It's no big deal. Because i think it says more about me than it does about them... that there is something about them being completely over the radar gay. It's like homophobic straight men who fear they are or can be perceived as gay...they object to other gay men because they so strongly fear the consequences of being perceived as a gay man based on social stigmas that are attached to gay men. Guys who are so opposed to femme guys to the point that they shut themselves off from femme guys and will make statements like the OP immediately, to me at least, come off as if they fear being seen as femme themselves. And all the repercussions attached.

    It's better and less stressful to just take men as they come.. see them for who they are at the moment you meet and get to know them. I would say that i more disgusted by bitchy rude behavior that mimics a cheerleader rather than a guy who is girly. I think men confuse this. They think that dating or sex with a girly guy means they are somewhat what that girly guy is. Those girly men often drive your rights because they are visible and constantly the subject of scorn from straights and gay men. It's basically misogyny. And it's learned from heterosexuals who think being gay automatically means you are a wannabe female. and females are weak.


    So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. You will find a huge goldmine of dating and sex opportunities.

    I will date a femme guy if he is masculine in features.. but will stop short at drag.. and women perfume because it's disgusting to me(dislike the fragrance)... but even if he does do drag.. he is not a woman.

    Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing. So i'm ok with being called "gurl" eventhough i have a dick.


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    Aug 03, 2012 11:24 PM GMT
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic. I'm attracted to masculine men.. scruff... musculature... box features but if a guy has a bit of sugar in his tank.. oh the fuck well. It's no big deal. Because i think it says more about me than it does about them... that there is something about them being completely over the radar gay. It's like homophobic straight men who fear they are or can be perceived as gay...they object to other gay men because they so strongly fear the consequences of being perceived as a gay man based on social stigmas that are attached to gay men. Guys who are so opposed to femme guys to the point that they shut themselves off from femme guys and will make statements like the OP immediately, to me at least, come off as if they fear being seen as femme themselves. And all the repercussions attached.

    It's better and less stressful to just take men as they come.. see them for who they are at the moment you meet and get to know them. I would say that i more disgusted by bitchy rude behavior that mimics a cheerleader rather than a guy who is girly. I think men confuse this. They think that dating or sex with a girly guy means they are somewhat what that girly guy is. Those girly men often drive your rights because they are visible and constantly the subject of scorn from straights and gay men. It's basically misogyny. And it's learned from heterosexuals who think being gay automatically means you are a wannabe female. and females are weak.


    So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. You will find a huge goldmine of dating and sex opportunities.

    I will date a femme guy if he is masculine in features.. but will stop short at drag.. and women perfume because it's disgusting to me(dislike the fragrance)... but even if he does do drag.. he is not a woman.

    Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing. So i'm ok with being called "gurl" eventhough i have a dick.


    Dude you need to calm down and re-read the VERY FIRST sentence in the VERY FIRST paragraph that I wrote. I never said there was anything wrong with it, I just personally don't understand ( I said that in the first paragraph too). Me not understanding something does not make me a fem hater. Its ridiculous how asking a completely innocent question can automatically make me a hateful bad person. Its like no matter how nicely I put it, someone will always find a way to turn you into the "bad guy". GTF outta here bro. Im sure the gay activist you refereed to in your last paragraph would rather you educate me on the subject instead of using my question as a reason to get all pissed off.
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    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic. I'm attracted to masculine men.. scruff... musculature... box features but if a guy has a bit of sugar in his tank.. oh the fuck well. It's no big deal. Because i think it says more about me than it does about them... that there is something about them being completely over the radar gay. It's like homophobic straight men who fear they are or can be perceived as gay...they object to other gay men because they so strongly fear the consequences of being perceived as a gay man based on social stigmas that are attached to gay men. Guys who are so opposed to femme guys to the point that they shut themselves off from femme guys and will make statements like the OP immediately, to me at least, come off as if they fear being seen as femme themselves. And all the repercussions attached.

    It's better and less stressful to just take men as they come.. see them for who they are at the moment you meet and get to know them. I would say that i more disgusted by bitchy rude behavior that mimics a cheerleader rather than a guy who is girly. I think men confuse this. They think that dating or sex with a girly guy means they are somewhat what that girly guy is. Those girly men often drive your rights because they are visible and constantly the subject of scorn from straights and gay men. It's basically misogyny. And it's learned from heterosexuals who think being gay automatically means you are a wannabe female. and females are weak.


