not having sex !!

  • SamSam

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    Aug 03, 2012 11:07 PM GMT
    so i am 21 and i have had an amazing sex life i used to have a good roll in the hay at least once a week!! then i moved to the UK and now nothing !!! i dont know what is going on !!! i feel like i have no sex drive and i feel realy ugly because of it. my self esteem has dropped and im going crazy icon_sad.gif is this normal behaviour? i miss being close to people icon_cry.gif i have become depressed and could do with some advice.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Aug 03, 2012 11:15 PM GMT
    You look pretty ok to me from your pics ... maybe being in a place where everybody speaks different from you is intimidating ... you are still learning the culture ... if you'll be there long, give yourself a little time. Change is difficult and takes time. You go though all sorts of feelings from excitement to depression. Once you become accustomed to the culture, you'll be okay. It would be weird if you could go from one place to another and not experience any sort of emotional issues.
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidTry not having an erection in over a month and then tell me how you feel.


    this happened to you? ouch
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    Aug 03, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    So your self esteem is based on how much you get laid..??
    Well then...You Can Just Call Me Gollum.!! icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 6:00 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidTry not having an erection in over a month and then tell me how you feel.


    My friend in the army says they put stuff in the eggs that do that...
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    Aug 04, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who freaks out and gets depressed about not having sex for a week. Those are some red flags for me icon_rolleyes.gif
  • SamSam

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    Aug 04, 2012 10:10 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidSo your self esteem is based on how much you get laid..??
    Well then...You Can Just Call Me Gollum.!! icon_eek.gif


    no but sleeping with people is a reminder that i am atractive and am wanted. i just miss the physical contact.


  • SamSam

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    Aug 04, 2012 10:14 AM GMT
    FilmGuy19_notporn saidI wouldn't want to have sex with someone who freaks out and gets depressed about not having sex for a week. Those are some red flags for me icon_rolleyes.gif


    i am not claiming to be the most sane person in this world, i suffer from depression alot and i try to keep myself above the danger zone. i fight to keep happy its a hell of a lot better then just sitting at home all day just soaking in my own hate all day and everyday.
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    Aug 04, 2012 11:31 AM GMT
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    FilmGuy19_notporn saidI wouldn't want to have sex with someone who freaks out and gets depressed about not having sex for a week. Those are some red flags for me icon_rolleyes.gif


    i am not claiming to be the most sane person in this world, i suffer from depression alot and i try to keep myself above the danger zone. i fight to keep happy its a hell of a lot better then just sitting at home all day just soaking in my own hate all day and everyday.


    I don't think he meant anything particularly negative aimed at you, rather I think he was saying you shouldn't find your confidence in how often you have sex.
    That can be toxic to your confidence.

    Take this as a blessing in disguise, maybe this lack of attention you can place that energy somewhere else i.e. something creative you like to do in music or art etc.

    Anyway hope your depression doesn't get worse and wish you all the best icon_smile.gif
  • SamSam

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    Aug 04, 2012 1:26 PM GMT
    BRoss said
    xXvampXx said
    FilmGuy19_notporn saidI wouldn't want to have sex with someone who freaks out and gets depressed about not having sex for a week. Those are some red flags for me icon_rolleyes.gif


    i am not claiming to be the most sane person in this world, i suffer from depression alot and i try to keep myself above the danger zone. i fight to keep happy its a hell of a lot better then just sitting at home all day just soaking in my own hate all day and everyday.


    I don't think he meant anything particularly negative aimed at you, rather I think he was saying you shouldn't find your confidence in how often you have sex.
    That can be toxic to your confidence.

    Take this as a blessing in disguise, maybe this lack of attention you can place that energy somewhere else i.e. something creative you like to do in music or art etc.

    Anyway hope your depression doesn't get worse and wish you all the best icon_smile.gif


    yeah your right i was a bit snappy... i need to get out and train some circus and get my creative juices flowing again.
  • Romerolax

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    Aug 04, 2012 1:33 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos said
    Trollileo saidTry not having an erection in over a month and then tell me how you feel.


    My friend in the army says they put stuff in the eggs that do that...


    yes true thats called camfor oil
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    Aug 04, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    Why are you in need of.."Constant External Reinforcement"
    ..You are a sexy man..get a hobby..and get yourself a monagamous partner!
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    Aug 04, 2012 1:51 PM GMT
    You need to find a boyfriend icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 1:53 PM GMT
    See your doctor.
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    Aug 04, 2012 2:31 PM GMT
    You need to have sex with a doctor, then make him your boyfriend and get an appt; then tell us how it goes... icon_biggrin.gif
  • Cdnontherun

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    Aug 04, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    I agree with the advice about seeing a doctor. If you already have a problem with depression, the weather or lack of intense light in England could be making the problem worse. The lack of sex drive and difficulty reaching out to people are both symptoms of depression. You may be suffering from SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder, and this will get worse when winter kicks in. Chronic depression is a chemical imbalance that can easily be treated. Good luck!
  • kew1

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    Aug 04, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    LondonColin saidYou need to find a boyfriend icon_smile.gif


    Good grief, someone local on hereicon_eek.gif

  • SamSam

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    Aug 04, 2012 9:35 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidWhy are you in need of.."Constant External Reinforcement"
    ..You are a sexy man..get a hobby..and get yourself a monagamous partner!


    i train circus as often as i can and i am looking for mr right but its sortta hard if i cant get close to anyone on an emotional level. i would love to have a partner.
  • SamSam

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    Aug 04, 2012 9:40 PM GMT
    Cdnontherun saidI agree with the advice about seeing a doctor. If you already have a problem with depression, the weather or lack of intense light in England could be making the problem worse. The lack of sex drive and difficulty reaching out to people are both symptoms of depression. You may be suffering from SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder, and this will get worse when winter kicks in. Chronic depression is a chemical imbalance that can easily be treated. Good luck!


    i hope its not SAD coz its summer is the time of year that i florish in usualy. tho to be fair its not a summer like in australia. i dont wanna go to the docs and go on meds again. the medication always screws me around more when im on them then when im not. *sigh* i guess i just need to man the fuck up again and try harder. cheers for all your help and advice guys
  • Beeftastic

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    Aug 04, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    Grindr?
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    Aug 04, 2012 9:47 PM GMT
    I havent had sex in 9 months!
  • SamSam

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    Aug 04, 2012 9:51 PM GMT
    tuckers_kahuna saidGrindr?


    i lost my phone 2 weeks ago now i am stuck with a brick phone. no grinder icon_sad.gif but i got snake 2 icon_biggrin.gif