Being gay in college.

  • jcivan

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    Aug 03, 2012 11:02 PM GMT
    So Im 20 and starting college at a different university, and I feel nervous which is wiered because that is not me at all! Also the whole gay thing is on my mind! any thoughts? Never really had a gay guy friend back home, all my guy friends are straight (as far as I know) and they are kool with me and all but never really talked about gay things. any thoughts maybe theres more gay guys out here, or Im really dumb to notice when a guy is gay or what? let me konw what ya'll think don't judge me lol
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:17 PM GMT
    What university will you be attending?
  • jcivan

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    Aug 03, 2012 11:22 PM GMT
    Dallas
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    Aug 04, 2012 12:41 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidThe only gay things to talk about are guys you like or guys who like you. That's it. It's the same as your straight friends talking about their girlfriends or people they want to be girlfriends with.

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    Not really sure what the OP's asking, but...
    jcivan saidmaybe theres more gay guys out here

    Yes there most likely will be.
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    Aug 04, 2012 1:46 AM GMT
    I'll be starting my freshmen year in college this fall. Im sorta nervous about how I will tell my roommates I am gay, assuming I'll tell them, along with telling my college friends. Any tips? I assume just tell when I feel ready and comfortable doing so.
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    Aug 04, 2012 1:59 AM GMT
    Doesn't everyone become gay when they go to college? Like part of the self discovery you denied yourself in high school all cum to a height, and bam, all the guys who are gay get to roam free like wolves in a hen house! Ahh, memories! icon_razz.gificon_cool.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    JR_RJ saidDoesn't everyone become gay when they go to college? Like part of the self discovery you denied yourself in high school all cum to a height, and bam, all the guys who are gay get to roam free like wolves in a hen house! Ahh, memories! icon_razz.gificon_cool.gificon_twisted.gif


    I wish that I had come out sooner... I was 6 months to finishing my program before I did. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Be open and honest with people. I had an uber conservative roommate freshman year and we never had any problems about my sexuality. I was the first openly gay person he knew. Some of the questions might be awkward, but try to field them accordingly.
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:24 AM GMT
    Dude you're going to school in dallas, you should have no problem being gay at all
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:28 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidDude you're going to school in dallas, you should have no problem being gay at all


    LMAO..(Heee Haww)
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    intensity69 said
    JR_RJ saidDoesn't everyone become gay when they go to college? Like part of the self discovery you denied yourself in high school all cum to a height, and bam, all the guys who are gay get to roam free like wolves in a hen house! Ahh, memories! icon_razz.gificon_cool.gificon_twisted.gif


    I wish that I had come out sooner... I was 6 months to finishing my program before I did. icon_sad.gif
    I wish I had come out in high school. I was such a hypocrite back then.
    Damn, don't feel bad guys, I came out in middle school.
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  • A_1991

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    Aug 04, 2012 2:33 AM GMT
    Haha I am in the same situation you are in dude. Just dont think about it, and do what you do. Join one of those lgbt clubs at your school or something or take one of those classes about gay history or aids. You are more likely to meet someone there that is gay probably.
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:35 AM GMT
    NormalGuy93 saidI'll be starting my freshmen year in college this fall. Im sorta nervous about how I will tell my roommates I am gay, assuming I'll tell them, along with telling my college friends. Any tips? I assume just tell when I feel ready and comfortable doing so.


    After coming out my freshmen/sophomore year of college, the one thing I can say is the less of a big deal you make it, the less of a big deal people treat it as. That is how I managed to stay an active, involved, and respected member of my fraternity at NC State.
  • jcivan

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    Aug 04, 2012 3:13 AM GMT
    Thanks for the comments! And yeah I agree it was no big deal back home, I guess just that feeling came back for some reason!
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    Aug 04, 2012 3:15 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidDude you're going to school in dallas, you should have no problem being gay at all


    haha nice! coming from a conservative country area thats good to hear
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:25 AM GMT
    NormalGuy93 saidI'll be starting my freshmen year in college this fall. Im sorta nervous about how I will tell my roommates I am gay, assuming I'll tell them, along with telling my college friends. Any tips? I assume just tell when I feel ready and comfortable doing so.


    Well I was on the DL my whole college experience and it wasn't that great. Being afraid of letting people know who I was made it hard for me to do anything social or educational because I was always trying to be careful, but really I was in fear.

    After college, I came out and now in the real world and I'm proud to not only be comfortable about being gay, but validating myself as a person.

    So what have I learned, people will radiate towards you as long as you are able to validate yourself and be comfortable with who you are.

    Hope that helps!
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:27 AM GMT
    OMG, college was a cumfest. Being out in college was freaking awesome. Straight boys wanting cock.. nothing better.
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    Dallas Baptist or Dallas Christian?

    Dallas is a very gay town. You'll be fine.
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
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    Daas saidOMG, college was a cumfest. Being out in college was freaking awesome. Straight boys wanting cock.. nothing better.
    I don't think that means they're straight...


    Didn't ask, didn't tell, just enjoyed the muscles, hair, cock amd swinging balls.
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    jcivan saidSo Im 20 and starting college at a different university, and I feel nervous which is wiered because that is not me at all! Also the whole gay thing is on my mind! any thoughts? Never really had a gay guy friend back home, all my guy friends are straight (as far as I know) and they are kool with me and all but never really talked about gay things. any thoughts maybe theres more gay guys out here, or Im really dumb to notice when a guy is gay or what? let me konw what ya'll think don't judge me lol


    one fun surprise I've come across as a college student is realizing how many closeted college guys there really are. lol even if you think you're alone in being out and gay, you probably aren't, they're just hiding still.

    as someone who is "out" in college though i don't think it helps to be apologetically gay. I don't really think deep down straight people respect that kind of attitude...
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    I'm starting my undergrad now as a 23 year old gay man and as much as it sucks to be a freshman and feel "old" compared to the 17 y/olds sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. Be confident!! I am! Talk about the things you like and be positive about your college experience. Remember this is YOUR experience. You don't want to look back with regret. As obnoxious as that student body president is-he's right, either join a club or some intramural game but get involved! It's the best way to meet people. If you know how to carry on casual conversation then YOU GOOD SON! Sending positive energy all the way to my fellow homos who are feeling a bit odd about their place. Seats all taken? Make room fo' yoself!
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    Callummm saidI'm starting my undergrad now as a 23 year old gay man and as much as it sucks to be a freshman and feel "old" compared to the 17 y/olds sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do.

    And I thought I was old being 19 for a first-year. It didn't help meeting a 15 year old during registration.
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    U North Texas? I know somebody that went there. He loved it, but he was straight, and I'm not sure what Denton as a culture is like. I think you'll survive though.
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:54 AM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Daas said
    Trollileo said
    Daas saidOMG, college was a cumfest. Being out in college was freaking awesome. Straight boys wanting cock.. nothing better.
    I don't think that means they're straight...


    Didn't ask, didn't tell, just enjoyed the muscles fat, hair shaved pubes, cock cunts and swinging balls handbags.
    Fixed for my appropriate situation.
    Trolli you are straight. This is a site for gay men and maybe a bi patsy. Gtfo. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:54 AM GMT
    Ahh I'm like you! I'm headed to college in 3 weeks. Moving from SoFlo to Chicago! It is scary but exciting! I wish you the best of luck man. Just make sure to be smart and safe and think things through before doing them! GOOD LUCK! icon_wink.gif