    So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. You will find a huge goldmine of dating and sex opportunities.

    I will date a femme guy if he is masculine in features.. but will stop short at drag.. and women perfume because it's disgusting to me(dislike the fragrance)... but even if he does do drag.. he is not a woman.

    Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing. So i'm ok with being called "gurl" eventhough i have a dick.


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    HAHA thank you for the back-up
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    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic. I'm attracted to masculine men.. scruff... musculature... box features but if a guy has a bit of sugar in his tank.. oh the fuck well. It's no big deal. Because i think it says more about me than it does about them... that there is something about them being completely over the radar gay. It's like homophobic straight men who fear they are or can be perceived as gay...they object to other gay men because they so strongly fear the consequences of being perceived as a gay man based on social stigmas that are attached to gay men. Guys who are so opposed to femme guys to the point that they shut themselves off from femme guys and will make statements like the OP immediately, to me at least, come off as if they fear being seen as femme themselves. And all the repercussions attached.

    It's better and less stressful to just take men as they come.. see them for who they are at the moment you meet and get to know them. I would say that i more disgusted by bitchy rude behavior that mimics a cheerleader rather than a guy who is girly. I think men confuse this. They think that dating or sex with a girly guy means they are somewhat what that girly guy is. Those girly men often drive your rights because they are visible and constantly the subject of scorn from straights and gay men. It's basically misogyny. And it's learned from heterosexuals who think being gay automatically means you are a wannabe female. and females are weak.


    So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. You will find a huge goldmine of dating and sex opportunities.

    I will date a femme guy if he is masculine in features.. but will stop short at drag.. and women perfume because it's disgusting to me(dislike the fragrance)... but even if he does do drag.. he is not a woman.

    Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing. So i'm ok with being called "gurl" eventhough i have a dick.


    Dude you need to calm down and re-read the VERY FIRST sentence in the VERY FIRST paragraph that I wrote. I never said there was anything wrong with it, I just personally don't understand ( I said that in the first paragraph too). Me not understanding something does not make me a fem hater. Its ridiculous how asking a completely innocent question can automatically make me a hateful bad person. Its like no matter how nicely I put it, someone will always find a way to turn you into the "bad guy". GTF outta here bro. Im sure the gay activist you refereed to in your last paragraph would rather you educate me on the subject instead of using my question as a reason to get all pissed off.


    yeah i read it and it was just a sentence to me in order to not get instantly flamed. Everything afterwards.. the actual content of your words said everything that was femmiphobic and painted you as such. Just because you think of putting a disclaimer doesn't mean that anyone is going to disregard everything afterwards just because you thought to write one sentence which is contrary to everything else you wrote.

    So i read. Double. I read your words. And read you.

    and what?


    ** it's like saying...

    I don't mean to be racist.. this is not racist.. but.... why are black dudes so desperate for my white ass? They are so cheep.

    The afterwords are SO much more than just preface. You are expecting someone to be dumb.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:37 PM GMT
    I don't know if the gays I like are effeminate or not, I am attracted to such a diverse range of guys that I can't seem to just pick a type or stick with any one kinda guy.

    But the guys I've dated or been most attracted to have had a few qualities.

    A really nice smile, a very gentle nature, liked to laugh and talk a lot and very intelligent.

    The guys who have turned me off the most are the ones who are hyper masculine or try to be, that whole I'm a man I'm going to act like it crap really just makes me uninterested in a massive way.

    Physically they've been all over the place, super skinny and taller then me, to short squat little fellas that carried a little extra weight and everything inbetween. They haven't had soft features that could be considered effeminate or at least I don't think they have but they've not had that hyper masculine crap a lot of gay guys try to pull off.

    I take a guy as he comes as long as he comes across as being who he actually is rather then being a type of guy masculine or feminine when they hold true to who they really are that's when I find them attractive and these people truly are so easy to spot that it's so disappointing that there are so few of them.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:39 PM GMT
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
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    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    it can be discussed it's just that it's open and people can dissent and call it out as femmephobic. and i did. It can totally be discussed. I discussed back. He gave his opinion and i gave mine.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    JackKash said
    Scruffypup said
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    it can be discussed it's just that it's open and people can dissent and call it out as femmephobic. and i did. It can totally be discussed. I discussed back. He gave his opinion and i gave mine.


