Why do I fall for everyone I hook up with ????:/

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    Aug 04, 2012 4:52 PM GMT
    Hey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!
  • Karl

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    Aug 04, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    dont do hookup again icon_confused.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 04, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    You just need to find a boyfriend. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    I agree with Karl. don't hook up again. Some people can handle hook ups without emotional attachment. You're not one of them.

    btw...Your profile says 'monogamous relationship'.
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:05 PM GMT
    You're a rookie that's why
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:07 PM GMT
    As you arrange the dirty details your hookup, see if they're catching the same feelings about you that you are for him. I'd venture a guess that most of what you're feeling is a byproduct of anxiety. Often it's good not to pounce right away, so give yourself and your momentary partner a little time together first.

    If you're anticipating that you might be interested in more than wham-bam-thank-you-sir action, offer to go to eat or get a drink first. Or meet up somewhere (e.g., a park bench) where you BOTH have to walk back to the house/car together.

    The more pre-nookie time you have together, the greater chance you'll have to create more value out of your overall interaction. Through your discourse, you both might figure out that going any further than the mattress would be a waste of your time. Or he might turn you on even more, who knows?
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    Iceblink saidI agree with Karl. don't hook up again. Some people can handle hook ups without emotional attachment. You're not one of them.

    btw...Your profile says 'monogamous relationship'.


    Yeah profile a bit old gotta change that
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:08 PM GMT
    How many more posts before our favorite street sign appears? icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!


    Considering your profile

    Age: 20
    First location: Johannesburg, Gauteng, South Africa
    Relationship Status: Monogamous Relationship
    Looking for: Friends, Training Buddies


    I'm putting my money on guilt.
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    Aug 04, 2012 6:11 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!


    Considering your profile

    Age: 20
    First location: Johannesburg, Gauteng, South Africa
    Relationship Status: Monogamous Relationship
    Looking for: Friends, Training Buddies


    I'm putting my money on guilt.


    Please read my reply on the thread ... Thanks
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    Aug 04, 2012 7:42 PM GMT
    dayumm saidHow many more posts before our favorite street sign appears? icon_razz.gif

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    Aug 04, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    I got a solution. Don't hook up icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 7:53 PM GMT
    msuNtx saidI got a solution. Don't hook up icon_smile.gif
    Then he'll fall for everyone he dates... then again, maybe the other guy will too... icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    You're young and desperate. Try dating instead.
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:00 PM GMT
    Op several different factors can contribute to 'these feelings'

    A)..you are young..and a little naieve..
    B)..You lack the ability to separate sex from love..
    C)..You really , really. really wan't to be in love..
    D)...Or you could be hooking up with really nice guys ..that just want sex!
    Why can't you date or court a single guy that is worth your time and affection??..Then jump in the sack??
    BTW..How good in bed are these guys your'e hooking up with..??
    msg me names and addresses please..i'd like to do a little field work ..on your behalf..icon_biggrin.gif
    Hugz
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidYeah profile a bit old gotta change that
    IT ISN'T CHANGED YET HONEY.
    299729ca4fe8fc4568e0ed9b7bb4629b5f778b5c
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    You haven't hooked up with me yet.
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:12 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidYou haven't hooked up with me yet.


    Yeah, that should end this streak he's on about.
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidOp several different factors can contribute to 'these feelings'

    A)..you are young..and a little naieve..
    B)..You lack the ability to separate sex from love..
    C)..You really , really. really wan't to be in love..
    D)...Or you could be hooking up with really nice guys ..that just want sex!
    Why can't you date or court a single guy that is worth your time and affection??..Then jump in the sack??
    BTW..How good in bed are these guys your'e hooking up with..??
    msg me names and addresses please..i'd like to do a little field work ..on your behalf..icon_biggrin.gif
    Hugz


    That post was HOT! icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidOp several different factors can contribute to 'these feelings'

    A)..you are young..and a little naieve..
    B)..You lack the ability to separate sex from love..
    C)..You really , really. really wan't to be in love..
    D)...Or you could be hooking up with really nice guys ..that just want sex!
    Why can't you date or court a single guy that is worth your time and affection??..Then jump in the sack??
    BTW..How good in bed are these guys your'e hooking up with..??
    msg me names and addresses please..i'd like to do a little field work ..on your behalf..icon_biggrin.gif
    Hugz


    I say it's all four. At least that's the way it was for me when I was 20.
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:26 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!



    I see your conflict, but I guess it's better than if you were hooking up with people who disgust you. I'm not a fan of the "hook up," but if it happens, you'd hope it was with someone you could at least imagine developing deeper feelings for, no? So, in that way, count yourself lucky.
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:27 PM GMT
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    dayumm saidHow many more posts before our favorite street sign appears? icon_razz.gif

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    Whoot! There it is! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!
    because you want more. until you can separate your emotional side from the hookup this will always happen. i would say just j/o until you can learn to separate your emotions away from hooking up
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!


    it could be how you handle your hormones. Some people bond to anything that gives them endorphin rushes. More or less you need to be setting up sex with people that will come back again (tough to tell I know).
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    Aug 04, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    Zimboi123 saidHey guys I'm having such a problem ...

    Every time I hook up with a guy even for sex ..I always seem to get feelings for them straight after I leave .. I can't stop thinking about them ??

    Is it because I'm too young ..
    Am I the only one that this happens too ? And how do I get over this bad habit ...
    Please help !!!


    Maybe you're one of those people who are incapable of just hooking up. It might be a really good idea if you stopped hooking up for a while.