    So pretty much like I said... no matter what I say, asking this question makes me a fem haters.. Whatever dude. If you don't have anything constructive to say you can just go find another thread to troll. I asked a litigate question, that my brothers and I wanted the answer to. I couldn't sensitize it anymore than I already did when I originally asked the question. You can throw all the labels you want on me but in my eyes I did nothing wrong. Your one of those gay guys that find every question offensive, Your setting the community back in more ways than you know. So at this point, I honestly don't care what you think about me or wanna call me. No need to respond to any of your future post because your way too busy finding things to get mad about instead of educating people on the differences in the community.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:54 PM GMT
    Adonis_001 said
    JackKash said
    Scruffypup said
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    it can be discussed it's just that it's open and people can dissent and call it out as femmephobic. and i did. It can totally be discussed. I discussed back. He gave his opinion and i gave mine.


    So pretty much like I said... no matter what I say, asking this question makes me a fem haters.. Whatever dude. If you don't have anything constructive to say you can just go find another thread to troll. I asked a litigate question, that my brothers and I wanted the answer to. I couldn't sensitize it anymore than I already did when I originally asked the question. You can throw all the labels you want on me but in my eyes I did nothing wrong. Your one of those gay guys that find every question offensive, Your setting the community back in more ways than you know. So at this point, I honestly don't care what you think about me or wanna call me. No need to respond to any of your future post because your way too busy finding things to get mad about instead of educating people on the differences in the community.


    You don't see it as constructive.. but it was. For you...constructive means it plays into your agenda. I'm just saying read into what i am saying and hopefully it can inform you differently. This is not trolling. This is seriously having a discussion with you about what it means to lop a type of person into category and say "why would you want a guy who acted like woman, just be with a woman.". It's not black and white and there are other things at play. My post just questions you. Trolling is... just to disrupt your train of thought and the thread and be an ass without any rhyme or reason. My point is valid, i think. And i hope you just question your words and how you sum up people. and i hate to "go there" but you are black too... fighting against stereotypes probably and gay as well. The fact you have these ideas plays heavily into that. How others are going to read your opinions and why you have them in the first place.

    and I am educating you. I have said some pretty true things about the community yet you did not read them. astoundingly.
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:07 AM GMT
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    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    it can be discussed it's just that it's open and people can dissent and call it out as femmephobic. and i did. He gave his opinion and i gave mine.



    I see your point. I think you're a RACIST! And that opinion has no more basis in reality than you calling him a femiphobe. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    Thank you.. I wasnt trying to be disrespectful or hurt anyones feelings. I was just asking a question. I honestly dont know how else I could have worded the question to not come off as an asshole. He makes it seem like the topic cant even be discussed. Thats why there isnt a good understanding of different communities now. People are too afraid to ask a simple question because someone is always in a rush to jump on your back an label you as some type of hater. About half of my base has asked me this question and I didnt have an answer for them. That is why I came here. Imagine if I would have been a douchbag to them like this guys is being. What image would I be portraying to them? especially since im the only gay guy most of them even know. That is what breeds homophobia because people naturally fear things they dont understand.. But whatever, you cant satisfy everyone.icon_neutral.gif
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    Scruffypup said
    JackKash said
    Scruffypup said
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    it can be discussed it's just that it's open and people can dissent and call it out as femmephobic. and i did. He gave his opinion and i gave mine.



    I see your point. I think you're a RACIST! And that opinion has no more basis in reality than you calling him a femiphobe. icon_rolleyes.gif


    then i think you are racist.. because you have no idea what a racist is if you think such based on my words.
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    Scruffypup said
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    Thank you.. I wasnt trying to be disrespectful or hurt anyones feelings. I was just asking a question. I honestly dont know how else I could have worded the question to not come off as an asshole. He makes it seem like the topic cant even be discussed. Thats why there isnt a good understanding of different communities now. People are too afraid to ask a simple question because someone is always in a rush to jump on your back an label you as some type of hater. About half of my base has asked me this question and I didnt have an answer for them. That is why I came here. Imagine if I would have been a douchbag to them like this guys is being. What image am I portraying them. That is what breeds homophobia because people naturally fear things they dont understand.. But whatever, you cant satisfy everyone.icon_neutral.gif



    everything you said was homophobic. am i the only one who saw this? You said everything a straight uneducated guy would say.
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
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    then i think you are racist.. because you have no idea what a racist is if you think such based on my words.



    Ummm.....I don't actually think you're a racist. I was merely pointing out that just because a person spouts off an opinion, doesn't make it justified.
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    Scruffypup said
    JackKash said
    Scruffypup said
    JackKash saidThis is SO femmiphobic.....So i suggest letting up and seeing men for being men..whether they lisp or not. expanding your notion of what homosexuality and being a male means. Femme men paved the way for gay rights.. so i give them much respect and were pretty kind to me as i came out of the closet and moved to SF with nothing.



    Wow dude. I think the OP was pretty respectful. Seems like you're implying that the subject cannot even be discussed, which I find ridiculous. It's a public forum, so we should be able to discuss anything as long as it's done respectfully, and I think the OP was careful to do that.


    it can be discussed it's just that it's open and people can dissent and call it out as femmephobic. and i did. He gave his opinion and i gave mine.



    I see your point. I think you're a RACIST! And that opinion has no more basis in reality than you calling him a femiphobe. icon_rolleyes.gif


    You keep this up.. the next thing you know, your gonna be a racist femmiphobe. lmfao icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
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    then i think you are racist.. because you have no idea what a racist is if you think such based on my words.



    Ummm.....I don't actually think you're a racist. I was merely pointing out that just because a person spouts off an opinion, doesn't make it justified.


    ok... my last point is... read his words...where they are based.


    I heard that when i was in Texas from a straight dude almost verbatim. That's it. I'm done. My point isn't really to argue.. my point is to make my point. and i've made it. done.
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:23 AM GMT
    Okay, so I think we've paid enough attention to the hi-jacker. Back to topic...

    I don't think there is any one answer for this, as I'm sure all the men who are attracted to fem types have their own reasons. But like you, I do find it puzzling to reject females and yet go after a man who acts like a female. I can tell you that I have met several guys who went with fems, CD's and such, that did so because it comforted their insecurities about their masculinity. I've noticed that oftentimes the men who're into fems are either in the closet or had a difficult time coming out and are still working through some issues. That being said, I'm sure there are some guys who are truly attracted to these types in the same way you and I are attracted to masculine guys. I think it's probably different for each guy.
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:32 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidOkay, so I think we've paid enough attention to the hi-jacker. Back to topic...

    I don't think there is any one answer for this, as I'm sure all the men who are attracted to fem types have their own reasons. But like you, I do find it puzzling to reject females and yet go after a man who acts like a female. I can tell you that I have met several guys who went with fems, CD's and such, that did so because it comforted their insecurities about their masculinity. I've noticed that oftentimes the men who're into fems are either in the closet or had a difficult time coming out and are still working through some issues. That being said, I'm sure there are some guys who are truly attracted to these types in the same way you and I are attracted to masculine guys. I think it's probably different for each guy.


    O ok cool, thats interesting. Thanks for the response
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    Scruffypup saidOkay, so I think we've paid enough attention to the hi-jacker. Back to topic...

    I don't think there is any one answer for this, as I'm sure all the men who are attracted to fem types have their own reasons. But like you, I do find it puzzling to reject females and yet go after a man who acts like a female. I can tell you that I have met several guys who went with fems, CD's and such, that did so because it comforted their insecurities about their masculinity. I've noticed that oftentimes the men who're into fems are either in the closet or had a difficult time coming out and are still working through some issues. That being said, I'm sure there are some guys who are truly attracted to these types in the same way you and I are attracted to masculine guys. I think it's probably different for each guy.


    I can agree with the rest but not the bolded statement.


    that statement is so rooted in misogyny and homophobia.
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    Scruffypup saidOkay, so I think we've paid enough attention to the hi-jacker. Back to topic...

    I don't think there is any one answer for this, as I'm sure all the men who are attracted to fem types have their own reasons. But like you, I do find it puzzling to reject females and yet go after a man who acts like a female. I can tell you that I have met several guys who went with fems, CD's and such, that did so because it comforted their insecurities about their masculinity. I've noticed that oftentimes the men who're into fems are either in the closet or had a difficult time coming out and are still working through some issues. That being said, I'm sure there are some guys who are truly attracted to these types in the same way you and I are attracted to masculine guys. I think it's probably different for each guy.


    I can agree with the rest but not the bolded statement.



    I said "I have met several ...". That was not a blanket statement.